Friendless, gay virgin here.

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    May 28, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    Lonely times indeed. I wish I wasn't such a social retard, cause then maybe I'd be able to meet some friends or a guy. It's been this way since high school. I keep telling myself things will change but they never do.

    The awful thing about lonliness is that you never get used to it. It's like constant misery and boredom.
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    May 28, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    Can't help you here. But if it makes you feel any better, I just saved 15% by switching my auto insurance to Geico.....
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    May 28, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    icon_cry.gif Very TRUE. Guy, you have to force yourself to interact. Start slowly if you want but as hard as it may be just put yourself out there. Swim with the fish and next thing you know you will be one of them (If you know what I mean).
    True a one sided conversation is not as engaging or interesting as a 2 sided conversation. Just be yourself, go places, do things. Coming off as a victim and trying to turn everybody into something you want to meet your needs IS a pointless and lonely way of life. You be you, let eveybody else be themselves, and go with similar people and next thing you know you will forget about being lonely. Go have fun, take baby steps if necessary, Do something and you will be ok with the way things will change for you. Anyway, Lighten up, Good Luck!icon_biggrin.gif
  • mikeylikes

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    May 28, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
    can social retards tell that theyre social retards?

    i have some coworkers that are completely blind to the fact that they alienate everyone around them by being awkward. I wonder how they don't notice people laughing uncomfortably at every story and running away at the first chance.
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    May 28, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidCan't help you here. But if it makes you feel any better, I just saved 15% by switching my auto insurance to Geico.....



    Really? That isn't just a line they use?? Hmmmmm...
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    May 28, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
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    Force yourself to push beyond.
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    May 28, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    Boland92 saidLonely times indeed. I wish I wasn't such a social retard, cause then maybe I'd be able to meet some friends or a guy. It's been this way since high school. I keep telling myself things will change but they never do.

    The awful thing about lonliness is that you never get used to it. It's like constant misery and boredom.

    Are you going to any places where you are likely to meet guys your age? I know you can't drink yet, and the bar scene isn't always the best solution, anyway, especially when you're starting out. Do any sports, have hobby interests, like to do serious bicycling, take gym classes, have an interest in political activism?

    All these and more are not only enjoyable in themselves, but can help you to share your interest areas with others, and to start personal networking. Not always with gays but in mixed groups, too (in Fort Lauderdale there are almost no straight-only groups, except for some churches).

    At this point the important thing is for you to learn socializing skills, that you can apply in starting gay relations. So that you don't have to focus exclusively on activities that are strictly gay, like gay softball or bowling leagues, though you could certainly do those, too.

    Your big advantage is that you're living in Gay Central. The gay population density doesn't get much better than this, except maybe sections of SF. You gotta come up with activities that get you comfortable interacting with people, and the guy part will just happen, cause there are gays all around you. Pity the poor guy who lives in a small, remote farming community on the Great Plains (as I once did).
  • TheBizMan

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    May 29, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    Come on over, I have a friend I can introduce you to. He can also help you with the nasty case of virginity you have. icon_twisted.gif
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    May 29, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidCome on over, I have a friend I can introduce you to. He can also help you with the nasty case of virginity you have. icon_twisted.gif


    You're so caring icon_smile.gif

    @OP
    I agree with
    Art_DecoDo any sports, have hobby interests, like to do serious bicycling, take gym classes, have an interest in political activism?


    Group activities are always the best for socializing.
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    May 29, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    Just do what I do! Wherever you are, pick out the hottest guy and just do this:

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    Works every time
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    May 29, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    Learn to never be "alone"...even when you're by yourself.

    Reality? From my perspective, I've spent more time "by myself" than with others. I've learned to have a blast just being with me.
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    May 29, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    Awwww...if I were still in Lauderdale, I'd totally do you be your friend. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 29, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    Lash saidJust do what I do! Wherever you are, pick out the hottest guy and just do this:

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    Works every time
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  • StarrMatthieu

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    May 29, 2012 11:49 AM GMT
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    TheBizMan saidCome on over, I have a friend I can introduce you to. He can also help you with the nasty case of virginity you have. icon_twisted.gif

    thumbs UP
  • varsitybadboy

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    May 30, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    we are on the same boat! icon_neutral.gif
    which is why I kinda joined this site, lol

    Hello peeps icon_smile.gif
  • RIckyrick0

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    Jun 12, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    Man I'm the same way, i've never talked to a guy since I'm nervous and in the closet...I'm not really in a good position to talk to one in person since my fam and few friends I have are homophobic man...
  • hahahehehoho

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    Jun 13, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    well all we can really do on here is give advice, you know? I think it's up to you to really make the difference of not being lonely. Its hard to be social so its going to take a lot of courage but take it step by step icon_smile.gif. contact old friends and catch up with them. have them introduce you to their friends. get into a bigger circle slowly. good luck ^^
  • McMacster

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    Jun 13, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidDude, you're in the right place! RJ is filled with social retards! Wimps, ego maniacs, bleeders, sluts, bullies, victims --everyone is here. icon_biggrin.gif You can watch and see different styles in action; practice them, to see if any fit better than the one you're currently using....all in a nice safe environment (there are no real consequences to anything here.)

    No one was born with this knowledge...practice it. Take risks....you've got nothing to fear but fear itself.

    Oh, and as a side note: boring misery is way better than the other kind. icon_eek.gif At least you can sleep. icon_cool.gif


    lovely.
  • Bakerboy

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    Jun 16, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidCan't help you here. But if it makes you feel any better, I just saved 15% by switching my auto insurance to Geico.....
    Incredibly insensitive... but hilarious.
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    Jun 16, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    Bakerboy said
    jmusmc85 saidCan't help you here. But if it makes you feel any better, I just saved 15% by switching my auto insurance to Geico.....
    Incredibly insensitive... but hilarious.
    Actually you havent been here long enough to have witnessed the OP's games.icon_wink.gif

    You'll regret the 'insensitive' remark soon enough!icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 16, 2012 10:27 AM GMT
    OP: After reading some of your posts/threads; can't say i'm surprised.
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    Jun 16, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    I agree, some of your posts are just plain nasty, you need to be a little nicer, being a bitch is only funny for a short while, next comes bitterness, cause you'll be in your 30's soon enough and still be in the same boat. But older and more bitter cause you missed your youth being a bitch and pushing everyone away.icon_wink.gif