Older men have better selection.!

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    May 29, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    Like, it's ridiculous.! I see so many older men on here and other sites that are SO attractive and don't even look their age.! It makes me wonder why older men don't have better luck finding men their age, because honestly, they have more to choose from. And besides, most of the older men have their life together and know what they want and are more likely to settle down. That's not to say men my age range (18-21) don't have the above, but y'all know what I men. *sighs* How I envy you older men. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 29, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    TheLetterD saidLike, it's ridiculous.! I see so many older men on here and other sites that are SO attractive and don't even look their age.! It makes me wonder why older men don't have better luck finding men their age, because honestly, they have more to choose from. And besides, most of the older men have their life together and know what they want and are more likely to settle down. That's not to say men my age range (18-21) don't have the above, but y'all know what I men. *sighs* How I envy you older men. icon_biggrin.gif


    I think this goes a long way in making them seem so much more attractive. Oh and the fact that a lot of older RJ members are pretty damn fine icon_cool.gif
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    May 29, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    I wouldn't generalize the real world with what you find on RJ lol
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    May 29, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    They're underrated. But don't tell everyone, or they'll become popular and have no time for RJ! Awesome things are best before they catch on by the masses.
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    May 29, 2012 7:16 AM GMT
    agreed.
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    May 29, 2012 7:39 AM GMT
    I wouldn't call it more selection, but I will admit that life is a little more enjoyable now that the crust has cooled and cyanobacteria finally pumped enough oxygen into the atmosphere to think clearly. Things were kinda hazy back then, so I'm not really sure what selections I had back then.
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    May 29, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    Remember that many of the older men are partnered by now.

    Men are like parking spaces: the ones near you are taken or handicapped and the available ones are really, really far away.
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    May 29, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    MuscleBadger saidRemember that many of the older men are partnered by now.

    Men are like parking spaces: the ones near you are taken or handicapped and the available ones are really, really far away.

    LOL! I love that analogy, and my partner laughed when I told him just now. And so therefore, as with any saying I like, I will steal it. icon_biggrin.gif

    It's true lots of older men are partnered or in some kind of a relationship - I've been with someone or other for the better part of the last 12 years. But when one guy would leave (or in one case actually died) it didn't me long to find another.

    Another issue that hit my generation was AIDS. It was almost like the aftermath of a war, where an entire male age group is decimated. So that older men are not only partnered, but many are simply missing, just not there.

    And yet I haven't lacked for available guys my age. But then I made the decision to migrate to where all ages of gays are plentiful, to compensate for depleted numbers of available men due to whatever reason. To borrow MuscleBadger's analogy, finding few available spaces in one parking lot, I drove to a lot with many open spaces.
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    May 29, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    I would say that life experience does have it's advantage in being settled which often is attractive to younger guys but as guys age, heading into the 30s and 40s, they loose that attraction to experience and stability in an effort to establish themselves. So although it appears that older guys have more to choose from, in reality I find that there's a vast group between your age and mine that are generally not made available to older guys. Add the currently partnered guys in the same age category to the unavailable and you'll find that the number to choose from is significantly reduced. I think this, along with the increased struggle to maintain the physical appearance of the tight, muscled and toned body, is a reason gay guys in their 50s and above get frustrated with finding a suitable partner. The only saving grace for us older guys is the compliments from your age group AND the physical condition of most str8 guys our age and usually younger. Hang around with them for a while and you'll feel pretty damn good about how you look!
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    May 29, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    Now, THERE'S one I don't hear a lot - "How I envy older men." Made my day. And don't worry, you'll be an "older man" before you know it. Sure the heck snuck up on ME. icon_smile.gif
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    May 29, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidAnother issue that hit my generation was AIDS. It was almost like the aftermath of a war, where an entire male age group is decimated. So that older men are not only partnered, but many are simply missing, just not there.
    This is especially true in the SF area. The demographics of my age group is much smaller than the other generations because of the this epidemic. I've compensated with finding a younger man and I'm not complaining about that! icon_smile.gif
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    May 29, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    MuscleBadger saidRemember that many of the older men are partnered by now.

    Men are like parking spaces: the ones near you are taken or handicapped and the available ones are really, really far away.

