Are there really bisexuals?

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    Jun 05, 2012 4:14 AM GMT
    Iv never meet a real Bisexual person before. I have had people tell me they were and eventually just come out as completely gay (usually the gay's that have not fully excepted themselves yet). If your a real bisexual can you explain to me how it works? Do you find both sexes EQUALLY attractive or does one take precedence over the other? Would you be sexually satisfied if you were in a relationship, knowing you would want to hook-up with the opposite sex of your partners?icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    This topic has never been raised before. How interesting. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Just kidding. This topic has been the subject of about 9 kabillion threads. The repetition gets a little tiresome.
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    I wonder if the search function needs to be promoted more?

    be a tad more visable perhaps? hmmmmicon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Yeah this topic is like weekly on here so... yeah. I can guarantee you that bi-sexual people exist although I don't think I'm one of them...
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    What's the big fucking deal about bisexuals? If one wants to claim they play for both teams why does it matter?
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    Jun 05, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidWhat's the big fucking deal about bisexuals? If one wants to claim they play for both teams why does it matter?



    I didn't say there was a problem with it. I'm just interested. Stop getting so damn worked up about everything
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    Jun 05, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
    I've never met one, but maybe that's because real bisexuals just pass for straight? I'd be curious to hear about a bisexual who cheated on his bf with a woman.
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    Jun 05, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidI've never met one, but maybe that's because real bisexuals just pass for straight? I'd be curious to hear about a bisexual who cheated on his bf with a woman.


    I knew one. icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 05, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    " Some men like women

    Some men like men

    Then there are bisexuals,

    Tho people say theyre fooling themselves"

    Phoebe from FRIENDS
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    Jun 05, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    OP, I guess I'll take this space to address your post and not just prove I'm a post nazi. :-)

    I believe bisexuals do exist.

    I consider myself to be bi. I find I'm attracked to about 3 females for every 7 men I'm into. I've had relationships with people of both genders...having both male & female live ins/partners and yes, I've been romantically in love with people from both sexes.
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    Jun 05, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    OP, your misconceptions are all wrong. Almost no-one is 50-50 in attraction any more than people are 100%. The vast majority of people are along the lines of 59/41, 96/4, 68/32, and so forth. The ratios, which don't mean much, keep changing depending on the day, the mood, the year, recent experiences, who you met last night, and so forth.

    Bisexuals are those who can ENJOY having sex and/or sexual fantasies about both genders. It does not mean they have to screw everyone. Bisexuals are capable of monogamy. How is this possible? The same way monogamy is possible among het's and homo's. Anyone who has ever been in a monogamous relationship knows that one person does not satisfy every desire, that there is temptation and fantasy everywhere, and that sometimes monogamy seems unfair. That does not mean monogamous people are bad or untrue for thinking such thoughts. They are only bad when they break a commitment to fidelity. Whether one is bi, het or homo is not the issue.

    Sex researchers tell us that sexuality -- of which gender orientation is only one of MANY parts -- is not precisely fixed. It changes with time. Don't box yourself in. Don't box others in. Be open to possibility.

    Suggesting bisexuality does not exist is as oppressive and misguided as saying homosexuality does not exist. For both orientations, it has been pointed out that it is just a phase someone is going through, that is is unnatural and impure, and that these poor individuals are just confused.
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    Jun 05, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    Nivek saidOP, your misconceptions are all wrong. Almost no-one is 50-50 in attraction any more than people are 100%. The vast majority of people are along the lines of 59/41, 96/4, 68/32, and so forth. The ratios, which don't mean much, keep changing depending on the day, the mood, the year, recent experiences, who you met last night, and so forth.

    Bisexuals can ENJOY having sex and/or sexual fantasies about both genders. It does not mean they have to screw everyone. Bisexuals are capable of monogamy. How is this possible? The same way monogamy is possible among het's and homo's. Anyone who has every been in a monogamous relationship knows that one person does not satisfy every desire, that there is temptation and fantasy everywhere, and that sometimes monogamy seems unfair. That does not mean monogamous people are bad or untrue for thinking such thoughts. They are only bad when they break a commitment to fidelity. Whether one is bi, het or homo is not the issue.

    Sex researchers tell us that sexuality -- of which gender orientation is only one of MANY parts -- is not precisely fixed. It changes with time. Don't box yourself in. Don't box others in. Be open to possibility.

    Suggesting bisexuality does not exist is as oppressive and misguided as saying homosexuality does not exist. For both orientations, it has been pointed out that it is just a phase someone is going through, that is is unnatural and impure, and that these poor individuals are just confused.

