problems with relationship whats your advice

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    May 30, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    if my bf is on gay pick up web sites and in his profile he does not acknoldege that he is in a relationship is it because he does not want anyone to know due to him not being able to meet someone.
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    May 30, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    hate to be cynical, but I hardly doubt anyone in a "monagamous relationship", at least happily, will have time to spend on an online forum/hookup site. Either they're flat out lying, or are hoping to trade up.
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    May 30, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    gayngeorgia saidi was just told to take his name off my about me profile. All it said was got a bf i love very much and gave his profile name on here tell about us. Was i wrong for doing it or could it be something else what do you think


    I don't think giving out the profile name of your bf is a big deal. But that being said, I don't know anything about your bf. Perhaps he is sensitive or not out of the closet about these things and want to remain low profile. So on the same token, taking his name out of your profile is probably not a big deal either.

    My bf and I have been together for almost 1 year. Almost everyone outside of our gay circle of friends don't know we are boyfriends. My bf is not ready to come out to these people so we just don't write it anywhere online and such (our names associated together). It has not hurt our relationship in any way.

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    May 30, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    hottop88 saidhate to be cynical, but I hardly doubt anyone in a "monagamous relationship", at least happily, will have time to spend on an online forum/hookup site. Either they're flat out lying, or are hoping to trade up.


    Errr... wrong.
  • whytehot

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    May 30, 2012 7:20 AM GMT
    It could be that he doesn't want to be associated with an "open relationship"...?
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    May 30, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
    hottop88 saidhate to be cynical, but I hardly doubt anyone in a "monagamous relationship", at least happily, will have time to spend on an online forum/hookup site. Either they're flat out lying, or are hoping to trade up.

    I wasn't aware RJ is a hookup site. At least that's not how I perceive it, nor the way I use it. Lots of monogamous guys online here, with motives other than trading up.
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    May 30, 2012 12:48 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    hottop88 saidhate to be cynical, but I hardly doubt anyone in a "monagamous relationship", at least happily, will have time to spend on an online forum/hookup site. Either they're flat out lying, or are hoping to trade up.

    I wasn't aware RJ is a hookup site. At least that's not how I perceive it, nor the way I use it. Lots of monogamous guys online here, with motives other than trading up.


    That being said, lots of guys don't want to be linked to a partner page looking for sex when he is only looking for training advice. RJ is a lot cheaper than a gym membership or a personal trainer for sure. I think it is funny that the gay community can't do anything besides fuck and anybody who go out, or work out, or do anything for himself, must be out looking for sex. For instance, does his profile say anything about sex? How about yours?
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    May 30, 2012 1:04 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    hottop88 saidhate to be cynical, but I hardly doubt anyone in a "monagamous relationship", at least happily, will have time to spend on an online forum/hookup site. Either they're flat out lying, or are hoping to trade up.

    I wasn't aware RJ is a hookup site. At least that's not how I perceive it, nor the way I use it. Lots of monogamous guys online here, with motives other than trading up.


    I agree with Art_Deco on this one as have found RJ to be much wider focused than typical online profile sites used for hookups. The wide variety of forum topics members are posting in eg strength training tips versus jerkoff buddy on Skype are an indication of this. As with everything there are guys in here with many different motives - but not all of us in long-term relationships are here for sinister reasons.
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    May 30, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    gayngeorgia saidi was just told to take his name off my about me profile. All it said was got a bf i love very much and gave his profile name on here tell about us. Was i wrong for doing it or could it be something else what do you think



    I'm curious as to who told you to do that. Another RJ member? Ignore him.
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    May 30, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    hottop88 saidhate to be cynical, but I hardly doubt anyone in a "monagamous relationship", at least happily, will have time to spend on an online forum/hookup site. Either they're flat out lying, or are hoping to trade up.



    Trollololololol!

    Fail. icon_lol.gif
  • armyjockboi

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    May 30, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    gayngeorgia saidi was just told to take his name off my about me profile. All it said was got a bf i love very much and gave his profile name on here tell about us. Was i wrong for doing it or could it be something else what do you think



    I'm curious as to who told you to do that. Another RJ member? Ignore him.


    Try the bf who actually work out everyday and profile does not reference towards sex at all but work out advice as oppose to the partner who claims to be looking for a training partner but sit on his a$$ every time I work out and who main topic of conversation is sex. I told him from the beginning that I was not interested in hooking up with anybody from this site and yet he makes a profile for the sole purpose of watching what I post on mine.
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    May 30, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    Really?

    Guys if you're taking this shit on line you both might want to at least consider the fact that neither of you are ready for a relationship...
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    May 30, 2012 4:11 PM GMT
    armyjockboi, are you and the OP in a relationship?

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    May 30, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    meninlove said armyjockboi, are you and the OP in a relationship?



    That's my bet...
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    May 30, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
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    meninlove said armyjockboi, are you and the OP in a relationship?



