Opposite Fuck Buddy Scenario

  • Dtaylor

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    May 29, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    I just read the other fuck buddy thread and realized I'm in the position of the fuck buddy that got feelings. I have a totally amazingly hot fuck buddy who is really sweet as well. We've been fuck buddies for about eight months now and it's been great. Over that time, I've developed intense feelings for him outside of the bedroom. To explain our scenario a bit, we aren't just fuck buddies. We have hung out outside of the bedroom, we text (not just about sex), and we talk sometimes. I'd venture to say that I might have grown to love him over these past eight months, and I want him to be my boyfriend.

    Here's the problem. Every single person I know who had a fuck buddy has always had the relationship end when one person catches feelings for the other that aren't reciprocated. I really want to confess my love to him and hope that he likes me enough to want to date me, but I'm also realistic. Should I attempt to share my feelings with him and take the risk of being rejected, or should I just stay content with having the guy I love willing to be intimate with me and talk to me elsewhere as well?
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    May 30, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    Not knowing what kind of person your fuck buddy is, it is hard to say what you should do.

    Do you think there's a good chance the feelings are reciprocated? Sometimes you can tell this by body language. If you truly believe that, then it is probably worth confessing your love.

    If he's the kind of person who just wants to be friends and he's not into the relationship/commitment thing, I say don't go for it. In this case you should just enjoy it for what it is. It sounds to me that what you have with him is alot like an open relationship perhaps (sex+friendship) but without the formal title.
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    May 30, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    Stick to your super open and trusting, "texting and not just about sex" relationship. If he wanted more, and what more is there? He'd already be there. Nah, he has more than enough from you. If I were you, I'd go back to keeping the texts just sex related, you are walking a thin line there my friend.
  • Dbrad3693

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    May 30, 2012 7:20 PM GMT
    Yeah man, 8 months is a long time. And if you guys have hung out when it's not just sex and text and the topic is not about sex. Then I actually think you should talk to him about your feelings.

    Like i said 8 months is a long time. Maybe he has developed feelings for you too. Give it a go
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    May 30, 2012 7:26 PM GMT
    Are you getting any vibes that he may be interested?
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    May 31, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    Life is too short. Go for it. Love!
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    May 31, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    If you're really into him, take the risk and feel him out. You might lose him in the process, but that's the downside. The upside is, he might be feeling the same way about you but he might not be able to articulate it. That being said, there are guys out there who are just content with an fb situation and will never want to develop anything more than that (and usually we're pretty clear and upfront about our intentions at the outset).