    Thank you, well said. (From one who currently has simultaneous intimate, loving relationships with both a (very open minded) woman and a (very open minded) man.)
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    Jun 05, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    I had posted a similar topic..but no one bothered to reply..good to see replies here/...
    my post went like this...:
    I have two questions:
    1)Are there really any bisexuals..?I mean the more you read about it..the more contrary reports you come across..
    I know the kinsey scale and how it states that sexuality can be gauged in a scale..with gay and heterosexuality on either sides...
    but I would like to ask about real life experiences.....anyone swinging both sides...? How has it been...are you still open to it..or have chosen to be completely on one side....or do you enjoy both..to what degree....maybe on a different level....
    or is it just a garb to hide ones inherent gayness..? just trying to run away...hide.....
    2) IF someone is really bisexual what are the choices he/she has....
    I mean gays might shun him...(some do)...and then....if he gets married and yet has these yearnings for a male partner.....he will be cheating on both...
    i mean.....what really can he do..? if God has made him the way he is....has desires for both sexes.......if he marries then he shud be faithful...but then he suppresses his other side....if he doesnt marry......then......???/
    fill in the blanks.....
    what do you think guys...what has been your experience....


    for me..i feel it would be nice to be able to be with someone i like irrespective of the gender, although I am a novice sexually and a long way to go either ways.....but what i feel is if someone likes someone..why put a label to it...?
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    Jun 05, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    For 10 years I had his chicks in my bed. Proof enough of their existence?
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    Jun 05, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    One of my closest friends is the definition of bisexual. His last relationship was with a girl for about a year and a half and before that was with a man for 2 years. He has no preference over another what ever he finds attractive he goes for.
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    Jun 05, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    showme saidThis topic has never been raised before. How interesting. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Just kidding. This topic has been the subject of about 9 kabillion threads. The repetition gets a little tiresome.


    the op kinda has a rule that doesn't create topics if they haven't been fully vetted yet... a dozen times.
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    Jun 05, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    Bisexuals are under a ton of pressure to keep their sexuality to themselves and to pretend to be straight or gay. So generally they do. From experience I can assure you it is just so tiring to deal with bigoted comments and naive questions, and then to have people not believe anything I say. When around gays...If I say that guy over there is hot as fuck and I'd love to pound him, no-one questions it, and they grin with approval. But if I say the same thing about a chick, the reactions are never accepting. For bi's in het relationships it can even be worse. So really, what incentive is there to come out to anyone?

    The situation for bi's is similar to that of gays 20 years ago: you do not exist, this is just a phase you are going through, why don't you realize your true self and stop pretending, its just unnatural, you're really screwed up, you can be converted, blah, blah, blah...
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    I've had bi friends and playmates. I rather envy them. I can't help thinking the world is twice as beautiful for bisexuals.
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    Adonis_001 saidIv never meet a real Bisexual person before. I have had people tell me they were and eventually just come out as completely gay (usually the gay's that have not fully excepted themselves yet). If your a real bisexual can you explain to me how it works? Do you find both sexes EQUALLY attractive or does one take precedence over the other? Would you be sexually satisfied if you were in a relationship, knowing you would want to hook-up with the opposite sex of your partners?icon_neutral.gif


    I'm bisexual and to me i guess they are equally attractive though there a higher ratio of girls that i like,as far as taking precedence over the other men take the cake women are too dramatic and irrational i cant put up with them
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    Never heard of a bisexual guy sneaking out of his man's bed to see his girlfriend...jus sayin...
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:15 PM GMT
    Kano saidas far as taking precedence over the other men take the cake women are too dramatic and irrational i cant put up with them


    Have you ever been in a relationship with a dude? My relationships with guys have been far more intense and volatile. Gay guys can be downright mean in a way that I have never experienced with girls. Girls are waaaay less work. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    Kano saidas far as taking precedence over the other men take the cake women are too dramatic and irrational i cant put up with them


    Have you ever been in a relationship with a dude? My relationships with guys have been far more intense and volatile. Girls are waaaay more easy-going in my experience.


    yeah it lasted a week
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    Yes, we exist. Even though close minded gays can't accept it.
    It's the person who turns me on and they can be female or male and get off doing both .And it's hot when at the same time!!!icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    Yes virginia, there are actual bisexuals.

    No, they aren't mythical, like unicorns. Well, they *can* be like unicorns, just with different placement icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    Data from Alfred Kinsey's original studies
    Bisexuality
    Males:
    Kinsey estimated that nearly 46% of the male population had engaged in both heterosexual and homosexual activities, or "reacted to" persons of both sexes, in the course of their adult lives. 11.6% of white males (ages 20-35) were given a rating of 3 (about equal heterosexual and homosexual experience/response) on the 7-point Kinsey Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale for this period of their lives.

    NOTE: Total sample size were over 5300 males. About 20 percent of this were males previously in prisons. Removal of the prison population to reflect the general population shows the new conclusions (homo, bi, and hetero) are different only by a few percent.

    It would be great to have another survey to include other countries.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_Reports
    http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/research/ak-data.html#bisexuality