    HaHa icon_lol.gif
    (Not laughing at handicapped guys though: they can be plenty hot too ;)
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    May 29, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    Wow.... nice analogy. I've seen a lot.... I just know the toughest part is finding a buddy with the same likes and activity level. For me it is extremely rare to find someone my age in that category and how many younger guys can split 3 cords of wood in a couple hours.....aaaahhhh. It's kind of sad because i think i'm a pretty nice guy.
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    May 29, 2012 2:32 PM GMT


    Art_Deco said


    Another issue that hit my generation was AIDS. It was almost like the aftermath of a war, where an entire male age group is decimated. So that older men are not only partnered, but many are simply missing, just not there.
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    Please tell us how many of your friends from the 70's and 80's died of AIDS? You DID NOT feel that aftermath---

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    May 29, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    Dean_Aane said
    Please tell us how many of your friends from the 70's and 80's died of AIDS? You DID NOT feel that aftermath---



    Mean girl troll. Get therapy.
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    May 29, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    I guess the grass always looks greener somewhere else. Unless one lives in a gay mecca where there is a large pool of older gents who look and act much younger, there really is not much to choose from. But even in the gay meccas the older youthful guys the OP is describing are a small minority compared to young guys in their prime.
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    May 29, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    Older guys don't really have more to choose from.

    For many of us, the age range that we are interested in expands downward quite a bit as we age (can be up to -25 or more at this point for me), but is pretty consistent in its upward reach (+5 or so). So theoretically, we could be happy with many more guys.

    That does not mean that a commensurate portion of that expanded pool is interested in us. As other guys have explained, though, the number of available, in-shape, not crazy fellas seems to get smaller the older you get. While are SOME younger guys who are also interested in older guys, but in my experience they are a minority.

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    May 29, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    Dean_Aane said
    Please tell us how many of your friends from the 70's and 80's died of AIDS? You DID NOT feel that aftermath---
    Having lost at least 4 friends close in age, not to AIDS but to other causes, I can't believe you would say that to someone. How empty you must be.
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    May 29, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
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    Dean_Aane said
    Please tell us how many of your friends from the 70's and 80's died of AIDS? You DID NOT feel that aftermath---

    Mean girl troll. Get therapy.

    It's true I did not personally know anyone who died of AIDS in the beginning. I was in the Army then, didn't know anyone with AIDS. Once I left the service and came out I began to know too many.

    And I guess my first partner dying of AIDS literally in my arms doesn't count, according to Dean_Aane, who claims I didn't feel anything. Not to mention that I did experience the aftermath, even today, because those AIDS victims from my generation are still missing, whether I personally knew them at the time or not. To return to MuscleBadger's analogy, the parking lot was downsized and a lot of available spaces I might have found were lost.

    My post above about the loss of gay men to AIDS from a specific age group was an historical observation. That one can make without having been personally part of it at the time, just like historians today note the decimation of an entire generation of men in Europe during WWI, nearly 100 years ago.
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    May 29, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
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    MuscleBadger saidRemember that many of the older men are partnered by now.

    Men are like parking spaces: the ones near you are taken or handicapped and the available ones are really, really far away.

    HaHa icon_lol.gif
    (Not laughing at handicapped guys though: they can be plenty hot too ;)


    In that quote, by Handicapped I do not mean disabled.... I mean CRAY-CRAY!! and full of drama. There are plenty of available men who available.... for... a .... reason!!!
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    May 29, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    MuscleBadger saidRemember that many of the older men are partnered by now.

    Men are like parking spaces: the ones near you are taken or handicapped and the available ones are really, really far away.


    rofl
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    May 29, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    TheLetterD saidLike, it's ridiculous.! I see so many older men on here and other sites that are SO attractive and don't even look their age.! It makes me wonder why older men don't have better luck finding men their age, because honestly, they have more to choose from. And besides, most of the older men have their life together and know what they want and are more likely to settle down. That's not to say men my age range (18-21) don't have the above, but y'all know what I men. *sighs* How I envy you older men. icon_biggrin.gif


    Not sure how it makes sense to suggest that older men have more men to choose from in their own age range, unless you mean that older men are generally more attractive... At any rate, if it makes you feel any better, you're getting older as we speak.
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    May 29, 2012 8:54 PM GMT
    I don't want to spend my hard earned ₪ on anyone but me.

    That's why.
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    May 29, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    Well, getting older should have some compensations. icon_biggrin.gif

    Yeah, really, I would not go back to my 20's for anything.
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    May 29, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    The problem with finding a man in his early 30's is most of us haven't had a birthday in 6 or 7 years.