Life dilemma...what should I do?

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    May 28, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    Here's the deal. I'm 21 years old (turning 22 this summer) and I'm really just not happy with my life.

    I should have graduated this semester, but because I've changed majors and transferred schools so many times, I am now behind. I'm currently trying to get my Bachelor's degree in Biology and then plan on applying to Pharmacy school, or my school's Physician Assistant program. However, I'm not sure if that is really what I want to do. I work as a Pharmacy Tech at CVS now, and the job is really boring. The people I work with make it fun, but I don't know if it's something I'd want to do my entire life.

    My true passion is the music industry. I know a lot of people want to get into it, and there's not many jobs, but I'd love get an internship and do some kind of work for a record label, or anything like that. I've always wanted to move down to Nashville and go to Belmont University for their Music Business program (I love Nashville and country music).

    Everyone tells me not to do it, and that I won't have a job. But I see my cousin who goes to NYU and is majoring in Sports Management, get an internship to work something for the Super Bowl. If he can do something cool like that, why shouldn't I do what I really want to?

    I'm just scared because my parents are already frustrated with me changing my career path and schools so many times, and I care (maybe too much) about what my other family members will think as well. It would also be kind of hard for me to afford an apartment, unless I can somehow find a roommate and get a job down there working part time while I go to school...

    I'm just sick of boring Long Island, commuting to my shitty little school with an undergraduate class of like 10 people and barely having any friends. Not to mention my terrible job in a retail pharmacy. I just need a change of scenery, because I've been pretty depressed lately. I definitely would have made the decision to go away to school right out of high school if I could go back in time. It just sucks seeing others get to really experience life to the fullest, and I feel like I'm stuck in my little bubble doing the same thing every day.

    When it comes to making life-changing decisions, how important are your families' opinions? Do you take what other people might think into consideration?
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    May 28, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    If you don't follow your dreams, somebody else will.
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    May 28, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    I'd say from my own personal experience that at this age you need to be experimenting and trying stuff, you never know what can happen. You should finish getting your degree (since you already started that and I firmly believe finish what you started) and then explore the music industry a bit... hopefully you're qualified or whatever.

    Just make sure that you know what you're doing, your parents will be more interested and supportive if you tell them a concise plan of action. If you don't even know how you plan to get from point A to B, then you shouldn't even bother. So go make sure you know what to do to get where you want to be then do it.

    Goodluck!
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    May 28, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    A few points to offer..
    - You're young, so you can afford to take big risks in your career/education right now.
    - Network, network, network. These days it's all about who you know, and not what you know. In every industry.
    - Always have a back up plan.
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    May 28, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    i know you may be pursuing an education, and a tough one, that is not your passion or your dream and what you fear will be a mistake and and maybe prevent you from realizing your dreams, but many successful people started out that way. I know of a pharmacist who grew a multi million dollar company creating and then selling what she had a real passion and love for. Her business sells over 30 million dollars a year in something she created, But, ironically she still works as a pharmacist.

    The point here is that she made her dream a reality and lives it, even though she still has her roots in pushing drugs, but many people move on from their educations or use them to assist them to realize their dreams. Jody Foster, an actress, completed her degree. Arnold whats his name, got a degree unrelated to acting (obviously) but your educational degree can be your security and your key to future successes, assuming you aren't discovered and escape the hard work that most people put into their lives to make their dreams come true!! whether or not they are successful at it, sometimes doesn't even matter as long as you are doing something that you love, knowing you can still pay the bills at the end of the day. Life changes ever.

    Don't be discouraged and don't feel that you will be forced to give up now because this is not the deciding moment in your life - it doesn't HAVE to be the deciding moment. consider it the preparation moment - you will always have a choice, BUt at least you will have accomplished an important goal along the way that can only help you achieve other accomplishments,

    Good luck i hope you make the best decision for you.
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    May 28, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    xrichx saidA few points to offer..
    - You're young, so you can afford to take big risks in your career/education right now.
    - Network, network, network. These days it's all about who you know, and not what you know. In every industry.
    - Always have a back up plan.


    I disagree. The sooner you complete this goal the sooner you can move onto something else, with a degree to carry you forward. You have plenty of time to build your house of love. but wasting time now is just counterproductive. Don't worry - get one thing done at a time, kind of like walking. Put your left foot forward before your first.

    Good luck.
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    May 28, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    I would say follow your dreams, but if you keep changing your mind/major/school, then how is that even possible?