    That's my bet...

    You could be right. I just looked at both profiles and both say they are in an open relationship and play together, which made the last post by armyjockboi rather confusing to me.
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    May 30, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    rj is a hookup site now? dammit....where's my backlog of ass i've not gotten....i get off work at 5 today, feel free to line up your bumpers on the bumper of my car and we can both enjoy the ride
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    May 30, 2012 5:04 PM GMT
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    joe_diesel1 said
    meninlove said armyjockboi, are you and the OP in a relationship?



    That's my bet...

    You could be right. I just looked at both profiles and both say they are in an open relationship and play together, which made the last post by armyjockboi rather confusing to me.


    Right-O. Did the same thing before I posted. Both are also from the same "first" location as well... Could not be partners though... OP states open relationship army states hookups so,.maybe their not a couple. But, my bet stands.

    Army / OP?

    Hell, I just fell into the online drama!
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    May 30, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    BambinoRex saidrj is a hookup site now? dammit....where's my backlog of ass i've not gotten....i get off work at 5 today, feel free to line up your bumpers on the bumper of my car and we can both enjoy the ride


    Right, I've not hooked up from this site either.

    That said I'm not agsinst it but, NC is a bit of a drive from MS.
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    May 30, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
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    meninlove said
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    meninlove said armyjockboi, are you and the OP in a relationship?



    That's my bet...

    You could be right. I just looked at both profiles and both say they are in an open relationship and play together, which made the last post by armyjockboi rather confusing to me.


    Right-O. Did the same thing before I posted. Both are also from the same "first" location as well... Could not be partners though... OP states open relationship army states hookups so,.maybe their not a couple. But, my bet stands.

    Army / OP?

    Hell, I just fell into the online drama!

    lol, it happens.

    I am wondering why Army/OP have gone silent. icon_question.gif
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    May 30, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    If he's out of the closet, I see no reason why mentioning his name in your profile should bother him. Either he's ashamed of being your boyfriend or he's engaged in some other extracurricular activities.
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    Jun 01, 2012 11:16 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidIf he's out of the closet, I see no reason why mentioning his name in your profile should bother him. Either he's ashamed of being your boyfriend or he's engaged in some other extracurricular activities.


    yes that is what a lot of guys are telling me
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    Jun 01, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    gayngeorgia said
    DOMINUS saidIf he's out of the closet, I see no reason why mentioning his name in your profile should bother him. Either he's ashamed of being your boyfriend or he's engaged in some other extracurricular activities.


    yes that is what a lot of guys are telling me


    Had this problem. I felt uncomfortable about it, was reassured over and over he only wanted to make more friends. I relaxed, thought I had the problem, one day when I asked a question casually about how making friends was going his reply was strange .... Curious so I looked, he was using it to find other options / cheating me.

    Left him. Came crying back. Told me how he was insecure and realised his mistake. Tried to stay with him but felt second class and I said goodbye.

    Don't waste your time. The right person for you would delete it in a heart beat, when I met my ex the thought to use it never crossed my mind once... Guess he didn't feel the same
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    Jun 01, 2012 7:20 PM GMT
    hottop88 saidhate to be cynical, but I hardly doubt anyone in a "monagamous relationship", at least happily, will have time to spend on an online forum/hookup site. Either they're flat out lying, or are hoping to trade up.


    Have to disagree with you, too.

    I've been in a monogamous relationship for six and a half years, and me joining an online forum such as this one in no way reflects my happiness or reveals any secret agenda.
  • armyjockboi

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    Jun 01, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    joe_diesel1 said
    meninlove said
    joe_diesel1 said
    meninlove said armyjockboi, are you and the OP in a relationship?



    That's my bet...

    You could be right. I just looked at both profiles and both say they are in an open relationship and play together, which made the last post by armyjockboi rather confusing to me.


    Right-O. Did the same thing before I posted. Both are also from the same "first" location as well... Could not be partners though... OP states open relationship army states hookups so,.maybe their not a couple. But, my bet stands.

    Army / OP?

    Hell, I just fell into the online drama!

    lol, it happens.

    I am wondering why Army/OP have gone silent. icon_question.gif


    The reason I feel out of the forum is because I don't care for online drama and I'm not the jealous type. If I have an issue, I can take it up with him rather than posting about it online infront of the world but then carrying on with me like everything is okay. Also, as far as me being on this site, you can see my postings on my profile relates to working out, which about a week ago I started running about 8 miles a day and getting into better shape. My partner, however, is either sleep, watching tv, or constantly following me around where ever I go whenever I go anywhere. My only answer to that is he may be afraid I'm doing what he would be doing if he was in my shoes.
  • mikeylikes

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    Jun 02, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    i think your relationship should be sorted out in private. airing out your dirty laundry on a forum is only going to exacerbate things. unless they are beyond repair. in which case have fun