Can a relationship work between two guys when both are tops and they are faithful to each other.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    Is this possible? unless they have third guy who comes into the picture who wants to be a bottom. Do u agree that in the long run this situation will not last? Im a firm believer, if u are seeing someone. It should be about that person only, call me ol fashion and shy i guess.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    If you both 100% tops, your gona have to give up the booty... if both of you can deal with that, right on.. I totally understand where your comming from, I'm one of those totally monogamous gay guys as well
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    If your both 100% tops, your gona have to give up the booty... if both of you can deal with that, right on.. I totally understand where your comming from, I'm one of those totally monogamous gay guys as well
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    There are a lot more ways to make love, have sex, get off, etc., than butt-fucking. Not everybody has butt-sex. So yeah, if two "total tops" (and don't start me on how much I don't believe in THAT concept) love each other, I think they can make it work.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    Im not a top, but im pretty sure that relationship is gonna be a lost caused. We all like to think that if you really like the person, your "position" will not matter as much but being sexually compatible is essential IMO. Even if one guy gives in every once in a while, whoever is bottoming isn't gonna be very happy if he truly likes topping.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    ChoklitDaddy saidThere are a lot more ways to make love, have sex, get off, etc., than butt-fucking. Not everybody has butt-sex. So yeah, if two "total tops" (and don't start me on how much I don't believe in THAT concept) love each other, I think they can make it work.


    Thats true, but most people that call themselves tops, bottoms, or vers, want butt-sex. If not, they would most likely just say they like oral or foreplay
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]shortmuscleguy said[/cite]If you both 100% tops, your gona have to give up the booty... if both of you can deal with that, right on.. I totally understand where your comming from, I'm one of those totally monogamous gay guys as well[Hello....thats what i thought, still learning about this lifestyle as go]
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]ChoklitDaddy said[/cite]There are a lot more ways to make love, have sex, get off, etc., than butt-fucking. Not everybody has butt-sex. So yeah, if two "total tops" (and don't start me on how much I don't believe in THAT concept) love each other, I think they can make it work.[Hey...thanks i gues if there is a will, there is wayicon_cool.gif]
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]TheGuyNextDoor said[/cite]Being Totally Monogamous is not going to be the tough part if you guys are really in love.. Now BOTH being 100% Tops and craving ass will become a horrible problem. Nothing worse than ever hearing the word NO from your partner.
    It's worse than some woman complaining she has a headache.
    You're better suited as friends till you can either find a Bottom as a mate or a versatile guy. Not sure if I could ever marry any one that was not versatile like myself. I need a nice dose of both to remain happy in bed.

    Don't get me wrong. Some guys are happy with oral in a relationship and I think that's great!!! I love oral.. just not every day for dinner.
    I like a big menu when it comes to a partner.[Well said man, i guess know the guy the and the situation, and last but not least the expectation]
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Adonis_001 said[/cite]Im not a top, but im pretty sure that relationship is gonna be a lost caused. We all like to think that if you really like the person, your "position" will not matter as much but being sexually compatible is essential IMO. Even if one guy gives in every once in a while, whoever is bottoming isn't gonna be very happy if he truly likes topping. [I guess in order for this to work both guys have to compormise.]
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Lima3016 said[quote][cite]Adonis_001 said[/cite]Im not a top, but im pretty sure that relationship is gonna be a lost caused. We all like to think that if you really like the person, your "position" will not matter as much but being sexually compatible is essential IMO. Even if one guy gives in every once in a while, whoever is bottoming isn't gonna be very happy if he truly likes topping. [
    I guess in order for this to work both guys have to compormise.]

    Actually for it to be great sex,, the guys need to be into what they are doing.
    Not just going through the motions just because they're hard.
    It's actually more about finding someone that you can say to yourself..
    Damn,, that was really good, I could have sex with you every day and never get tired of it.
    It helps if you are both prepared to keep up with the other one's libido!


    TheGuyNextDoor got what I was trying to say
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]TheGuyNextDoor said[/cite]
    Lima3016 said[quote][cite]Adonis_001 said[/cite]Im not a top, but im pretty sure that relationship is gonna be a lost caused. We all like to think that if you really like the person, your "position" will not matter as much but being sexually compatible is essential IMO. Even if one guy gives in every once in a while, whoever is bottoming isn't gonna be very happy if he truly likes topping. [
    I guess in order for this to work both guys have to compormise.]

    Actually for it to be great sex,, the guys need to be into what they are doing.
    Not just going through the motions just because they're hard.
    It's actually more about finding someone that you can say to yourself..
    Damn,, that was really good, I could have sex with you every day and never get tired of it.
    It helps if you are both prepared to keep up with the other one's libido![That would be like looking for a needle in the haystack, seem it would be so difficult.]
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    I was roommates with a guy back in the mid 1980s who is, at least as of a few years ago when I moved away, still in a 20plus-year monogamous relationship with another top. Though my roommate was a masculine top and his partner is an effeminate top (I remember being surprised to learn they were both tops). They take turns bottoming for each other.

