This happens all the time to me.

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    May 28, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
    Okay, I constantly get guys showing interest and by that, I mean in a matter of minutes of chatting with me online or on the phone, they tell me they are madly in love with me. That they miss me, never felt this way with other guys, etc...

    I am sure you all know what I mean. Well now 4 weeks, there is this local guy who txt me and phones from work etc.. and tells me the same, that he never felt this way for anyone else, yet what is funny is that we never meet in person despite living in the same city. I have asked him out a few times but because of his work and family life we have not meet.

    So all this buttering me up for the past few weeks and lately he has just gone cold. I swear there is nothing that I say that does this, but I find it so common with guys. Is this just the way gay guys are or guys in general. I am throwing in the towel and giving up.

    I can conclude that there is one possible answer maybe, that I do not hookup, more of a LTR which may be the reason for them loosing interest.
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    May 28, 2012 10:35 PM GMT
    I suspect that most people who want to chat, cam, text, and perhaps even talk on the phone never really want to meet in person. Otherwise they'd make the effort.
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    May 28, 2012 10:41 PM GMT
    I agree, but it seems they just want to waste other peoples time, or have them hanging while they makeup their mind. Just not fair. With me I need to move on, I guess I have to do that. But what do you say when they tell you they miss you? They wait to hear it back.

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    May 29, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    It seems to be an international issue. Same thing happens here all the time. I have given up ever meeting anyone IRL for a date. It just doesnt work. I meet guys as friends and mates but nothing more. Even that is rare.
    I will be trying to meet up with a couple of guys from Sydney when i get there next month but thats all.
  • Karl

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    May 29, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    they can be whoever they want on the internet or the phone.
    IMO , I dont believe them much before I meet them in the real life.
    Hope you will be fine icon_smile.gif
  • DanOmatic

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    May 29, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    Don't put too much (or any) stock in sentiments given so easily without any real personal interaction. It's easy with modern technology to be tempted to accept what is relayed over text or internet as actually real. Don't fall for that. Take it all with a grain of salt and go out and meet guys in person. Even then, don't be taken in by words unless they're followed up by actions.
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    May 29, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    You should just play along...or would that be too mean? With my case, I get messages from 35+ year old guys who can hardly speak English asking me to be their boyfriend. I just say yes and watch the show icon_smile.gif
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    May 29, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    Good to know I am not alone. Thank you guys.
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    May 29, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    WOW I was just complaining about this guy who calls me everyday, even on the day I hosted this huge family and friends party! I do not even know where he lives or what friend of mine gave him my number but I swear, IMA CUT DA BETCH!icon_evil.gif
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    May 29, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    graphicabc saidBut what do you say when they tell you they miss you? They wait to hear it back.



    Just be honest, don't feel obligated to tell him ''I miss you too" when you don't..
    Say something like "I will let you know how I feel after we've met in person icon_wink.gif "