wrestling as foreplay

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    Jun 05, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    First off let me say that I am not knocking it, I just don't quite understand it.

    (silly questions)

    1. are there rules involved

    2. do you keep score

    (not silly questions)

    1. what is the facination behind it, I have come across quite a few guys who have asked me if I was into wrestling. At first it was just guys older than me that were asking. I was thinking it might be some sort of repressed high school fantasies from a time when being gay was not as acceptable, but now I am coming across younger guys who are asking the same question. Is it really really wrestling or just aggresive foreplay, rolling around with another naked body?

    2. last year I met a guy at Ramrod, went back to his place. when we got there he asked me if I liked to wrestle, I said no. he then asked if I liked to fight. I asked as foreplay and what exactly did he mean.. He said he was referring to MMA (mixed martial arts).. of course I said no.. so the question is, is this common, do many guys like to fight before having sex?

    3. is wrestling just a way of expressing power over someone and dominating them?


    (note: in regards to the MMA, I probably should have known that one was coming because at the bar he kept putting me in a headlock and punching my back)



  • FuriousGeorge

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    Jun 05, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    I've never done it, but I REALLY want to.

    Why? If I had to analyze myself, I'd say my gayness comes from a deep appreciation for all things masculine. Part of that includes displays of physical strength and athleticism. And hey, let's not forget the part about rolling around on the floor grappling each other! I guess you could say it's a kind of way to embrace and celebrate masculinity while still being intimate.

    There's probably also a dominance factor for a lot of men, though I don't think it's necessarily true that the one who initiates it wants to be dominant. Again, it goes back to wanting to feel that strength, whether in themselves or in their partner.

    In any event, it sounds fucking hot.
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    Jun 05, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    (silly questions)

    1. are there rules involved


    The ones you and your partner agree to. "Try not to maim each other" is usually an overarching one.

    2. do you keep score

    Not always. If it's all scholastic and stuff you'd probably want a third-party that knows how to ref keeping score (which often defeats the erotic intent of the bout). Usually only if the partners are in parity competition-wise and the scoring is just pins/taps. But more often than not, "1-0" is a good enough score to lead into the erotic phase of the action.

    (not silly questions)

    1. what is the facination behind it, I have come across quite a few guys who have asked me if I was into wrestling. At first it was just guys older than me that were asking. I was thinking it might be some sort of repressed high school fantasies from a time when being gay was not as acceptable, but now I am coming across younger guys who are asking the same question. Is it really really wrestling or just aggresive foreplay, rolling around with another naked body?


    For many, it's a way to get the blood pumping and the heart rate going. Exercising some inter-masculine creativity pre-nookie tends to be a turn-on. The adolescent-repression-acting-out angle is still real no matter what age, but you'll find participants who use the wrestling often to celebrate the alleviation of whatever repressive issues they had. For those heavy into the frot stuff, wrestling can be the appetizing foreplay and the main course all in one.

    2. last year I met a guy at Ramrod, went back to his place. when we got there he asked me if I liked to wrestle, I said no. he then asked if I liked to fight. I asked as foreplay and what exactly did he mean.. He said he was referring to MMA (mixed martial arts).. of course I said no.. so the question is, is this common, do many guys like to fight before having sex?

    It happens (boxing/MMA-style fighting as "Round 1"), but it's not as common as the wrestling. It's all in the rules you agree to (see above). It's not your thing, but if it had been, you could agree to, say, a light-touching slapboxing match, or body-punches-with-gloves-allowed-but-don't-mess-up-the-pretty-face, or kicks-above-the-waist-only-thank-you, etc.

    You'd probably want to be just a tad more intimately familiar with somebody who seeks to put you in a kimura and/or punch your lights out (or have you do such to him) before you spend an evening with him -- you know, sharing penal records, that kind of stuff icon_razz.gif. Plus, I imagine there's nothing quite like explaining to his lawyers that he willfully had you box his face in as an intended means of arousal.

    There are plenty of personals sites for just this type of thing, so unless you're in some remote place (and the word "Ramrod" suggests you're not), he can find his sexual sparring partners on there, instead of fishing for them in a bar. Like many, he probably just thinks every mesomorph in town is by definition into combat sports participation, and that's just not so.

    3. is wrestling just a way of expressing power over someone and dominating them?

    or having it expressed unto them... it's BDSM meets the locker room. However, it doesn't always have to be, in pro-wrestling parlance, a squash job. It can be competitive, voluntary back-and-forth, or just roleplaying. So it goes back to what you and your opposing partner agree to. Overcoming an aggressive "oppressor" and turning the tables is a turn-on for many as well.

    (note: in regards to the MMA, I probably should have known that one was coming because at the bar he kept putting me in a headlock and punching my back)

    Yeah, he sounds like a bit of a creep. ((Punch)) ((Squeeze)) ((Punch)) "So... are you into wrestling? Ya wanna fight?" lol Hope you didn't have to change your number for that guy.