    Completely unanal myself, I don't relate to any of that, but, being practical in my love nature, while I'd enjoy monogamy if mutual pleasure came naturally inclined and not forced by compromise, I'd have no issue with my partner finding sexual satisfaction outside our main relationship. My experience in that is 10 years loving a practicing bisexual and another 10 years with a guy who was not my sexual type but who I loved regardless.

    It is tough enough finding anyone in this gay world of ours. By our limited population, by how well we are scattered throughout the main population, by our individual personalities, by our humor & interests & ages, by various limiting opportunities, that for me, while I've no issues with monogamy generally, if I can find lasting companionship, I'm not going to let a (nondestructive) sexual preference get in the way of an otherwise perfectly satisfying relationship. For me they are too rare to be too picky.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]theantijock said[/cite]I was roommates with a guy back in the mid 1980s who is, at least as of a few years ago when I moved away, still in a 20plus-year monogamous relationship with another top. Though my roommate was a masculine top and his partner is an effeminate top (I remember being surprised to learn they were both tops). They take turns bottoming for each other.

    Completely unanal myself, I don't relate to any of that, but, being practical in my love nature, while I'd enjoy monogamy if mutual pleasure came naturally inclined and not forced by compromise, I'd have no issue with my partner finding sexual satisfaction outside our main relationship. My experience in that is 10 years loving a practicing bisexual and another 10 years with a guy who was not my sexual type but who I loved regardless.

    It is tough enough finding anyone in this gay world of ours. By our limited population, by how well we are scattered throughout the main population, by our individual personalities, by our humor & interests & ages, by various limiting opportunities, that for me, while I've no issues with monogamy generally, if I can find lasting companionship, I'm not going to let a (nondestructive) sexual preference get in the way of an otherwise perfectly satisfying relationship. For me they are too rare to be too picky.[Thats understandable but i bet its hard work though]
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    FROT= All The POUNDING....
    WITHOUT the Penetration.

    Frot, or frottage, is usually even better with two tops.

    You can think of it as rubbing cocks together....but your whole body is engaged and you can make the pleasure of the connection last even longer than with anal penetration.

    Maybe someone here can recommend a great porn clip of frot in action.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Lima3016 saidThats understandable but i bet its hard work though]


    While relationships generally do take work, those two actually came easily as we connected readily & intimately on so many levels. They were great guys. We had good lives together. And the bi guy and I did have great sex, I just didn't have all the equipment he required inhouse so we contracted out. I was a party animal back then so it was actually pretty fun.

    Complete sexual satisfaction is wonderful if you luck into it but it's not like you're having sex for 10 hours a day, so how much of a priority do you want to make it? I get that it's important to some people more than others. But also I think some people will find their favorite excuse to keep themselves alone. You have to know what makes you tick, what stops you in your tracks and go with it.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    This is perhaps the stupidest question ever asked if you don't count the ones I've asked.
  • FRE0

    Posts: 4860

    May 28, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    ChoklitDaddy saidThere are a lot more ways to make love, have sex, get off, etc., than butt-fucking. Not everybody has butt-sex. So yeah, if two "total tops" (and don't start me on how much I don't believe in THAT concept) love each other, I think they can make it work.


    Excellent point!!

    At one time, anal sex was not at all popular, although it has always been around. At one time, the "Advocate" included the personals ads in each edition and those looking for partners were very specific in what they wanted; that was in the early 1970s. There were abbreviations for what they wanted:

    f/a French active (oral)
    f/p French passive (oral)
    g/a Greek active (anal top)
    g/p Greek passive (anal bottom)

    There was also an abbreviation for versatile.

    From those ads, it was easy to see that only a minority of guys were interested in anal sex. Now, for some reason, it is now widely assumed that all gay men want anal sex, but it's not true.

    Considering that at one time most gay men were not interested in anal sex and many would not even consider it, one wonders why some gay men now see it as essential.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    With lots of rimming any relationship can make it.
  • calibro

    Posts: 8888

    May 28, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    maybe if you live next to a jewish bakery...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/18/george-mason-gay-sex-study_n_1017958.html#s417386&title=Home_Is_Where

    Study that showed less than 40% of gay men do butt sex.
  • Karl

    Posts: 5787

    May 28, 2012 8:01 PM GMT
    "Can a relationship work between two guys when both are tops and they are faithful to each other"
    .
    "...faithful to each other"
    .
    "...FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER"
    .
    ------------------> YES ! icon_cool.gif it's possible in every single way.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    It can not work. It will not work. It should not even be talked about.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidBeing Totally Monogamous is not going to be the tough part if you guys are really in love.. Now BOTH being 100% Tops and craving ass will become a horrible problem. Nothing worse than ever hearing the word NO from your partner.
    It's worse than some woman complaining she has a headache.
    You're better suited as friends till you can either find a Bottom as a mate or a versatile guy. Not sure if I could ever marry any one that was not versatile like myself. I need a nice dose of both to remain happy in bed.

    Don't get me wrong. Some guys are happy with oral in a relationship and I think that's great!!! I love oral.. just not every day for dinner.
    I like a big menu when it comes to a partner.


    You really are the perfect man (sigh)...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 28, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    Maybe you guys need someone to bring you together...

    tumblr_lzvd6iq8XU1qe8xs7.gif