Ever been ridiculed for going to the gym or being muscular?

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    May 28, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    It's really interesting. As i'm getting bigger and further along in my personal goals in what i see for my body and hobby, I notice i get more and more men who actually find a way to ridicule me for being "muscly" and it catches me off guard a bit because... i often give people the benefit of doubt and think them intelligent before they prove otherwise. So when some guys says something that it is transparently envious or self deprecating as "You have too much muscle" "You a gym nut" "You have low self esteem because you go to the gym too much" or will assume i'm dumb or fit any kind of "Gym bunny" stereotype, i'm taken aback and laugh with one raised eyebrow at how dumb it is. When I don't care if some guy doesn't go to the gym, or do not retort with the obvious "Look at yourself."

    I'm never offended. I just silently stand back and note the behavior. and likelihood that if i ever talked shit about someone overweight or who never goes to the gym, or super thin i would be seen as a bully.


    It's new to me. And interesting in nature.

    Have YOU dealt with or observed this... backlash?
  • gbc59

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    May 28, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    I get backlash daily , there are 2 other gay guys in my workplace i have always played sports from a young age, still gym (sport fit not muscled) the 2 guys remind me that at 52 whats the point in keeping fit etc and that leave the gym to young guys. meanwhile they are scoffing down cream cakes n cans of coke.....and laugh at my healthy lifestyle ..
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    May 28, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
    I have had people say similar things like that over the years, actually most comments like 'too much muscle' came from girls...LOL! I mostly get positive comments and questions about working out and such these days...and I always get asked the most popular question....do you work out!icon_lol.gif Yeppp I workkk outtt!LOL!
  • fmrhugger

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    May 28, 2012 12:50 PM GMT
    They're called haters............
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    May 28, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    And they're probably jealous of how good you look, while they aren't willing to put the time and effort in themselves.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 28, 2012 1:12 PM GMT
    Not directly, more as a passing thing, which in most cases I simply ignore.

    Case in point: Have a local friend on FB.. he recently joined Planet Fitness in Wichita. He hasn't been a "gym goer" prior and I was talking to him about how important it was.

    One of his other female friends chimes in on his status after my response.

    "I think I'm going to throw up"

    I didn't respond...she wea a chub.
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    May 28, 2012 2:02 PM GMT
    Co-workers constantly make some kinda remark, they will order a pizza for lunch and ask if I want a slice, then out spews "oh I'm sorry we forgot you eat healthy and goto nhe gym everyday". Most of the time I respond with a funny sarcastic remark..... other day this one HUGE slob that weighs 400+pounds. made a comment and I kinda snapped and quiped back, and that's why I don't have diabetes or heart issues and will probably live twice as long as you
  • fitone

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    May 28, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    A guy at the shower at the public pool said he thought I was over muscled and he preferred slim. He was slim with flabby muscles. I should have asked him why he thought I cared about his opinion!
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    May 28, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    Usually I get comments when people are eating donuts or something they know they shouldn't be. It's a way of justifying their guilt.

    Especially when I pass on the delicious pastries.

    I just ignore it.

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    May 28, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    One incredibly low class, immature guy at my job would keep making fun of me in front of everyone at the office about how I was going to the gym. No matter how I ignored him he wouldn't stop. One day I lost it and in front of everyone told him how he was a low-life piece of ghetto trash with the maturity level of a two year old and would never amount to anything in his life and to get off my fucking back. He hasn't bothered me since.
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    May 28, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    Its funny how its the unhealthy people that comment on that type of stuff. I have put on about 35lbs of muscle in the last 7 or 8 months and its a noticeable difference, and when people remark, I generally get compliments. Its always the unhealthy ones that say anything about being too big.

    Sure I joke with my other lifting buds about being a "meathead" or whatever, but they know that I am one too, and I would never say or judge them for being too big.
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    May 28, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Yeah, I've heard snarky comments about "gym-bunnies", "muscle-heads", and such - always, of course, from guys who aren't in shape. One marshmallow-middle queen looked me in the face and said, "I'll be so glad when muscles go out of style." To which I retorted, "Don't hold your breath."

