Female Friends & Their Boyfriends

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    Jun 04, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    Well I don't know if you guys have a lot of female friends, but I have plenty and most of them have boyfriends. Now people say stupid stuff like "you shouldn't trust your girlfriend around him" when their girlfriend happens to hang out with me without them around, and they say stuff like "he looks good and he's single" to make things worse.

    I have some particularly close female friends and they do stuff like come to my house and hang out or I'd call them at weird hours, which as I'm not out to anyone, would raise some flags. I'm kind of amazed that their boyfriends aren't too curious and/or they might be but she's not telling me. I never really wanted to ask them about it but do you think that maybe I should take a step back because even my brothers think that I'm dating one of them and think I'm some kind of player or something.

    Note: The girls that I am close with, I'm pretty sure know I'm gay already anyway.
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    MarkRoger saidWell I don't know if you guys have a lot of female friends, but I have plenty and most of them have boyfriends. Now people say stupid stuff like "you shouldn't trust your girlfriend around him" when their girlfriend happens to hang out with me without them around, and they say stuff like "he looks good and he's single" to make things worse.

    I have some particularly close female friends and they do stuff like come to my house and hang out or I'd call them at weird hours, which as I'm not out to anyone, would raise some flags. I'm kind of amazed that their boyfriends aren't too curious and/or they might be but she's not telling me. I never really wanted to ask them about it but do you think that maybe I should take a step back because even my brothers think that I'm dating one of them and think I'm some kind of player or something.

    Note: The girls that I am close with, I'm pretty sure know I'm gay already anyway.


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    Jun 04, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    I won't... they're like my best friends. And... after knowing them for so long, I found out they have some cute gay friends... icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 04, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    I'd say mate that everyone knows your gay, if they didnt work it out themselves then all your friends are talking and assume you are gay.
    No straight guy is going to be cool with another straight guy ringing their girlfriend at odd hours, yet they would care less if a gay guy does.

    Not so bad being out is it? They all know and are probably just waiting for you to confirm.
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    northoz saidI'd say mate that everyone knows your gay, if they didnt work it out themselves then all your friends are talking and assume you are gay.
    No straight guy is going to be cool with another straight guy ringing their girlfriend at odd hours, yet they would care less if a gay guy does.

    Not so bad being out is it? They all know and are probably just waiting for you to confirm.
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    I guess so, that is what I was thinking, and they'd be all OK with it, it's just who they could talk to about it can end up coming back home and that'd be pretty bad at this stage.

    Honestly, I'm totally ready to come out because I'm perfectly fine with it just that due to where I live and the situation at home, what would most likely happen is not desirable as I'd have no one else to turn to.
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
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    northoz saidI'd say mate that everyone knows your gay, if they didnt work it out themselves then all your friends are talking and assume you are gay.
    No straight guy is going to be cool with another straight guy ringing their girlfriend at odd hours, yet they would care less if a gay guy does.

    Not so bad being out is it? They all know and are probably just waiting for you to confirm.
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    I guess so, that is what I was thinking, and they'd be all OK with it, it's just who they could talk to about it can end up coming back home and that'd be pretty bad at this stage.

    Honestly, I'm totally ready to come out because I'm perfectly fine with it just that due to where I live and the situation at home, what would most likely happen is not desirable as I'd have no one else to turn to.


    Thats cool mate, so things are moving along for you, I get that it can be difficult in some circumstances. stay cool and remember not to out right lie to these friends at this stage, seeing as they already know the deal. Maybe if they ask just say something like hmm im working on this atm, and I will want to talk to you about it soon
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    northoz said
    MarkRoger said
    northoz saidI'd say mate that everyone knows your gay, if they didnt work it out themselves then all your friends are talking and assume you are gay.
    No straight guy is going to be cool with another straight guy ringing their girlfriend at odd hours, yet they would care less if a gay guy does.

    Not so bad being out is it? They all know and are probably just waiting for you to confirm.
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    I guess so, that is what I was thinking, and they'd be all OK with it, it's just who they could talk to about it can end up coming back home and that'd be pretty bad at this stage.

    Honestly, I'm totally ready to come out because I'm perfectly fine with it just that due to where I live and the situation at home, what would most likely happen is not desirable as I'd have no one else to turn to.


    Thats cool mate, so things are moving along for you, I get that it can be difficult in some circumstances. stay cool and remember not to out right lie to these friends at this stage, seeing as they already know the deal. Maybe if they ask just say something like hmm im working on this atm, and I will want to talk to you about it soon


    Yeah well it's not coming out to them that will be hard it'd be to the family. Pretty conservative and my extended family is EXTREMELY judgemental of things. Like even though they do shit, they fell they're better than others, really stupid.

    Anyway, less of a coming out thread and back on topic... kind of, do you guys feel bad that guys feel like it's OK to leave their girls with you because they know that nothing will happen between the two of you?
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    Jun 04, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    i'm confused. that's becoming more common though.
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    Jun 04, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    True friends share. If those girls are your friends, they should share their boyfriends with you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 04, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    yes. that seems reasonable to me.