ChoklitDaddy saidThere are a lot more ways to make love, have sex, get off, etc., than butt-fucking. Not everybody has butt-sex. So yeah, if two "total tops" (and don't start me on how much I don't believe in THAT concept) love each other, I think they can make it work.
At one time, anal sex was not at all popular, although it has always been around. At one time, the "Advocate" included the personals ads in each edition and those looking for partners were very specific in what they wanted; that was in the early 1970s. There were abbreviations for what they wanted:
f/a French active (oral)
f/p French passive (oral)
g/a Greek active (anal top)
g/p Greek passive (anal bottom)
There was also an abbreviation for versatile.
From those ads, it was easy to see that only a minority of guys were interested in anal sex. Now, for some reason, it is now widely assumed that all gay men want anal sex, but it's not true.
Considering that at one time most gay men were not interested in anal sex and many would not even consider it, one wonders why some gay men now see it as essential.