Who belonged to a frat?

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    Jun 05, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    Were you in or out at that time?

    Also for guys who weren't a member of a frat, why not? Had you thought of joining?
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:08 PM GMT
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
    I got fucked by a frat guy before. I am pretty sure that would consider him "in" at the time.
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    PiKA
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    Jun 05, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    AlexanderB saidI got fucked by a frat guy before. I am pretty sure that would consider him "in" at the time.
    That makes you a frat by injection.
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    Jun 06, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidPiKA


    Were you out? Either way, what was it like?
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Jun 06, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    I was "in" but being blown by 1 and blowing another at different times. lol
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    Jun 06, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    I am part of an academic honors fraternity, and it's a pretty complex system of relations. I'm currently out to some members within my chapter and others are very hardcore religious so I don't want to be any closer than professional with them. The reason why I'm not is because I have had a thing for our chapter's president (female). However, one of my closest brothers is a girl (we're co-ed; long story) from the UCLA chapter and I'm out to her and I assume their chapter.
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    Jun 06, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    I didn't join mainly because of the expenses. I also didn't fit in that crowd. I've never been a cocky type of guy and it appears most frat guys have that type of personality.

    The old joke is I didn't have to buy friends in college.
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    Jun 06, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    msuNtx saidI didn't join mainly because of the expenses. I also didn't fit in that crowd. I've never been a cocky type of guy and it appears most frat guys have that type of personality.

    The old joke is I didn't have to buy friends in college.


    I went academic. It was cheaper, had a more comfortable dynamic, and had way less daddy issues. True story.
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    Jun 06, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    I was in Delta Sigma Pi-the International Fraternity of business students. It is a co-ed fraternity and loved every moment of it. I was not out when I was in the fraternity but a few years later when I told some of my "brothers" they knew but just me to tell them.

    Best part of my college experience.
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    Jun 06, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    msuNtx saidThe old joke is I didn't have to buy friends in college.

    I didn't buy mine. I contributed to a great organization that raised $35,000 for ALS research, that cleaned Saint Louis highways, that supported sororities in their charities etc...

    Yes we have dues but guess what dues go to at a Fraternity that does NOT have a house.

    60% General Headquarters for administrative costs
    15% insurance
    5% school items
    20% open budget.

    I rand SLUs second largest Fraternity and was dear friends with the first and third. We discussed this often. Money was never for anything but to take care of GHQ.

    I was a Phi Delt. I loved my brothers and my biggest and best friend in the world is a delt. The people who helped me come out were delts, the people who entrusted me to make my chapter one of the best in MO were delts.

    Greek and Proud.
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    Jun 06, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    I was a pledge for about 2 or 3 months. It honestly wasn't an experience worth anything. I was completely out and a lot of active members wanted me to initiate because I was out. A few years later I was meeting up with them and they said wanted me to initiate because they knew there were so many closeted members(themselves included) that it would be way easier for them to come out if there was already someone who was out.

    It honestly wasn't worth it. We drank a lot. I was waaaay underage at the time. My entire pledge class became overweight. A lot of the suffered academically, myself included. Very few people I know in social fraternities I would say are genuine. There's a lot of violence against women, not just physical. The only positive aspect I felt was that they made you become "friends" with people you would have otherwise stayed away from. That allowed for some eye opening experiences. That's really it though.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 06, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    I certainly was while in college, at a small private liberal arts college.. had a great time and it was long before I accepted who I am.
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    Jun 06, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    Coach_Mike saidPiKA


    Were you out? Either way, what was it like?


    Let's just say I wasn't out and leave it at that. I was a complete douchebag to women during that period. I probably have some bad karma coming my way still.
  • dancedancekj

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    Jun 06, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    First off, nobody was in a "frat". The correct term is fraternity. Sorry about the semantics, but the effect it has on me is sort of like when someone calls me "a gay".