    I've decided that such remarks are a defense mechanism from men who assume that because you have a good body, you're 'way out of their league; so they push away first. I guess it's easier than a set of incline bench-presses.
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    May 28, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    When I first started working out, I got a lot of those comments. I was 275 lbs and I guess people were expecting me to fail and/or quit. I got a lot of "still going to the gym" (in a very back-handed tone) and "how do those veggies taste". Even got teased when others were eating cookies. When I dropped the weight, and started mountain bike endurance racing (6 hours, 12 hours, and later on this year 24 hours), everyone started to shut up. The back-handed comments turned into "ugh, I need to lose weight too". But yeah, haters gonna hate.
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    May 28, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    I started out life as a skinny, pale bean-pole kid. I was finally able to learn to lift and I improved myself (in high school, thanks to good coaches and buddies I learned a lot from). So since I was about 16, I've tried to stay in shape, plus look and feel my best. Only once in a great while have I ever heard any snarky comments from the donut gallery. Nothing like hearing a smart assed remark from some fat slob with a bad attitude! I just consider the source.
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    May 28, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    I get these remarks too. Although I'm not muscular but do go to the gym 6 days a week doing weights cardio and yoga. When I first joined, even some of the staff thought I'd quit after a month. Been going for 4 years now and have had some of them even say they were wrong about me.

    I have had some friends call me a gym bunny, I take it as a compliment but always make sure to tell them I can eat anything I want ( which I can't due to allergies) and still not gain any weight.icon_lol.gif
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    May 28, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    Many times when I've asked guys online if they workout, I get the bitchy response: "well, I'm not a gym bunny if that's what you mean". They try desperately to make working out to be a feminine activity. icon_rolleyes.gif FAIL.
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    May 28, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    Every time someone calls me insecure for going to the gym and wanting to take care of myself, I retort that they're insecure for even making that judgement. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • nomadfornow

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    May 28, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    Any such comment speaks far more about the person who's saying it than about his/her intended target. Ignore them, and keep doing what you do.
  • real_diver2

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    May 28, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    I agree with Nomad and MightyMouse.

    I'm at the gym 7 days a week for ME. Everyone else can, welll.....icon_wink.gif
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    May 28, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    I've never taken the comments as mocking. People know I go to the gym. I don't talk about it except if someone asks me what am I doing after work or whatever. The fact that people are aware that i go to the gym and that I try to eat healthy is actually a compliment.

    I'd rather have people making the comments they do instead of saying something like, "Oh, I didn't know you went to the gym", or "you should come to the gym with me and we can lose weight together".
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    May 28, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    Not really. People often remark that I must work out because of my size but I don't think I've ever been outright insulted for it.
  • trakstar90

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    May 28, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    This topic hits close to home. Yes around here people are content with going to the gym once a week and partying the remainder of the week. When summer comes and there are times I am shirtless I get that " oh my god that body. Put your shirt on man" lol. People really do try to ridicule you for being in shape.
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    May 28, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    trakstar90 saidThis topic hits close to home. Yes around here people are content with going to the gym once a week and partying the remainder of the week. When summer comes and there are times I am shirtless I get that " oh my god that body. Put your shirt on man" lol. People really do try to ridicule you for being in shape.



    My feelings exactly. I play in a rock band with 5 other 30+ men who do nothing to take care of themselves. When I peel my shirt off on a hundred degree stage it's not the audience, but my own bandmates who can't keep their jealous remarks in check. Usually something along the line of "oh it's Mr. Show off" or "go-go meathead.". Meanwhile I'm getting the cat calls from off stage. Joke's on them, huh?
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    May 28, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    Aside from the ocassional green tea-sipper jokes and comments about passing on the donuts at the staff meeting, most of my middle-aged/overweight co-workers are supportive of my gym habits ... icon_smile.gif
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    May 28, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    All I can say is thank god someone swiped my pickup truck.

    Friends and codorkers stopped asking me to help them move. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Revealing what I spend on personal training and related stuff? Ok, that was stupid. icon_twisted.gif