Why do Guys make it so difficult to Date???

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    Jun 03, 2012 1:32 PM GMT
    After my last relationship ended I decided to take a break from dating, recently over last few months I got myself back out there seems most guys make it so difficult to date either they just lead u in on the date thinkin they will get sex and the end of it, some guys make up the lamest excuses. Just seems most guys out there are not genuine as I thought they can really mess up your head with all the mind games.
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    Jun 03, 2012 1:41 PM GMT
    Where are you meeting these fine men?

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    Jun 03, 2012 1:50 PM GMT
    Sometimes meet them when am out bar club etc or sometimes dating site
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    Jun 03, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    If you read some of the posts on here, people meet all over the place, even on here, so keep your head up. You meet good people in strange places, bars and bathhouses and you meet complete creeps and liars on here or on dating sites, there is no real simple answer. Dating is magic, you never know when or how it will happen.
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    Jun 03, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    Aww thanks I have had a good few dates but also bit of bad luck with it

    Guys that lead u on can't be honest and just want sex and guys that get freaked out by slightest thing
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    Jun 03, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    I hate being a grammar nazi but please use some punctuation in your runaway sentences as they are an absolute pain the the ass to read and I have no idea what question you actually asked.
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    Jun 03, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    The question is in the headline topic everything else is statements
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    Jun 03, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    maybe some of them are just insecure about whatever issues they have, just give it some more practice, you will be fine.
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    Jun 03, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    mr_ngt saidWhy do Guys make it so difficult to Date???
    Guys are competitive, so they're just trying to outdo girls at making it difficult to date.
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    Jun 03, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    Their self worth is based on how many hot guys they've managed to bang and not on wanting to be in a stable relationship with real intimacy.

    So god forbid you actually want to date someone and not just fuck their brains out. Perish the thought !

    Tis the gay way !
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    Jun 08, 2012 6:57 AM GMT
    whateveryo saidTheir self worth is based on how many hot guys they've managed to bang and not on wanting to be in a stable relationship with real intimacy.

    So god forbid you actually want to date someone and not just fuck their brains out. Perish the thought !

    Tis the gay way !



    I know exactly what your sayin but I am one of those guys that doesn't think like that I would rather have a real meaninful relationship with a guy than just fuck around and count how many

    If guys can have a relationship with girls that last them am sure they can with other guys I guess it just takes 2 stable guys that's honest and secure comfortable with each other
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    Jun 08, 2012 7:32 AM GMT
    I'm concerned that if you super hot guys are having problems with flaky guys, I'm DOOMED. :-)
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    Jun 08, 2012 8:18 AM GMT
    It's only complicated if you want it to be or rather let it be. As long as you don't let it get you down then you'll be fine.
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    Wouldn't say it gets me down just disappointed really, only if most could be more honest n straight to the point than givin hope that's not there
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    OP, you're young. lol

    Maybe it's the guys you are attracting.

    I met my partner 20 years ago in a notorious cruise bar in Kansas City, called the Dixie Belle. If ever there was a place to not meet a partner, that would be the place. It reeked of sex, upstairs, downstairs, on the patio.... (fun place! LOL).

    That was 20 years ago and we are still together.

    My point is that you NEVER know where Mr. Right will be when you meet him. The last place I would ever have expected to meet anyone other than a one-nighter, it would have been the Dixie Belle.

    It happens. You can meet him in the least expecting place. Don't try too hard. Just relax, have fun, and he will come along when you least expect it.
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    I think you have to be really up front about what you want when you go out. If you are looking for something real you gotta be picky, look beyond the sex, etc. If I think a guy is dating material then I tell him that sex is not happening for the first dates.

    Good luck. Guys are pretty terrible - myself included!
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    That's why I've found it easier to not date.
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI hate being a grammar nazi but please use some punctuation in your runaway sentences as they are an absolute pain the the ass to read and I have no idea what question you actually asked.


    ROFL
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    Nov 01, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    dating? what is that?
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    Nov 01, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI hate being a grammar nazi but please use some punctuation in your runaway sentences as they are an absolute pain the the ass to read and I have no idea what question you actually asked.

    are you that lacking in creativity and intelligence that you were unable to understand at least by inference that he was trying to say?

    Poor you if you are one of those people.
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    Nov 01, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    mr_ngt saidWhy do Guys make it so difficult to Date???
    Guys are competitive, so they're just trying to outdo girls at making it difficult to date.
    Which is funny, cause they're inadvertently trying to outdo the same guys they'd probably be better off with in the first place.
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    Nov 01, 2012 9:02 PM GMT
    atxd13 saidI think you have to be really up front about what you want when you go out. If you are looking for something real you gotta be picky, look beyond the sex, etc. If I think a guy is dating material then I tell him that sex is not happening for the first dates.


    I think the top part is true. I think that if you are upfront about what you want when you go out, it can help weed out the guys who aren't right for you from the start. And not having sex for the first few dates improves that even more. If the guy truly wants a meaningful relationship, he'd stay and if he just wanted sex, he'd most likely leave and not talk to you after the first date. But that's just how I see it.

    Just keep trying, everything will work out in due time. Don't get too down and just enjoy life.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:16 PM GMT
    From June til now you're still having the same problem? Maybe there's something you're doing to attract the game-players. If you're not having fun dating then maybe it's a good idea to take a break. Dating should be fun.
    I don't get why guys who are just looking for sex would waste their time and your time with a date first.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:18 PM GMT
    PaulNKS saidOP, you're young. lol

    Maybe it's the guys you are attracting.

    I met my partner 20 years ago in a notorious cruise bar in Kansas City, called the Dixie Belle. If ever there was a place to not meet a partner, that would be the place. It reeked of sex, upstairs, downstairs, on the patio.... (fun place! LOL).

    That was 20 years ago and we are still together.

    My point is that you NEVER know where Mr. Right will be when you meet him. The last place I would ever have expected to meet anyone other than a one-nighter, it would have been the Dixie Belle.

    It happens. You can meet him in the least expecting place. Don't try too hard. Just relax, have fun, and he will come along when you least expect it.


    awesome post. thanks.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    Come to the Middle East. The only date you'll get is the fruit.

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