Should there be gay coming out parties?

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    Jun 04, 2012 6:12 PM GMT
    u know how when people have "coming of age" parties like sweet 16 and quinceanera's...debutante balls..

    should gay people have coming-out parties to debut their gayness to the world? I'm serious about this...at around 16 or so.

    What do u think? That way, all the hiding and guessing nonsense can just be avoided and everyone knows upfront and it's celebrated. ..

    I think it would be a good idea. It could start off with the kid hiding in a closet in the house...and over the closet he is hiding in could be a banner that says "he's here, he's gay, get used to it!" ......and then he pops out of the closet to all the fan-fare and friends and family to be there to celebrate.

    kind of like his debut to the gay world. and not for dating purposes, but just for societal acceptance and avoiding a lot of the awkwardness that goes along with hiding it, having people guess, its just out there...in the open, everyone knows. . icon_question.gif

  • sbwlguy

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    Jun 04, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    I don't think so. As years go by kids should be at ease enough to come out with hardly anyone batting an eyelid to the news.
  • Import

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    Jun 04, 2012 9:57 PM GMT
    um, whhaaaaaa????
  • Splendidus_1

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    Jun 04, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    If this post is for real:

    I wish for the times where "being gay" is something as banal as going to the market.
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    I like the idea of a debutante/quinceaƱera party with people dressed up and a band.

    I think when guys come out it's more like a bachelorette party-- lots of alcohol, a gay bar, gogo dancers, and acting slutty.
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Considering we'll use any excuse to party, it's a little odd someone didn't think this up sooner.

    Since we generally have to make the announcement ourselves to our family and friends, I presume these are going to be surprise parties?
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    klassik saidu know how when people have "coming of age" parties like sweet 16 and quinceanera's...debutante balls..

    should gay people have coming-out parties to debut their gayness to the world? I'm serious about this...at around 16 or so.

    What do u think? That way, all the hiding and guessing nonsense can just be avoided and everyone knows upfront and it's celebrated. ..

    I think it would be a good idea. It could start off with the kid hiding in a closet in the house...and over the closet he is hiding in could be a banner that says "he's here, he's gay, get used to it!" ......and then he pops out of the closet to all the fan-fare and friends and family to be there to celebrate.

    kind of like his debut to the gay world. and not for dating purposes, but just for societal acceptance and avoiding a lot of the awkwardness that goes along with hiding it, having people guess, its just out there...in the open, everyone knows. . icon_question.gif



    Are their straight coming out parties?
  • Just_Tim

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    Jun 04, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    No.
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    Only if I can have a sash.
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    Yes. So much yes. I think I might throw one for myself soon! Or have someone throw one for me icon_biggrin.gif WHY DID NO ONE THINK OF THIS BEFORE???
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    If no one knows he is gay, then who is going to plan the party.
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard saidIf no one knows he is gay, then who is going to plan the party.


    Is this like one of those if a gay tree falls in a forest and there's no one around so hear it bitch and complain does it make a sound type of deals?
  • Splendidus_1

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    Jun 04, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard saidIf no one knows he is gay, then who is going to plan the party.


    The OP did say "its just out there...in the open, everyone knows" so I'm guessing this is for the ones who would wear his mom's heels when he was little, and played with barbies.

    Or something like that, but that's a good point! Haha
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    Jun 04, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    I think that's making too big a deal over it. It's who you are. That's like having a party celebrating your eye color. icon_neutral.gif
  • Markguy

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    Jun 04, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    Seriously? I just want a society where people say, "Oh, he's gay? Cool. Tell him to bring his boyfriend along. If he doesn't have one, does he want to meet my cousin?"
  • Import

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    Jun 05, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    LOL, I like how the OP depicts the scenerio of a gay kid hiding in an actual closet in his house with a banner over top stating he's gay and get used to it icon_lol.gif

    I bet a coming out party would be fun to plan
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    Jun 05, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    awesome idea, especially if a person is Kinsey 2, 3, or 4 ... We live in a world where every one is forced to be a Kinsey 6 or Kinsey 0. The Kinsey study shows people are so much like animals. There exist all degree of straight/ gay in 500 animal species. Some of which can biologically take on either sex. It's religions and ideologies and cultures that inhibit people.

    I'm a naturalist and this idea rocks.
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    Jun 05, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    Why would we want more imported artifice from the straight world. Besides, isn't that tradition kinda dying out, anyway?
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    Jun 05, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    Sure. Why not? A party of acceptance. You accepting who you are and others accepting who are you.
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    Jun 05, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidAlso, with people coming out earlier the people coming out aren't allowed to drink alcohol. Not a very good party for them is it?


    who said anything about alcohol?

    at sweet 16s its not expected to serve a 16 y/o alcohol.. why should it be any different in this case? alcohol for the adults, but who cares about the booze

    all im saying is it would be nice to be celebrated, like a milsestone in a gay kid's life. could make it a fun event. being gay and coming out shouldnt always have to be such a serious and dreaded event.

    i dunno, just a thought
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    Jun 05, 2012 12:30 AM GMT
    would make a great movie...
  • ytOwen

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    Jun 05, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    YES!
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    Jun 05, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    I want a party...
  • Delivis

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    Jun 05, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    No...

    No more than straight people should have straight coming out parties.
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    Jun 05, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    Such thing would only serve that homosexuality is something to make a big deal about. Sure if you are a bisexual who has always lived their adult life as a straight married family man, and have now decided to bat for the other team, and start to live the gay lifestyle, there may well be a reasion to make a big deal as so many lives could be affected by those actions. But if your just a Bona Fide Homosexual, no need for it, you just get on with living your own life.