New wisdom on beginning a relationship

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    Jun 02, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    I'm really into this guy, who feels the same about me.

    Now Ive been in a few relationships that once they lost their "everything is new" magic eventually dissolved once the momentum set.

    Anyone have practical advice how to start a new relationship and keep it?
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    Jun 02, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    Break up after 3-4 weeks.
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    Jun 02, 2012 9:52 PM GMT
    oceanboy11 saidI'm really into this guy, who feels the same about me.

    Now Ive been in a few relationships that once they lost their "everything is new" magic eventually dissolved once the momentum set.

    Anyone have practical advice how to start a new relationship and keep it?


    You have to have something else that mutually attracts you aside from good sex and appearances. You shouldn't even start a relationship while "everything is new". That's when you date the person and see if you have any mutual connections that can sustain a bond.
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    Jun 02, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    The advice I would give is to take it slow and build a solid friendship while dating.

    I think the success to our 20 years is that we are also one another's best friend. It makes a big difference.

    The other thing is to never take anything for granted and never take another person for granted.
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    Jun 02, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    I find that doing things together with common interests definitely keeps us together. We have the same taste in movies, love to go to the gym, weird fascination with zombies (we are doing the 5k zombie course where you run and dodge zombies), and love to eat different types of food. There's so much more but you get the point. There are things he enjoys that I don't and it gives us the time to be apart to do our own thing.

    Basically its like dating a best friend. You call each other when something cool happens, you hang and when there's nothing to do, and you just happen to both be attracted to each other icon_biggrin.gif

    With the right person, it's more like just living the actually dating.
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    Jun 02, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
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    oceanboy11 saidI'm really into this guy, who feels the same about me.

    Now Ive been in a few relationships that once they lost their "everything is new" magic eventually dissolved once the momentum set.

    Anyone have practical advice how to start a new relationship and keep it?


    You have to have something else that mutually attracts you aside from good sex and appearances. You shouldn't even start a relationship while "everything is new". That's when you date the person and see if you have any mutual connections that can sustain a bond.


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    Jun 03, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Solid advice from all posts! Thank you and congrats on the 20+ years and going strong that's definitely encouraging. As for me, we have a great time when we're sober, we are on the same page and I can see us being together for a long time.... except for the fact that he is a really messy drunk and last night ended up making out with one of my friends, while I wasn't there. So there goes that, back to square -1. Giggidy.