Why do people like to boast that they don't have to pay?

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    Jun 05, 2012 4:51 PM GMT
    I've been recently hanging out with my highschool friends, one of them turned out to be gay and he always kinda killed the friendly atmosphere when he kept boasting about how he got guys to pay for his drinks at the bars, or meals at his dates, or even got guys to pay for his credit cards.

    But really is it something that you would enjoy boasting about? I don't have to pay for most of my dates as well, but i did insist on paying first and didn't plan to have them pay either. And that would not be something i would be boasting about when meeting my friends as well.

    Is that something people would do just to boost their own egos, that they're hot and fabulous? I know people like to see other people suffer rather than seeing them happy. But as a friend, i would love to see my friends enjoying their lives but not being a bitch.
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    Jun 05, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    There doesn't have to be a deep pyschological reason behind it except him just being an annoying bitch.
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    Jun 05, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    He wants everyone to know he's a bottom.
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    And he clearly wants everyone to think he's all that to make up for his own uncomfortableness with being gay.
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    Wow, what a fag.
  • jim_sf

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    Jun 05, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    That ego of his is ugly. Hope he reins it in before he loses his looks (and thus his meal ticket).
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    Depends on how he's doing it. He could be playfully reminding his friends that gender roles don't apply to his relationships in the same ways they do for straight males. That seems like it could be harmless fun to me.
  • mybud

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    Jun 05, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    Whores have egos?
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    tyklong saidI've been recently hanging out with my highschool friends, one of them turned out to be gay and he always kinda killed the friendly atmosphere when he kept boasting about how he got guys to pay for his drinks at the bars, or meals at his dates, or even got guys to pay for his credit cards.

    But really is it something that you would enjoy boasting about? I don't have to pay for most of my dates as well, but i did insist on paying first and didn't plan to have them pay either. And that would not be something i would be boasting about when meeting my friends as well.

    Is that something people would do just to boost their own egos, that they're hot and fabulous? I know people like to see other people suffer rather than seeing them happy. But as a friend, i would love to see my friends enjoying their lives but not being a bitch.


    its happened to me a few times (i don't go out to bars much so not going to read too much into that) including once when the manager came out and gave us all a round of free drinks but I'd never go around boasting about it.
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    i once got a guy to pay for my sunglasses...

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    Jun 05, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    jim_stl saidThat ego of his is ugly. Hope he reins it in before he loses his looks (and thus his meal ticket).


    Indeed he's not good looking, and other guys usually joke about how ugly he is. I never joined those jokes, but i think those jokes got to him and now he's being a bitch just to prove that he's fabulous and not ugly, which now makes him now ugly in a new way, maybe he listened to too much Born this way.
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    Ha. No one in my age bracket brags about such things. I wonder why?icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    I don't generally have to pay, either...but I'm not sure that it is anything to boast about. I always offer to pay, or to contribute - I feel like it is the appropriate thing to do. Having someone want to spend their money on you is something that should be appreciated, not taken for granted...they probably worked hard for it, and it's a nice gesture for them to offer to pay for you.
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
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    showme saidHa. No one in my age bracket brags about such things. I wonder why?icon_wink.gif

    Oh you could totally rent yourself out for a sandwich. I'd buy you one myself.


    Are you saying I would whore myself out for the price of a $5 footlong?icon_eek.gif I should ask some of our more, um, commercial members if there is a market for that.
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    tyklong said
    jim_stl saidThat ego of his is ugly. Hope he reins it in before he loses his looks (and thus his meal ticket).


    Indeed he's not good looking, and other guys usually joke about how ugly he is. I never joined those jokes, but i think those jokes got to him and now he's being a bitch just to prove that he's fabulous and not ugly, which now makes him now ugly in a new way, maybe he listened to too much Born this way.


    Well that changes it...he only does it to raise up the feelings which your friends have left in ruins like the Serbian economy after NATO.
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:55 PM GMT
    This might be a cultural thing, but around here offering to pay is seen as rude. It's like telling someone they aren’t self sufficient. But I think you can expect that from a country that also has a saying "Strength from loneliness"
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    Jun 05, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    Sounds to me like he, deep down inside, feels very little self worth and is trying to reassure his worth by letting others know that there are people out there willing to pay his way.... so he must be worth something.

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    Jun 05, 2012 11:27 PM GMT
    It is so lovely to be able to purchase ass. Ho hum.
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    We don't buy no drinks at the bar
    We pop champagne 'cause we got that dough
    Let me hear you say aah
    If you want me, say aahhhh
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
    Stuttershock saidThis might be a cultural thing, but around here offering to pay is seen as rude. It's like telling someone they aren’t self sufficient. But I think you can expect that from a country that also has a saying "Strength from loneliness"


    Yikes, 'Strength from loneliness'. Sounds like Ingmar Bergman fairly represented his native culture.

    On the bright side, your people tend to be very HOT!
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidHe wants everyone to know he's a bottom.


    Agreed. Whether you admit it or not. but the bottom is like the girl in the relationship so I do not think he should be paying for dates or meals.
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    Jun 06, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    My friend always tells me that I shouldn't have to spend any money on drinks and just get people to get me them, but I always felt weird about that - I wouldn't want just anyone to get me a drink especially if I wouldn't want to reciprocate in some way (as in, if this was unsolicited). So generally, if I want a drink, just get one myself, otherwise I don't go out much.
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    Jun 06, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    daviddoublebay saidIt's rude and would hurt my feelings if I knew a guy I had gone out with was bragging about that.

    The only reason that I usually pay for dinner or a movie is because I realize the guy's allowance from his parents isn't very much. When his choice is between paying for a date or putting gas in his car so he can drive to school, paying for a date just isn't really an option.

    I'm sure that if a straight guy told his parents he needed money for a date, they would generally be agreeable to slipping him a few bucks. But for a gay kid to ask for date money, I don't think parents are as forthcoming.





    Why is some who is 50 dating guys with allowances LOL
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    Jun 06, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    Balancing said
    Stuttershock saidThis might be a cultural thing, but around here offering to pay is seen as rude. It's like telling someone they aren’t self sufficient. But I think you can expect that from a country that also has a saying "Strength from loneliness"


    Yikes, 'Strength from loneliness'. Sounds like Ingmar Bergman fairly represented his native culture.

    On the bright side, your people tend to be very HOT!


    Well, i'm not Swedish, but i'll pass the message on to them.
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    Jun 06, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    dontknowwhy said
    unfounded7 saidHe wants everyone to know he's a bottom.


    Agreed. Whether you admit it or not. but the bottom is like the girl in the relationship so I do not think he should be paying for dates or meals.



    TOO BAD YOU BELIEVE THAT BOTTOMS ARE THE GIRL. I KNOW A FEW BOTTOMS THAT WOULD LIKE TO KICK YOUR ASS JUST TO SHOW YOU WHO'S A MAN.