The use of feminine pronouns to refer to other men? HATE, LIKE, or DON'T CARE

  • Thorbaugh

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    Jun 04, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    I really hate it when gay men use feminine pronouns to refer to other men.

    It seems to undermine our identity as men.
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    Jun 04, 2012 8:06 AM GMT
    Thorbaugh saidI really hate it when gay men use feminine pronouns to refer to other men.

    It seems to undermine our identity as men.


    guurl!
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:16 PM GMT
    Thorbaugh saidI really hate it when gay men use feminine pronouns to refer to other men.

    It seems to undermine our identity as men.


    That's the whole reason I do it. If someone is coming across as a macho douche bag the first thing I want to do is call them a bitch.

    It's a fun way to fuck with men who take themselves too seriously icon_biggrin.gif
  • Karl

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    Jun 04, 2012 12:18 PM GMT
    yeah I agree...
    but sometimes I use it for fun icon_lol.gif
    and it costs nothing
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:20 PM GMT
    I think it's really funny, it doesn't bother me when other people do it but I wouldn't .
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:21 PM GMT
    I just ignore it the same way I do when people drop the N-bomb when they refer to me lol
  • E_84

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    Jun 04, 2012 12:24 PM GMT
    HATE! HATE! HATE!

    To me it's totally unacceptable. Why would a man ever try to feminize another man because of his sexual orientation? It's inaccurate, disrespectful to the male anatomy, and offensive.

    Regardless if used in a playful manner or not.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:25 PM GMT
    mortal12 saidI just ignore it the same way I do when people drop the N-bomb when they refer to me lol
    . What? That is way worse! People do that to you? I would never do that. To me, calling someone the N word is like calling. Someone a faggot.... Never funny.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:26 PM GMT
    E_84 saidHATE! HATE! HATE!

    To me it's totally unacceptable. Why would a man ever try to feminize another man because of his sexual orientation? It's inaccurate, disrespectful to the male anatomy, and offensive.

    Regardless if used in a playful manner or not.


    I agree. I think many do this n a lighthearted humorous way and intend no disrespect, but I find it demeaning. I just can't do it. I feel like its mean, even when it isn't intended to be so.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:31 PM GMT
    A bunch of my theatre mates will often swap pronouns when referring to each other; it's especially common/comical when the two people involved are of the opposite sex, have a great working relationship, but are completely unattracted to each other. Some "couples" will often swap titles, the male being the "wife" and the female being the "husband". Makes for some fun and confusing conversations.

    Regarding your question: it depends entirely on the context of the situation. If all individuals involved are consenting, who gives a damn about what I think? icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:31 PM GMT
    MuscleBadger said
    mortal12 saidI just ignore it the same way I do when people drop the N-bomb when they refer to me lol
    . What? That is way worse! People do that to you? I would never do that. To me, calling someone the N word is like calling. Someone a faggot.... Never funny.


    Some people justify it by saying they don't mean it in a derogatory way. thats how they talk to their friends etc. All these terms have subjective values lol.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:32 PM GMT
    anytime people switch up pronouns it confuses me. i'm not fond of it, but i refuse to let it be a hot button issue that will automatically piss me off.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:39 PM GMT
    I'd rather spend my time enjoying myself then worry about what others are saying
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:40 PM GMT
    ... and i do mean enjoy myselficon_cool.gif
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:41 PM GMT
    "Mary"
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:46 PM GMT
    I tend to agree with you. My other dislike is the use of "gays" and (worse) "the gays" instead of "gay people". If we cannot refer to one another in reasonably respectful terms, how can we expect anything better from heterosexual people?
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:47 PM GMT
    Guys that use these expressions live in "el pasado de las reinas". I just have to icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:47 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    Ex_Mil8 saidI tend to agree with you. My other dislike is the use of "gays" and (worse) "the gays" instead of "gay people". If we cannot refer to one another in reasonably respectful terms, how can we expect anything better from heterosexual people?

    Get her!

    Should I kick her in the chunt??

    Edit: pointless, redundant comment from me. Carry on.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:49 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    Ex_Mil8 saidI tend to agree with you. My other dislike is the use of "gays" and (worse) "the gays" instead of "gay people". If we cannot refer to one another in reasonably respectful terms, how can we expect anything better from heterosexual people?

    Get her!


    You just did.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:55 PM GMT
    I don't mind it for a few reasons:

    1. I refer to both my male and female friends as "dude" sometimes. My female friends couldn't give two shits being called "dude", so I generally think that guys don't mind being called "girl" or "she" in the context of playful ribbing. My straight guy friends and I call each other "bitch" all the time.

    2. It's common for Filipino immigrants (read: my parents and relatives and those of quite a few of my friends whom I grew up around) to mix up male and female pronouns because in Tagalog, there is only one unisex pronoun. My mom referring to my guy friends as "she" was a common thing that I got used to growing up.
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    Jun 04, 2012 12:56 PM GMT
    hate
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    Jun 04, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    It's just another way to understand people I don't know, because none of my close friends would speak that way, they are adults. So, if I hear someone calling someone a girl or Mary (in the catty super gay way), I know already I am dealing with a fetal Alcohol Syndrome Adult, or possibly someone who has sustained a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) so I never say anything mean, I just make a mental note never to date such a sad little moron and I leave that establishment as soon as I can.
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    Jun 04, 2012 1:08 PM GMT
    mortal12 saidI just ignore it the same way I do when people drop the N-bomb when they refer to me lol


    Has that happened to you in real life?
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    Jun 04, 2012 1:10 PM GMT
    Loathe, despise, and irritating are all words I would use to describe people using feminine pronouns to describe a gay man. I'm a man. I have a dick. Calling me "girl" only perpetuates the idea that I'm less of a man than my straight counterparts.
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    Jun 04, 2012 1:16 PM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    mortal12 saidI just ignore it the same way I do when people drop the N-bomb when they refer to me lol


    Has that happened to you in real life?


    Yeah