More on nudity: Being naked with Dad

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    May 29, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    I wrote of another forum about nudity that I was only self conscious about being nude in front of other guys because I was not as developed as my peers. I got over it and my body developed on its own schedule. But I was never concerned about being naked per se. And I think I learned that from my dad.

    I was never self conscious about being naked with my dad. It never occurred to me that I should feel anything other than normal with him. I had seen him naked since I was a little kid. Not that he walked around the house naked but there were times and places where we would be in a position to be naked, either together or separately. He was cool and non chalant about it so why shouldn't I?

    When I was real small, he took me in the shower with him. Everything about him was big to me then and so was the size of his genitals. He never hid them from me so I wasn't curious. I knew that I would grow and be big like him someday. Later, we would change at the locker room at the swim club by the ocean and, of course, we would shower to wash off the salt. It was an open shower and there were men and boys of all ages washing so it was just and every day affair. Nothing sexual. Then we joined a pool club closer to home and I rarely saw him as he didn't swim much in the pool.

    I remember getting my first case of jock itch which produced a big rash on my inner thighs and scrotum. I went to my dad and pulled my pants down to show him. I never thought about being embarrassed by exposing myself to him. Afterall, he was my dad and a man and there was no need for modesty with him.

    In high school one time, we had gone to help a neighbor out with some dirty work. When we got home, we both wanted to shower and clean up. We only had one bathroom in the house and we both got there about the same time wrapped in towels. He said I could shower first so I went into the bathroom. He followed, took his towel off and proceeded to shave naked. I showered and got out of the shower to dry off and we chatted while he finished shaving all the while naked. I never though it strange. Just normal for two guys. I had no sexual thoughts about him as some guys do.

    So I think I inherited his attitude about being naked with other guys as being normal. I hope I passed it on to my sons. I didn't parade nude for them but we all shared a bathroom and one of us would be naked at some point or another. I never hid myself but neither did I flaunt being naked.
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    May 29, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    That's a beautiful story. I have very similar memories of being naked with my dad. It wasn't taboo for us and it certainly wasn't sexual. I wish more American children could be raised like this. It's so much better than living with all that fear, repulsion and shame.
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    May 29, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    I am pretty sure I saw my dad naked however I don't remember it as vividly as the OP
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    May 29, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    For most of us it is pretty normal at the beginning of life, when our parents are taking care of us and at the end of life, when we're taking care of our parents.

    I remember being a bit shocked, the first time I went to Europe and saw large bus-stop ads with photos of the happy naked nuclear family at the sauna. It would have been amusing to see what would happen if those bus stops were magically swapped in the night with some from the US Deep South. icon_lol.gif
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    May 29, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    Thanks, Scruffy. I think you hit the nail on the head. There is no shame in our bodies. Depending on the mores of the society where you live, nudity may be restricted. But nowhere should men be ashamed of being naked with other men in such places as the locker room or showers while going about normal tasks of daily living.

    My dad died about six years ago. He was 83, just had surgery for a broken hip and wasn't doing well. We knew he was dying. The day before he died, I changed his diaper and washed his genitals like I know he must have done many times for me when I was an infant. I treated him with the love and dignity that he deserved and I could see the gratefulness in his eyes as he watched me clean him. There was no shame for either of us. In fact, I feel honored to have the opportunity to care for him as I did.
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    May 29, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    gem01 saidThanks, Scruffy. I think you hit the nail on the head. There is no shame in our bodies. Depending on the mores of the society where you live, nudity may be restricted. But nowhere should men be ashamed of being naked with other men in such places as the locker room or showers while going about normal tasks of daily living.

    My dad died about six years ago. He was 83, just had surgery for a broken hip and wasn't doing well. We knew he was dying. The day before he died, I changed his diaper and washed his genitals like I know he must have done many times for me when I was an infant. I treated him with the love and dignity that he deserved and I could see the gratefulness in his eyes as he watched me clean him. There was no shame for either of us. In fact, I feel honored to have the opportunity to care for him as I did.


    Man..... oh my god, these are the most effective words i have ever read in a thread, however i dont like being completely naked infront of others... i was about to drop a tear,.. i like my dad so much i would like to take care of him when he gets elder, but currently i work in another country and about to move to another country .. would love to stay with him some days to take care of him...... i cried some days before i remembered him and i cant see him because i am gay and he wants me to get married but i cant tell him that i am gay...

    i miss him so much.... god bless you man..
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    May 29, 2012 9:05 PM GMT
    So, this has been a nice trip down memory lane reminicing about my dad. Here is a funny story about the last time he saw me naked.