    The fraternity I joined left a long and positive effect on my life. My chapter was founded by some outstanding individuals, and has set up an organization in which young men are able to become better people than when they came in. One of the fun things is that you are beholden to each other as brothers no matter one's religious beliefs, political beliefs, personal interests and activities, sexual orientation, or socioeconomic persuasion, and you learn a lot through interaction with people from all different backgrounds. You learn to appreciate them, and they also learn from you and appreciate you as a person. In fact, I found them to be some of my brothers to be the most inspiring and upstanding individuals I've ever met.

    We are humans, based on a need to be social and belong to a community. I feel that guys, in particular, have a difficult time finding the socialization they require with other guys, due to the fact that society sometimes ostracizes the display of male emotion and affection (the idea of bromance being a very modern creation) For many men, these peer groups are organically created among groups of friends. For some, the camaraderie they desire are also found in group activities, such as athletic/sports teams.

    For many men, when they come to college, they unfortunately leave behind their previous high school social groups and friends. Some may find it among floor mates in their residence halls, others may be lucky enough to have preexisting connections among their classmates. It's not easy though, and though a lot of college men may create friendships, a lot who joined my fraternity expressed that they wanted to find a core group of guys that they could become friends with, aspire to learn from, and be a part of.

    Most of the guys in my fraternity never came to college with the intention of joining a Greek organization. We studied hard, did volunteer work, debated over social and political issues with each other, participated in campus activities and community events, and were a positive presence with our university. We took care of our brothers when they needed it - a brother who had a parent pass away unexpectedly, a brother who was suffering from severe alcoholism, another suffering from cancer. It's kind of like a giant extended family that looks after you, and you look after your brothers, much like any other community. We also had a lot of fun, partying and doing all sorts of shennanigans.

    I attribute my success as an individual and as a health professional to some of my experiences in the fraternity. It helped to make me a better person, a better man. I then get to pass down what I know and help others who come after me in the fraternity.



    Aaanyway, here's the tl;dr - Fraternities can be a positive experience (if you pick the right one), fraternity = organized bromance
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    Jun 06, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    This one guy who twisted my emotions and broke me in the end. I'll never join, if I attend a University cause of that.
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    Jun 06, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    Pinny said
    I was a Phi Delt. I loved my brothers and my biggest and best friend in the world is a delt. The people who helped me come out were delts, the people who entrusted me to make my chapter one of the best in MO were delts.

    Greek and Proud.


    You got lucky. I liked the organization and I still do, so I pledged for awhile just recently but I did not care for my chapter after awhile and I also didn't have time for it.
  • TooTall

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    Jun 06, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    I was a Pike. Also had a great time and helped raise money every year by doing a "football run" to our rival school's city before that big game. Raised almost $200,000 for Cancer Research while I was there. Very proud of that.
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    Jun 06, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    I guess everyone has to decide for themselves if they really want to be friends with guys who'll tie you up and leave you naked out by the mental hospital six miles from campus.
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    Jun 06, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    I graduated Phi Beta Kappa..which basically means nothing =D
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    Jun 06, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    I wasn't in a social fraternity, but I was in Phi Mu Alpha, the men's professional music fraternity. We were about the most social of the "trade" frats, and our favorite thing to do was to make the circuit serenading sororities in 4-part harmony. We even had a book of official serenades. The bitches ate that shit up.
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    Jun 06, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    TooTall saidI was a Pike. Also had a great time and helped raise money every year by doing a "football run" to our rival school's city before that big game. Raised almost $200,000 for Cancer Research while I was there. Very proud of that.

    Once a Pike, always a Pike. Where'd you go to school?
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    Jun 06, 2012 4:38 AM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidI guess everyone has to decide for themselves if they really want to be friends with guys who'll tie you up and leave you naked out by the mental hospital six miles from campus.


    When I was pledging to pdt, I told the guys that they will have the same exact fate in the same location as the guys in the link if they even thought about hazing me icon_smile.gif :

    http://www.unitednativeamerica.com/hanging.html