A disadvantage of being fit

  • FRE0

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    May 27, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    Physical fitness has always been important to me. However, I realize that there are many wonderful people who are not fit, some of whom are very unfit. But because I keep myself fit and see many fit guys at the gym, unfit people seem very unattractive to me. Sometimes I even feel guilty about that.

    Can anyone else relate to this?
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    May 27, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    You can be responsible only for what you do, say, and feel.

    You are choosing to feel guilty about their choices. That makes no sense. You have chosen to be fit, and you should enjoy the benefits of it. If your friends and family choose to be unfit, you should allow them to either enjoy that choice or allow themselves to be inspired otherwise (perhaps even by your own example of the benefits).

    You can choose to lay this particular burden down - whether you do or not is, of course, your choice.
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    May 27, 2012 11:19 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidYou can be responsible only for what you do, say, and feel.

    You are choosing to feel guilty about their choices. That makes no sense. You have chosen to be fit, and you should enjoy the benefits of it. If your friends and family choose to be unfit, you should allow them to either enjoy that choice or allow themselves to be inspired otherwise (perhaps even by your own example of the benefits).

    You can choose to lay this particular burden down - whether you do or not is, of course, your choice.


    You've obviously chosen to be fit and have been successful in doing so. I do which more people would choose to be fit.
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    May 27, 2012 11:21 PM GMT
    FRE0 saidPhysical fitness has always been important to me. However, I realize that there are many wonderful people who are not fit, some of whom are very unfit. But because I keep myself fit and see many fit guys at the gym, unfit people seem very unattractive to me. Sometimes I even feel guilty about that.

    Can anyone else relate to this?

    Nope, but I think you could use this as the platform to run as mayor of crazy town.
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    May 28, 2012 12:45 AM GMT
    I'm trying to relate to being 74 and in that great shape!
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    May 28, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    Why should feel guilty? You're the one who has paid the price in time and effort to stay fit, done without etc.
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    May 28, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    Nope.... i'm only attracted to other fit guys.... and i don't feel guilty at all. I had my struggles early in life.... whereas most have them later. The only problem i have is when i do go to the doctor they don't take you seriously....aaaahhhhh
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    May 28, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    The only disadvantage to being fit is ...


    ...


    I'll get back to ya on that.
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    May 28, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    Caslon19000 saidI'm trying to relate to being 74 and in that great shape!



    Yes, it is very impressive.
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    May 28, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe only disadvantage to being fit is ...


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    I'll get back to ya on that.



    you have to buy a whole new wardrobe? (that was weak, i admit it)
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    May 28, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    FRE0 saidPhysical fitness has always been important to me. However, I realize that there are many wonderful people who are not fit, some of whom are very unfit. But because I keep myself fit and see many fit guys at the gym, unfit people seem very unattractive to me. Sometimes I even feel guilty about that.

    Can anyone else relate to this?

    I feel the same way and I'm not even fit yet. You can't control what you're attracted to so don't feel bad about something you can't control.
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    May 28, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    Yes, it's a horrible burden to bare...but someone's gotta do it icon_lol.gif
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    May 28, 2012 4:38 AM GMT
    I try to be respectful to anyone I'm not interested in dating but keep an open mind about being their friends. I sometimes feel bad for the people you don't eat healthy and workout because they're not living their lives as fully as they could but it's their choice to live how they wish.
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    May 28, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    The disadvantage of being fit is that you have a higher chance of being a douchemonger because you think that you're entitled to something that unfit people are not.
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    May 28, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    Anduru saidThe disadvantage of being fit is that you have a higher chance of being a douchemonger because you think that you're entitled to something that unfit people are not.


    Actually, I don't feel entitled, but it would sure be nice if there were more fit people around.
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    May 28, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    Anduru saidThe disadvantage of being fit is that you have a higher chance of being a douchemonger because you think that you're entitled to something that unfit people are not.


    We actually *are* entitled to judge lardos unworthy of our gaze.
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    May 28, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    FRE0 said
    Anduru saidThe disadvantage of being fit is that you have a higher chance of being a douchemonger because you think that you're entitled to something that unfit people are not.
    Actually, I don't feel entitled, but it would sure be nice if there were more fit people around.
    It was a general reference, not specific to you.
    More specific to paulflexes if anyone.
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    May 28, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    and yet you are the same asshole who judges those who cruise . . .

    hmm .. .
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    May 28, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    noren saidand yet you are the same asshole who judges those who cruise . . .
    hmm .. .
    Who, me? If so, you've got me and firebrand mixed up buddy.
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    May 28, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    You're too experienced to be feeling so immaturely about your outward appearance... Are you in need of some friends on this site, cause we're cool for that; or are you making fun of fit guys inability to see past themselves? I'm very analytical, and somehow you don't seem to be the irrational type. icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif
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    May 28, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidYes, it's a horrible burden to bare...but someone's gotta do it icon_lol.gif


    I agree with Todd. In a country where 35% of the population is obese, we the fit must be a light of hope for those who are not.
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    May 28, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    FRE0 said
    Asshat said...blabber removed because of asshatishness...


    Actually, I don't feel entitled, but it would sure be nice if there were more fit people around.


    I agree. And, it would make for a much more robust economy with less costs to all.
    From the CDC website...In 2008, medical costs associated with obesity were estimated at $147 billion; the medical costs paid by third-party payors for people who are obese were $1,429 higher than those of normal weight.


    This means that those of us who are fit, are subsidizing the "risk-pool" for those who are not. IMHO, people who are obese should pay higher health insurance premiums or get their weight under control.

    I know that sounds harsh, but it's like smoking. It's a choice.
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    May 28, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    FRE0 saidPhysical fitness has always been important to me. However, I realize that there are many wonderful people who are not fit, some of whom are very unfit. But because I keep myself fit and see many fit guys at the gym, unfit people seem very unattractive to me. Sometimes I even feel guilty about that.

    Can anyone else relate to this?


    I think there a bit of reading between lines required here to fully understand what FRE0 means- without him coming off smug... I'm reading his post as "I feel sorry for other 74 year olds who are utter geezers. Look at me, i'm not a geezer.. well at least MUCH of a geezer. I can open up my bottle of asprin and can remember my own name.I'm not shitting on myself."

    THATS what i'm reading.. of course that just me.

    and if thats the case, i can see that. A sort of survivors guilt.

    If thats at all not the case, it comes off pretty arrogant, something a 16 year old would say.
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    May 28, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI'm just pretty sure the aliens are coming. And when they do, I want to be able to run faster than my neighbours. A few month's delay, as they're filling up on fatties, could be the time we need to figure out how to win this thing.


    It's like choosing between eating "skinny quail" and a "fat turkey".

    Too many bones for so little to eat.

    (Unless they are calcium based life-forms)
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    May 28, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    beneful1 saidWhy should feel guilty? You're the one who has paid the price in time and effort to stay fit, done without etc.


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    Could not agree more. You set high standards for yourself and worked to achieve them, so it's okay that you've set high standards for your potential partners or what you find attractive. Nothing wrong with that.