Do you have lesbian friends?

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    Jun 02, 2012 10:56 AM GMT
    Hi guys! 3 of my best briends are lesbians and I just realised that my gay male friends are very surprised about this and the often make jokes about it. It looks to me that gay man- lesbian friendship is not very common and I cant understand why. Pleaase share your opinions.Cheers
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    Jun 02, 2012 11:05 AM GMT
    I had one good friend who was a lesbian. We don't really keep in touch as much now that she's married. I mean, she invited me to her wedding. I couldn't stay for the after party, but I did come and stay for the ceremony. Afterwards she informed me about a housewarming party she was having and would fill me in on the details later. She never did. In my case, I feel it's more like a friendship that's drifting apart more than her not liking gays or whatever. As for your gay friends that teased you about your lesbian friends, I'm not sure what to think. lol I guess there are just some guys who don't have lesbian friends. Why don't your friends?
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    Jun 02, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
    I have 2 lesbian friends.
    One of them is my best friendicon_smile.gif
    She's super beautiful , so many guys like her.
    We always share our stories to each other and it's kinda great.
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    Jun 02, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    My weed connect is a lesbian. Lol
    One of my closest co-workers is a lesbian, and my friend/photographer is a lesbian.

    I love lesbians.
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    Jun 02, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    My partner and I hang around with other couples. At least five couples of our regular "family" are lesbian couples. However, I do find there are a lot of women that simply don't want to hang around with guys, and vice versa.

    As some of you know, I run a south Florida gay and lesbian golf group. Although we were once 50/50 guys and girls, we're now almost exclusively guys. I have never been able to figure out what happened.
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    Jun 02, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    Yep, one of my closest friends is a lesbian. Initially we were just co-workers, and when we both found out about each other being gay, we totally bonded and now we're like brother and sister. It's awesome!!
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    I suppose it's not too surprising that gay men and lesbians don't mingle much. Each is attracted to their own sex and so they generically prefer the same sex's company.
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    Oh god no
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    Throughout college, most of my roommates were lesbians. I am still good friends with many of them. My next door neighbor is a lesbian and my bf and I are pretty close to her.
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:06 PM GMT
    Scotticus saidI suppose it's not too surprising that gay men and lesbians don't mingle much. Each is attracted to their own sex and so they generically prefer the same sex's company.



    I don't know about this. While most gay men I know may not have a lot of lesbian friends, most do have a lot of straight female friends.
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
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    Scotticus saidI suppose it's not too surprising that gay men and lesbians don't mingle much. Each is attracted to their own sex and so they generically prefer the same sex's company.



    I don't know about this. While most gay men I know may not have a lot of lesbian friends, most do have a lot of straight female friends.


    Well, whose company would you personally prefer? A gay man's, or a straight woman's?
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    no
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    To answer the OP, no. I don't have lesbian friends. Or straight women friends. Or straight male friends. I associate exclusively with other gay men. And we have to hook up and make sexy time before we can collaborate on music school performances. icon_twisted.gificon_lol.gif

    /sarcasm
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    Jun 02, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    Scotticus said
    Iceblink said
    Scotticus saidI suppose it's not too surprising that gay men and lesbians don't mingle much. Each is attracted to their own sex and so they generically prefer the same sex's company.



    I don't know about this. While most gay men I know may not have a lot of lesbian friends, most do have a lot of straight female friends.


    Well, whose company would you personally prefer? A gay man's, or a straight woman's?



    For a romantic and sexual relationship, a gay man of course, but this thread is about friends. I am open to friendship with straight men, gay men, straight women, and lesbians and have some of all of those.
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    Many years ago I had two lesbian friends in Key West and I lived with them for a while. We've since drifted apart. I've a lesbian cousin who I was friends with but who weirded out so now I'm just friendly with her, and another lesbianesque cousin who I was never really friends with but always friendly to (frequent family dinners and she stays with me when in town etc).

    She's a special case "lesbian" though, as she has been asexually partnered with the same female for some 30 years, both of them identifying as heterosexuals but living monogamously as nonsexual lesbians. It's all too confusing. I think it is because they not only fail to celebrate their partnership (regardless of how they define it to themselves) but rather make a point to publicly deny their love for each other which has prevented me from feeling closer to them as friends. Denial simply does not work for me and it makes me suspicious when I see it in others.

    There's a person in my new area who I might be becoming friendly with, no idea where it might wind up, who I suspect is lesbian.

    Someone's gender or sexual orientation has never been for me a criteria for selecting friends.
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    i don't have any lesbian friends per-say, but i don't dislike them either. My roommate brought a lesbian friend of hers over and the distaste this woman obviously felt for me was beyond palpable.
    On the other hand, its always fun to find the grease monkey lesbians at a party and talk shop with them icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    We have a few, and one in particular is a lipstick lesbian (feminine, soft spoken, very attractive and friendly - she's a Vassar girl).
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    I do.
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidi don't have any lesbian friends per-say, but i don't dislike them either. My roommate brought a lesbian friend of hers over and the distaste this woman obviously felt for me was beyond palpable.
    On the other hand, its always fun to find the grease monkey lesbians at a party and talk shop with them icon_biggrin.gif


    Yeah, some dikes have a real animus against gay guys, not just guys in general.
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    My friends consist of a mere handful and most of them are lesbian. There is not the underlying sexual tension that sometimes presents itself in male friendships.

    Plus, my lesbian friends are not afraid to help out with some tough manual labour instead of being concerned about looking good.icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    No. In general I dont care for them. I had a few at work that were ok.
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    Yeah I play sports with them and love em how they're so into it icon_smile.gif !!
  • Diceroll

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    Jun 02, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    Two of my best friends are lesbians, and I've met loads more through them who are amazing people. Whenever I'm out with them we always have the best time.

    I've never understood the animosity between gay guys and lesbians tbh.
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    A few, though not very close. One of them did declare me an honorary lesbian at one point. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 02, 2012 4:58 PM GMT
    Yes. My longest time friend of 33 years happens to be a lesbian who has been married to another lesbian for 28 years. I was there when they both met. I was there at the wedding on their 25th anniversary.