The question of versatility

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    May 31, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    I consider myself a versatile guy. But I have a problem that I've ignored too long, and I'm wondering whether I'm the only person with this problem/what can be done about it.

    My versatility is pretty selective.

    For example, I'm very awkward with bottoming for a guy who's physically shorter than I am. All my instincts go the other direction... I want to wrap myself around that guy...and push myself inside his body...and utterly nourish and satisfy him. Again and again. And hold him tight afterwards.

    The exact opposite happens when I'm with a guy who's physically taller or bigger. I want to be consumed. Like a little dust-mote that's incinerated by a beam of sunlight. To be broken like soft, buttered bread in the hands of a famished man.

    Which leaves me in a dilemma. I can't say I'm versatile/top; I simply can't live "up" to that when I'm with a guy who's much taller than I am. I can't say I'm a versatile/bottom: I'm more likely to hog the topping post when I'm with a guy who's shorter/smaller or my own size, or only a few inches taller than I am.

    To complicate matters further, the decision is also at the whim of factors like the other guys' age, temperance, weight, race, coloring, personality, whether he's cut or uncut...you get the picture. I never know how these factors will affect the chemistry.

    Hence, I never know whether I'll "feel like" topping or bottoming in that scenario, or how that works for the other guy.

    Am I alone, here?
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    May 31, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    You might be over-thinking this. If you top sometimes and bottom sometimes, you're versatile. Dick-tionary definition. And unless you're a sex professional (Not that there's anything wrong with that!), I don't think your particular predilections should be considered a problem. Take it on a man-by-man basis: when negotiations begin (and pretty much every man-on-man coupling is a negotiation), let the other guy(s) know what you're likely to be up for in that instance. The end.

    PS: Man, you are gorgeous! icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 01, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    You are versatile, period! It's fine that you feel top or bottom for certain type of guys. From what I understand, you're pretty much selective on dominance physical appearance for bottoming and submission for topping. But I find a dominance looking kind of guy bigger than me who's a bottom is a turn on as well or the opposite.