    First, you have to give yourself enough time and clarity to identify what it is you actually want. Why the music industry? Are you a trained musician? Do you have friends that do it? What is the connection? It's not an easy industry to break into, so you cannot do it because you want to - you do any art, because you HAVE to do it. Your life is diminished by not doing it, and that diminished state is more valuable to you than the money you could make in some other industry.

    Also, as an artist I can tell you this: It is highly unlikely that you will make a "living" doing your art, and you will have to have other skills that are capable of supporting you enough for you to be able to do your art, too. Artists are almost always well-rounded people who can get into all sorts of gigs, because they end up knowing at least a little bit about almost everything (which is why I'm such an insufferable know it all).

    So... don't do anything else that causes a change until you know what you are going to do without spinning your wheels and wasting time/money/energy. How do you know you won't change your mind about music once you see how hard it is?

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    May 28, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidYou'll never know unless you try. And you'll kick yourself a million times over for the rest of your life if you don't.


    are you suggesting he not commit and complete his degree, that could then put him where he needs to be to further his goal? I may be misunderstanding. If he doesn't prepare now he may be kicking himself a milion times over for the rest of his life that he did not or was unable to reach the most important first goal of any students life.

    Being realistic here. He is agonizing over something because he does not know if he is making the right decisions. He is torn between two worlds. He knows what he needs to do, because if he didn't, he wouldn't have posted the question here to begin with.

    Good luck man. I'm rooting for you.
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    May 28, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    dancerjack saidI would say follow your dreams, but if you keep changing your mind/major/school, then how is that even possible?

    First, you have to give yourself enough time and clarity to identify what it is you actually want. Why the music industry? Are you a trained musician? Do you have friends that do it? What is the connection? It's not an easy industry to break into, so you cannot do it because you want to - you do any art, because you HAVE to do it. Your life is diminished by not doing it, and that diminished state is more valuable to you than the money you could make in some other industry.

    Also, as an artist I can tell you this: It is highly unlikely that you will make a "living" doing your art, and you will have to have other skills that are capable of supporting you enough for you to be able to do your art, too. Artists are almost always well-rounded people who can get into all sorts of gigs, because they end up knowing at least a little bit about almost everything (which is why I'm such an insufferable know it all).

    So... don't do anything else that causes a change until you know what you are going to do without spinning your wheels and wasting time/money/energy. How do you know you won't change your mind about music once you see how hard it is?



    I'm not trying to be a musician. I want to work in the entertainment/music industry in a different capacity. More "behind the curtains" if you will. Whether it's working for a record company doing marketing or promoting artists, managing artists, scouting talent, anything like that.
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    May 28, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    Here again, I say, "What do you want to do?"

    You just listed several options without seeming more or less interested in any of them. You can't just do whatever. Do you want to work with and recruit artists directly (which has its own ups and downs), or do you want to do marketing and promotion? One option requires human resource and management skills, the other requires graphic design and marketing skills.

    You've already been non-specific enough up to this point. Get as particular as you can, so that you know how to hone your list down to the interests/skills/experiences/connections you will need.
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    May 28, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    I think that even people who look like they are pursuing their careers to the fullest are actually also having a hard time in one way or another.

    I think money will be a major limiting factor for you. It's very hard to pursue a dream from scratch without money.

    I think finishing something is motivational. I don't know what your musical talents are, but if you are close to graduating, why not finish the race since you have made an investment in it already? There is no rule that says you must work in that CVS for the rest of your life. Getting a degree will give you confidence in yourself and will give your family confidence in you and will give you a fallback plan. You have many years of work and learning ahead of you. You don't have to be stuck.

    Also, be clear about the difference between not liking your field of study and not liking your current environment.

    I'm just shooting blind here, so I could be off base since I don't know you.
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    May 28, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    How far along are you in your current major? If you've got most of your credits, I would suggest that you find a college that has both majors and are pretty reputable and double major. It might be hard but it would leave you many options and allow you to follow your music path.

    Just my 2 cents.
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    May 28, 2012 7:14 AM GMT
    Pharmacy gives you a nice 9 to 5 job with plenty of free time to make music and even cash to pay for it.
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    May 28, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidPharmacy gives you a nice 9 to 5 job with plenty of free time to make music and even cash to pay for it.


    Pharmacy is NOT a 9-5 job. My store is 24 hours, and our pharmacists work varying hours each week, and usually work long shifts (9, 10, or 12 hours with no break). Shifts can be any time (8-6, 11-9, 3-11, etc). They alternate weekends and have to share holidays too.