    It was Christmas Eve about ten years ago. I brought my parents up to spend the evening with us and to stay over for Christmas. We had our usual Christmas Eve dinner with beef tenderloin, Mass, back home for dessert and to prepare for the next day's celebrations and to finish up wrapping and other holiday traditions.

    At the time we had a German shepard whom my parents adored. He reminded them of the German shepard we had when I was a boy. They would spoil this dog and give him treats from the table. Usually, too rich for him but, hell, it was Christmas.

    The dog slept in our room. We had gotten to bed around 2am. About 6 or 6:30 I was awaken by the sound of the dog wretching. I jumped out of bed to run him downstairs and outside so he could throw up there. I had been sleeping in the nude and must have been having a great dream because I had a raging hard on. Not wanting to take the time to get the dog to the back door, I opened the front door to let him out. Now it is still dark out.

    But, my parents were already up having coffee. They heard me bound down the stairs. My father rushes to the front foyer only to find me at the door, naked and my cock pointing at him. Dad just looked at me stunned. I said, "watch the dog" and ran back upstairs before mom came from the kitchen. I got upstair and my wife was laughing. I put on a pair of pajama bottoms and a sweatshirt and went back downstairs. Both my parents were laughing. I was still pitching a tent in my pants and the dog, now relieved, was looking for his next treat from my folks.

    The whole incident became the topic at Christmas dinner with the rest of the extended family. Later, though, my dad made a comment about my dick. Something like chip off the old block or a reference that I was just like him. Well, I should look like him and I took his comment as a compliment. I wasn't embarrassed by him seeing me, even hard which he did see me several times as a kid. If Mom saw me, I would have been a little red faced. It would have matched dick at the time.
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    May 29, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
    ChangeofName saidtha fuck is this shit?


    Yeah, the first post was ok. The second one lives on the edge of creepy.

    Let the shitstorm begin.
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    May 29, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
    I don't think I've ever seen my Dad naked. He even rarely took his top off when we went on holidays, and rarely wears shorts, even on the hotter days we get here in Britain

    This is an interesting article on German attitudes to nudity

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-18021714
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    May 30, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    Cool fucked up pseudo incest-overtoned story, bro.
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    May 30, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    Fortunately, this is tl; dr.

    Obviously someone has some baggage they haven't unpacked yet.
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    May 30, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    GAMRican said
    ChangeofName saidtha fuck is this shit?


    Yeah, the first post was ok. The second one lives on the edge of creepy.

    Let the shitstorm begin.


    Those last few lines eh?
  • araphael

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    May 30, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    gem01 saidI wrote of another forum about nudity that I was only self conscious about being nude in front of other guys because I was not as developed as my peers. I got over it and my body developed on its own schedule. But I was never concerned about being naked per se. And I think I learned that from my dad.

    I was never self conscious about being naked with my dad. It never occurred to me that I should feel anything other than normal with him. I had seen him naked since I was a little kid. Not that he walked around the house naked but there were times and places where we would be in a position to be naked, either together or separately. He was cool and non chalant about it so why shouldn't I?

    When I was real small, he took me in the shower with him. Everything about him was big to me then and so was the size of his genitals. He never hid them from me so I wasn't curious. I knew that I would grow and be big like him someday. Later, we would change at the locker room at the swim club by the ocean and, of course, we would shower to wash off the salt. It was an open shower and there were men and boys of all ages washing so it was just and every day affair. Nothing sexual. Then we joined a pool club closer to home and I rarely saw him as he didn't swim much in the pool.

    I remember getting my first case of jock itch which produced a big rash on my inner thighs and scrotum. I went to my dad and pulled my pants down to show him. I never thought about being embarrassed by exposing myself to him. Afterall, he was my dad and a man and there was no need for modesty with him.

    In high school one time, we had gone to help a neighbor out with some dirty work. When we got home, we both wanted to shower and clean up. We only had one bathroom in the house and we both got there about the same time wrapped in towels. He said I could shower first so I went into the bathroom. He followed, took his towel off and proceeded to shave naked. I showered and got out of the shower to dry off and we chatted while he finished shaving all the while naked. I never though it strange. Just normal for two guys. I had no sexual thoughts about him as some guys do.

    So I think I inherited his attitude about being naked with other guys as being normal. I hope I passed it on to my sons. I didn't parade nude for them but we all shared a bathroom and one of us would be naked at some point or another. I never hid myself but neither did I flaunt being naked.


