Do you ever get intimidated?

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    May 30, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    Tonight I was at this ultra chic gay restaurant with a friend. All the other guys looked like a combination of models and hot athletes. The guys who were my exact type were so perfect, I couldn't speak to them. They were also all paired off, except for the table hosting the entire A&F Baseball Team.

    What should I have done surrounded by those flashing white chiclet smiles, the six foot, 4% body fat, enormous blue eyed sophisticated urban masculin gay?

    Thoughts?
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    May 30, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    Ultra chic gay restaurant? Have you been taking restaurant recommendation from the Colonel?

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    Also what is a A&F baseball team?

    And as for you answer, you are old, fat and come off creepy so it best you just don't talk to those guys.
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    May 30, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    Intimidated is not in my vocabulary.
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    May 30, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIntimidated is not in my vocabulary.


    Lucky you!
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    May 30, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIntimidated is not in my vocabulary.

    This.
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    May 30, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    smartmoney said
    paulflexes saidIntimidated is not in my vocabulary.

    This.


    I can be kinda cocky, but still all these 20 something studs...
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    May 30, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    You are who you are. Being intimidated is not going to change anything?

    Thoughts?

    Just be yourself. Be happy with your self.
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    May 30, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    dontknowwhy saidAlso what is a A&F baseball team?

    A homoerotic and (most-likely) clothing-optional baseball team full of preppy guys...only WHITE preppy guys.
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    May 30, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    constantly.
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    May 30, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    Sure. All the time
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    May 30, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    smartmoney said
    paulflexes saidIntimidated is not in my vocabulary.

    This.


    I can be kinda cocky, but still all these 20 something studs...
    You must be really fucking picky. I think there are way more than 20 something studs here.
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    May 30, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    yea I do alot, but I front like im not. Or I turn it into a joke...im so full of shit. But hey, fake it till u make it
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    May 30, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    I'm intimidated often when I go out, but I some how gain this surge of confidence and it works to my advantage... I think you should have said hi or introduced yourself if you really wanted to get to know any of them.
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    May 30, 2012 8:19 AM GMT
    It's rare for me.

    I suppose its a matter of making me feel uncomfortable and I feel like that might be the type of crowd to do that to boost their own egos.. but I suppose that's a stereotype icon_razz.gif
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    May 30, 2012 8:23 AM GMT
    I can't spell the word therefore I have no idea what it means therefore I don't experience it in anyway. LOL.
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    May 30, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    I know what you mean; I wish I could say something but the people I'm talking about are here or at least some of them of them are and I meet them regularly as a group, which group I won't mention icon_smile.gif BUT the effect does multiply when traveling as a uniform group icon_smile.gif
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    May 30, 2012 9:20 AM GMT
    How are we defining 'intimidated'?

    I mean I'm not going to make a fool of myself by asking a guy out who demonstrates no interest and is clearly above my pay grade. I have some sense of where I sit in the marketplace, and I'm not going to be oblivious to that fact at the expense of all dignity.

    If that 'above my pay grade' guy comes up and demonstrates an interest in me, I'm not going to splutter like an idiot though. I'm going to have a normal conversation.

    And I have no problem taking the initiative by saying hi to someone who I have reason to believe might like to talk for a bit. I don't like staring across a room at each other all night. I got over shyness a while ago.

    Is that intimidated, or no?
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    May 30, 2012 9:34 AM GMT
    JP, you are way too kind. I've ran into my fair share, and I don't like looking like an idiot any more than the next guy. Besides, there are more important qualities than the superficial ones.

    I went on the worst date in recorded human history with one of those guys - achingly handsome, investment banker, a body *way* better than mine (and I'm not a slouch). Turns out he was the single worst conversationalist you can conceive of. I've been more engaged by petition signature gatherers outside grocery stores. I ran screaming, and it was a good choice.
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    May 30, 2012 9:52 AM GMT
    I probably would if I didn't always have my blinders on.
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    May 30, 2012 10:09 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    abelian0 saidJP, you are way too kind. I've ran into my fair share, and I don't like looking like an idiot any more than the next guy. Besides, there are more important qualities than the superficial ones.

    I went on the worst date in recorded human history with one of those guys - achingly handsome, investment banker, a body *way* better than mine (and I'm not a slouch). Turns out he was the single worst conversationalist you can conceive of. I've been more engaged by petition signature gatherers outside grocery stores. I ran screaming, and it was a good choice.

    I had dates with two men answering that very description, back in the early 90s. Each date was horrendous in its own unique way, and I swore off handsome investment bankers for good.


    It's all just as well. We could easily have ended up getting hacked to death by Patrick Bateman lookalikes. I'm not sure which would be more painful - the axe through the head, or knowing that the last song I'd ever hear would be by 'Huey Lewis and the News'.

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  • calibro

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    May 30, 2012 10:45 AM GMT
    only if it's more than 10 inches
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    May 30, 2012 10:47 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIntimidated is not in my vocabulary.


    weird... it shows up in all of mine... maybe you can print this out an glue it in

    n·tim·i·date
    (n-tm-dt)
    tr.v. in·tim·i·dat·ed, in·tim·i·dat·ing, in·tim·i·dates
    1. To make timid; fill with fear.
    2. To coerce or inhibit by or as if by threats.
    [Medieval Latin intimidre, intimidt- : Latin in-, causative pref.; see in-2 + Latin timidus, timid; see timid.]
    in·timi·dating·ly adv.
    in·timi·dation n.
    in·timi·dator n.
    Synonyms: intimidate, browbeat, bulldoze, cow2, bully1, bludgeon
    These verbs all mean to frighten into submission, compliance, or acquiescence. Intimidate implies the presence or operation of a fear-inspiring force: "It [atomic energy] may intimidate the human race into bringing order into its international affairs" (Albert Einstein).
    Browbeat suggests the persistent application of highhanded, disdainful, or imperious tactics: browbeating a witness.
    Bulldoze connotes the leveling of all spirit of opposition: was bulldozed into hiring an unacceptable candidate.
    Cow implies bringing out an abject state of timorousness and often demoralization: a dog that was cowed by abuse.
    To bully is to intimidate through blustering, domineering, or threatening behavior: workers who were bullied into accepting a poor contract.
    Bludgeon suggests the use of grossly aggressive or combative methods: had to be bludgeoned into fulfilling his duties.
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    May 30, 2012 10:54 AM GMT
    It's happening less frequently these days. I am realizing that I'm no better than anyone else and they are no better than me. It's very liberating.

    There are still a few situations that intimidate me, though - like getting pulled over by a cop for a traffic ticket. People carrying guns = intimidating. lol.
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    May 30, 2012 11:07 AM GMT
    The more I learn who I am and learn to like myself, the less intimidated I am by anybody.

    This is all about self esteem.
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    May 30, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    MuscleBadger saidThe more I learn who I am and learn to like myself, the less intimidated I am by anybody.

    This is all about self esteem.


    Well no. Maybe it was just that night, but I've never seen such good looking guys!