Dating in Chicago?

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    Jun 04, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    Ok, I'm moving to Chicago and I will finally get my chance to be on my own and find myself. I don't have any gay friends or anything so this move will definitely help with building my character.

    How are the guys in Chicago? What are some good places to meet decent gay guys who can be good friends or possible relationships? Thanks!
  • joeblizz

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    Jun 04, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    there are no decent gays in chicago
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    Far and few to find, good luck. Then agaicon_biggrin.gifin, i avoid theo heavily populated places. I dont think its bitter to generalize if youve had a really terrible experience.
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    Come to Cincinnati. It's sooooo much more awesome.......
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    Being under 21 in Chicago is not very fun when virtually all of the good spots to meet people are 21+ bars and lounges. It wouldn't hurt to find out your school's LGBT organization since they would most likely have social events set up to help you get acclimated to gay life city.

    On your own, you'll meet a lot of friendly faces on lakeshore path and the lakefront. We've had weird weather this year; by the time you come you should have plenty of time to go all up and down the lake and have a good idea of where your type of "friendly faces" can be found.

    Be sure to hit up student discount tickets for the symphony and opera if that's your bag. Super cheap, awesome performers, and they make for a much more interesting date than a movie.

    Welcome to the Chi!
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    catch saidBeing under 21 in Chicago is not very fun when virtually all of the good spots to meet people are 21+ bars and lounges. It wouldn't hurt to find out your school's LGBT organization since they would most likely have social events set up to help you get acclimated to gay life city.

    On your own, you'll meet a lot of friendly faces on lakeshore path and the lakefront. We've had weird weather this year; by the time you come you should have plenty of time to go all up and down the lake and have a good idea of where your type of "friendly faces" can be found.

    Be sure to hit up student discount tickets for the symphony and opera if that's your bag. Super cheap, awesome performers, and they make for a much more interesting date than a movie.

    Welcome to the Chi!


    That doesn't sound like good news icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    flguy18 said
    That doesn't sound like good news icon_sad.gif


    I will admit, being the youngest of my circle of friends in college hurt a lot once everyone started turning 21. You'll find ways to cope and make the city work for you.
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    I think this city is great. And in any big city you'll find your fair share of any kind of individual. Putting a blanket judgement on the entire city is unfair.
  • araphael

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    Jun 04, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    joeblizz saidthere are no decent gays in chicago


    This wasn't my experience when I visited there once years ago.
  • Gamemage7

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    Jun 04, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    flguy18 said
    catch saidBeing under 21 in Chicago is not very fun when virtually all of the good spots to meet people are 21+ bars and lounges. It wouldn't hurt to find out your school's LGBT organization since they would most likely have social events set up to help you get acclimated to gay life city.

    On your own, you'll meet a lot of friendly faces on lakeshore path and the lakefront. We've had weird weather this year; by the time you come you should have plenty of time to go all up and down the lake and have a good idea of where your type of "friendly faces" can be found.

    Be sure to hit up student discount tickets for the symphony and opera if that's your bag. Super cheap, awesome performers, and they make for a much more interesting date than a movie.

    Welcome to the Chi!


    That doesn't sound like good news icon_sad.gif


    Don't worry so much about it. There's a whole section of Chicago called "Boys' Town" where the its all gay. You might have to look for a college night some where, but if you're going to school here, ask your local LGBT and they'll know great spots. And since you're in a big city, there's tons of people to meet. So best of luck.
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    Thanks guys, does anybody have any personal experiences of moving to a big city and finally being able establish relationships (generally speaking) with gay people?
  • Gamemage7

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    Jun 04, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    I actually did just that 3 years ago. I moved from Chicago to Rochester, and knew no one there, was far from home, and I had just come out that summer.

    It was really awe-inspiring, and unnerving. It can eat away at you if you don't have people to talk to. I just recommend putting yourself out there, and try to meet new people.
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:05 AM GMT
    joeblizz saidthere are no decent gays in chicago


    It's true.
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    Try Crew, a popular Gay sports bar, the (gay) center on halstead, and Howard Brown, the gay health clinic.
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    swimguychicago saidTry Crew, a popular Gay sports bar, the (gay) center on halstead, and Howard Brown, the gay health clinic.


    Awesome! I love sports bars
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    flguy18 said
    swimguychicago saidTry Crew, a popular Gay sports bar, the (gay) center on halstead, and Howard Brown, the gay health clinic.


    Awesome! I love sports bars


    I wouldnt go looking for guys at a health clinic! hah
  • mikeylikes

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    Jun 04, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    i thought chicago was awesome. then again i wasn't really out the til my last year there, so i'm not really basing it off of my gay social life. go to boystown. i wanna go back and party it up there was fun. also, since you arent 21 you can't really go bars and clubs, so hit up your schools lgbt groups. i know my school had a lot of really gay friendly stuff goin on but i was too scared to take advantage
  • SF2PS

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    Jun 04, 2012 5:19 AM GMT
    Look for a youth group - there should be several.

    If you swim, the Smelts are a lot of fun (and good to newbies).

    There are several gay sports leagues - volleyball and softball are big.

    Volunteer - Project Open Hand was where I helped out.

    I loved the summers when I lived there; the winters . . . well, I always planned a trip or two to someplace warmer.
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    I just moved to Chicago from DC - not knowing anyone will force you to be open, so unless you can thrive alone you're going to have to get out there and meet people.

    Join a gym and smile at people, go to a bar and buy a fun looking group of strangers a round of shots (seriously), talk with people in line at the grocery store AND find a gay roommate, even if its just short term they can help you meet people
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    Jun 05, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    Montague said
    flguy18 said
    swimguychicago saidTry Crew, a popular Gay sports bar, the (gay) center on halstead, and Howard Brown, the gay health clinic.


    Awesome! I love sports bars


    I wouldnt go looking for guys at a health clinic! hah
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    Well although you can not hangout in the boystown bars there's a relatively a big gay crowd at all the city colleges so i'm sure you'll find plenty of other college gays to keep you company.

    The Chicago college party scene for the most part is limited to apartment parties which have their own flare not the less. I remember going to different parties with gays from the other city colleges as well. But i recommend joining whatever gay student organization your school has and the Chicago gays are always at the gym too...
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    Which area are you moving to?
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    Jun 20, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    MuscleLuke saidWhich area are you moving to?


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    Jun 20, 2012 9:31 PM GMT
    joeblizz saidthere are no decent gays in chicago

    agreed
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    Jun 20, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    As far as where I'm living - in the loop.