    Dude, different cultures have different rules. Do not let the broader American culture, which is defined by a very limited few people in power, define your folks' culture with regard to nudity. In many cultures (the one I grew up in included here), nudity among fathers and sons is not bad, nor weired, nor incestuous. It is normal. That's what this sounds like you experienced growing up. American Chrisitian religion must definitely be observed closely regarding its views about nudity and/or sex because there are many unresolved personal sexual abuse issues being worked out by such "Christians" which they disguise under the banner of religion. You just be careful not to let the news media's portrayal of all male bonding as weird, bad, or evil become a defining charactersitic with you and your kids. Do nothing sexual with them when you are all nude together and everything is cool. It's probably a normal cultural thing.
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    May 30, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    Honestly I think nudity is fine until you start talking about your dad looking at your boner. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 30, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    skin_tight saidHonestly I think nudity is fine until you start talking about your dad looking at your boner. icon_neutral.gif
    I wish I'd showed my dad my boner before he died.

    As much as I despise most of the ways he treated me (not sexual - he was just mean), he always taught me not to be ashamed of my body. Of course, he woulda shit a brick if he'd been alive when I was doing porn. icon_lol.gif
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    May 30, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
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    skin_tight saidHonestly I think nudity is fine until you start talking about your dad looking at your boner. icon_neutral.gif
    I wish I'd showed my dad my boner before he died.

    As much as I despise most of the ways he treated me (not sexual - he was just mean), he always taught me not to be ashamed of my body. Of course, he woulda shit a brick if he'd been alive when I was doing porn. icon_lol.gif

    Link me.
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    May 30, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
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    skin_tight saidHonestly I think nudity is fine until you start talking about your dad looking at your boner. icon_neutral.gif
    I wish I'd showed my dad my boner before he died.

    As much as I despise most of the ways he treated me (not sexual - he was just mean), he always taught me not to be ashamed of my body. Of course, he woulda shit a brick if he'd been alive when I was doing porn. icon_lol.gif


    And, if you theoretically could capture that shitting of the brick on film...you've got a niche revenue stream going there!
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    May 30, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
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    paulflexes said
    skin_tight saidHonestly I think nudity is fine until you start talking about your dad looking at your boner. icon_neutral.gif
    I wish I'd showed my dad my boner before he died.

    As much as I despise most of the ways he treated me (not sexual - he was just mean), he always taught me not to be ashamed of my body. Of course, he woulda shit a brick if he'd been alive when I was doing porn. icon_lol.gif


    And, if you theoretically could capture that shitting of the brick on film...you've got a niche revenue stream going there!
    Meh, I'm done with niche stuff. There's not enough money in it.
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    May 30, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    GAMRican said
    paulflexes said
    skin_tight saidHonestly I think nudity is fine until you start talking about your dad looking at your boner. icon_neutral.gif
    I wish I'd showed my dad my boner before he died.

    As much as I despise most of the ways he treated me (not sexual - he was just mean), he always taught me not to be ashamed of my body. Of course, he woulda shit a brick if he'd been alive when I was doing porn. icon_lol.gif


    And, if you theoretically could capture that shitting of the brick on film...you've got a niche revenue stream going there!
    Meh, I'm done with niche stuff. There's not enough money in it.


    Ahhhh! It depends upon how "exotic" it gets: "A Serbian Film"
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    May 30, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    i feel the same mix of fascination and revulsion right now as i did when i saw this thread...

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2403481
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    May 30, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    dancerjack saidi feel the same mix of fascination and revulsion right now as i did when i saw this thread...

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2403481
    Watch the whole video. The ending turns the creepiness into hilarity.
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    May 30, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    skin_tight saidHonestly I think nudity is fine until you start talking about your dad looking at your boner. icon_neutral.gif
    I wish I'd showed my dad my boner before he died.

    As much as I despise most of the ways he treated me (not sexual - he was just mean), he always taught me not to be ashamed of my body. Of course, he woulda shit a brick if he'd been alive when I was doing porn. icon_lol.gif


    Have you ever revealed your porn name or films you were in Paul?
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    May 30, 2012 8:24 AM GMT
    I preferred the thread where the guy was saying he wanted to have sex with his dad, because at least he was self-aware and more to-the-point.
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    May 30, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
    I'm not going to read that... thx.icon_neutral.gif
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    May 30, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    I have no problem with nudity as long as there are no sexual undertones to it. I can't imagine springing a boner when looking at my dad's or my brothers' junk. That'd be simply gross.