7 months without having sex with anyone!

  • Kobe_Whisky

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    May 29, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    I've been locked myself from dating or sex with anyone since I broke up with my ex. I lose all confident and get scared of relationship.

    Someone just told me, I should make some for myself or find someone for one night stand.

    since I accepted myself as a gay guy, I slept only 2 guys only. They were my long term relationship.

    What should I do to unlock my old system or should I keep the same?icon_question.gificon_question.gif
  • Karl

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    May 29, 2012 12:25 PM GMT
    have never had sex with anyone icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 29, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    I havent had sex with anyone for quite a while too, its not because of anything emotional , just because I'm busy. I'd say if your ok with having sex with someone you dont plan to be with and it might make u feel awesome then do it. I know my time to refresh my sex life is coming soon icon_razz.gif
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    May 29, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    Gay sex is really a dirty business, let the professionals deal with it. Wait until a swell guy comes by and sweeps you off your feet. It could take years, but patience is key. Wait it out, you will be rewarded. Until Mr. Right comes along, do not have sex with anyone. Ever. No matter what.
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    May 29, 2012 12:31 PM GMT
    HorrorHero saidI havent had sex with anyone for quite a while too, its not because of anything emotional , just because I'm busy. I'd say if your ok with having sex with someone you dont plan to be with and it might make u feel awesome then do it. I know my time to refresh my sex life is coming soon icon_razz.gif


    ... forgot my disclaimer

    ...play safe!
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    May 29, 2012 12:33 PM GMT
    HorrorHero said
    HorrorHero saidI havent had sex with anyone for quite a while too, its not because of anything emotional , just because I'm busy. I'd say if your ok with having sex with someone you dont plan to be with and it might make u feel awesome then do it. I know my time to refresh my sex life is coming soon icon_razz.gif


    ... forgot my disclaimer

    ...play safe!

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    May 29, 2012 12:34 PM GMT
    It's been about a year and a half for me... just do what you feel comfortable doing. Don't feel the need to please others' expectations when it's your life you're living.
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    May 29, 2012 12:37 PM GMT
    Squintz saidIt's been about a year and a half for me... just do what you feel comfortable doing. Don't feel the need to please others' expectations when it's your life you're living.

    this
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    May 29, 2012 12:37 PM GMT
    thx you guys..! I though I was alone who lock myself from sex or one night stand ..

    I wont have sexy with anyone till I met my Mr. Right..

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    May 29, 2012 12:38 PM GMT
    Squintz saidIt's been about a year and a half for me... just do what you feel comfortable doing. Don't feel the need to please others' expectations when it's your life you're living.



    this one is great!
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    May 29, 2012 12:39 PM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky saidthx you guys..! I though I was alone who lock myself from sex or one night stand ..

    I wont have sexy with anyone till I met my Mr. Right..



    Boooo icon_razz.gif jk
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    May 29, 2012 12:44 PM GMT
    just remember that there isn't a rule which dictates how you should be living your life... you must do whatever you feel comfortable with and what makes you happy.

    the same way you want to stay celibate for your perfect partner, when he finally arrives, he will also appreciate that you did it for him.

    a very desirable guy i know once said to me that he found guys who weren't the usual slutty, sex addict to be a million times more attractive to him.

    so you're already scoring big points in someone's books... ;)
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    May 29, 2012 12:47 PM GMT
    ct461 saidjust remember that there isn't a rule which dictates how you should be living your life... you must do whatever you feel comfortable with and what makes you happy.

    the same way you want to stay celibate for your perfect partner, when he finally arrives, he will also appreciate that you did it for him.

    a very desirable guy i know once said to me that he found guys who weren't the usual slutty, sex addict to be a million times more attractive to him.

    so you're already scoring big points in someone's books... ;)


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    May 29, 2012 12:52 PM GMT
    ct461 saidjust remember that there isn't a rule which dictates how you should be living your life... you must do whatever you feel comfortable with and what makes you happy.

    the same way you want to stay celibate for your perfect partner, when he finally arrives, he will also appreciate that you did it for him.

    a very desirable guy i know once said to me that he found guys who weren't the usual slutty, sex addict to be a million times more attractive to him.

    so you're already scoring big points in someone's books... ;)


    but thats going from being celibate to being an ultra slut. what about the in between? I'm not an ultra slut mainly because my schedule wont allow it. but once in a while I want to have some fun and if i meet the right guy and he's down to party then...

    ...we'll party.

    Just like theres no life rule there is no black and white.

    Just wanted to point that out icon_smile.gif
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    May 29, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    HorrorHero said
    ct461 saidjust remember that there isn't a rule which dictates how you should be living your life... you must do whatever you feel comfortable with and what makes you happy.

    the same way you want to stay celibate for your perfect partner, when he finally arrives, he will also appreciate that you did it for him.

    a very desirable guy i know once said to me that he found guys who weren't the usual slutty, sex addict to be a million times more attractive to him.

    so you're already scoring big points in someone's books... ;)


    but thats going from being celibate to being an ultra slut. what about the in between? I'm not an ultra slut mainly because my schedule wont allow it. but once in a while I want to have some fun and if i meet the right guy and he's down to party then...

    ...we'll party.

    Just like theres no life rule there is no black and white.

    Just wanted to point that out icon_smile.gif



    I think he doesnt mean something about being slut but he just said "do whatever you feel comfortable with and what makes you happy."
    btw, your sex life come, just follow your instinct..I do support you ;-)
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    May 29, 2012 1:10 PM GMT
    Thank you for your support in my quest to ultra slutdom icon_razz.gif
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    May 29, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Kobe_Whisky said[/cite]thx you guys..! I though I was alone who lock myself from sex or one night stand ..

    I wont have sexy with anyone till I met my Mr. Right..

    [/quot


    I believe you should have personal standards but "waiting for Mr. Right" is a fantasy you picked up from books, movies, and other fictional media targeted at teenage girls. Ever hear about waiting for Miss Right? Straight guys haven't either. So are you a girl or a guy? Give up Mr. Right hand for 40 days and 40 nights if you want to expose your girlish fantasy.
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    May 29, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said[quote][cite]Kobe_Whisky said[/cite]thx you guys..! I though I was alone who lock myself from sex or one night stand ..

    I wont have sexy with anyone till I met my Mr. Right..

    [/quot


    I believe you should have personal standards but "waiting for Mr. Right" is a fantasy you picked up from books, movies, and other fictional media targeted at teenage girls. Ever hear about waiting for Miss Right? Straight guys haven't either. So are you a girl or a guy? Give up Mr. Right hand for 40 days and 40 nights if you want to expose your girlish fantasy.


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    May 29, 2012 1:41 PM GMT
    The longest I've gone with any sexual: oral or anal, contact with anyone was 2 years. Shortest time was 6 months, voluntarily.
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    May 29, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    HorrorHero said

    but thats going from being celibate to being an ultra slut. what about the in between? I'm not an ultra slut mainly because my schedule wont allow it. but once in a while I want to have some fun and if i meet the right guy and he's down to party then...

    ...we'll party.

    Just like theres no life rule there is no black and white.

    Just wanted to point that out icon_smile.gif



    oh, i was just making a comparison of extremes icon_smile.gif and as with everything in nature, they do actually exist. there are guys having sex every day. there are guys having no sex at all. but obviously most others fall somewhere in the middle
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    May 29, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky saidI've been locked myself from dating or sex with anyone since I broke up with my ex. I lose all confident and get scared of relationship.

    Someone just told me, I should make some for myself or find someone for one night stand.

    since I accepted myself as a gay guy, I slept only 2 guys only. They were my long term relationship.

    What should I do to unlock my old system or should I keep the same?icon_question.gificon_question.gif
    Wait until you feel the urge to start being around other guys again, then go out where your local guys are, socialize within your network, but don't spread yourself too far, too fast, or too thin, you may need to not go out sometimes. It's hard getting back to dating after being broken and damaged so deeply. I'm working on that myself. As you start to feel and experience the difference moving forward can make, you will start to experience differently. In fact, more like you were before you got your heartbroken, save the experience and learning from it. Take it day by day, it's not easy, a quick fix situation, or all that bad. It is what it is. icon_smile.gif Good luck
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    May 29, 2012 1:59 PM GMT
    JoyfullyRandom said
    Kobe_Whisky saidI've been locked myself from dating or sex with anyone since I broke up with my ex. I lose all confident and get scared of relationship.

    Someone just told me, I should make some for myself or find someone for one night stand.

    since I accepted myself as a gay guy, I slept only 2 guys only. They were my long term relationship.

    What should I do to unlock my old system or should I keep the same?icon_question.gificon_question.gif
    Wait until you feel the urge to start being around other guys again, then go out where your local guys are, socialize within your network, but don't spread yourself too far, too fast, or too thin, you may need to not go out sometimes. It's hard getting back to dating after being broken and damaged so deeply. I'm working on that myself. As you start to feel and experience the difference moving forward can make, you will start to experience differently. In fact, more like you were before you got your heartbroken, save the experience and learning from it. Take it day by day, it's not easy, a quick fix situation, or all that bad. It is what it is. icon_smile.gif Good luck


    thx...headaches and heartbroken make us rich... :-)
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    May 29, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky said
    Alpha13 said[quote][cite]Kobe_Whisky said[/cite]thx you guys..! I though I was alone who lock myself from sex or one night stand ..

    I wont have sexy with anyone till I met my Mr. Right..

    [/quot


    I believe you should have personal standards but "waiting for Mr. Right" is a fantasy you picked up from books, movies, and other fictional media targeted at teenage girls. Ever hear about waiting for Miss Right? Straight guys haven't either. So are you a girl or a guy? Give up Mr. Right hand for 40 days and 40 nights if you want to expose your girlish fantasy.


    No comment. icon_neutral.gif


    Exactly, in love with oneself and the romance of the Shining Knight on white horse. Well, at least you have shared your love in the past and your not in your mid 40 years ......waiting on a fantasy.
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    ct461 saidjust remember that there isn't a rule which dictates how you should be living your life... you must do whatever you feel comfortable with and what makes you happy.

    the same way you want to stay celibate for your perfect partner, when he finally arrives, he will also appreciate that you did it for him.

    a very desirable guy i know once said to me that he found guys who weren't the usual slutty, sex addict to be a million times more attractive to him.

    so you're already scoring big points in someone's books... ;)


    Perfect! would you like to marry me?
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    May 29, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    Kobe_Whisky said
    Alpha13 said[quote][cite]Kobe_Whisky said[/cite]thx you guys..! I though I was alone who lock myself from sex or one night stand ..

    I wont have sexy with anyone till I met my Mr. Right..

    [/quot


    I believe you should have personal standards but "waiting for Mr. Right" is a fantasy you picked up from books, movies, and other fictional media targeted at teenage girls. Ever hear about waiting for Miss Right? Straight guys haven't either. So are you a girl or a guy? Give up Mr. Right hand for 40 days and 40 nights if you want to expose your girlish fantasy.


    No comment. icon_neutral.gif


    Exactly, in love with oneself and the romance of the Shining Knight on white horse. Well, at least you have shared your love in the past and your not in your mid 40 years ......waiting on a fantasy.


    yeah...I am a little bit believe in fairy tale or fantasy...but nothing wrong to believe or dream about it right? I think I will date a guy soon if I think he's the right person who accept me for who i am. this is who I am and I cant keep sorry about that.