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    Jun 06, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    So I am living with one of my buddies from college for a few weeks. We were paired up with another guy five years ago for a big project in school. Since the three of us have been come really good friends. The other guy and I hung out all the time when in college but the guy I'm living with right now, we didn't hang out as much. I have had a huge crush on him since about the time we were paired up in that class. He doesn't know that I am gay and I doubt that he knows I have a crush on him. We ride together to work everyday, and since we live together, well we are together 24/7 for now and my crush is definitely coming back. Friday we went out and got drunk he was trying to hook up with a girl at the bar we were at and he wanted me to try to hook up with a girl also. All I could thnk about was how much I wish I were that girl....How I wanted to be the one he was hitting on and trying to hook up with. The girls invited us to their place and he went but I drove home. He went with me home because he had to get something. On the way to the house I really wanted to just lean over and kiss him or something. I did rub his ass when he was unlocking the front door. I don't know what to do, I really like him but I know I don't have a chance.

    Sorry for the long maybe confusing story. I was just wanting to have some advice on what to do. Liking a guy I can't have is so normal for me. I wish I didn't have that problem.

    Anybody got any advice for me?

    Thanks in advance!
  • Hotgymguy22

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    Jun 06, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    That's always hard. If he had any interest in guys you would probably know it. You'd see him make eyes with you or he'd make a random comment here or that that would throw you back some. Or when he gets drunk he'd use getting drunk as an 'excuse' to flirt with you...

    Unless you see an obvious sign that he might be interested then I'd leave it alone. It'd be better to keep him as a friend than to lose him because he isn't attracted to guys and you weirded him out.
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    Jun 06, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    tryintofindme saidAnybody got any advice for me?
    Yeah. Do him.
  • harshal84

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    Jun 06, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    Ok you can move ahead. There is no issue with it. But keep something in mind while going for sex, especially when you go for anal sex.

    1: Play Safe: There are some serious safety issues regarding anal sex that you need to be aware of at all times.

    First and foremost, whatever touches the anus shouldn't be touching anything else. Never never never take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly.

    Of course, STDs are also a major concern with anal sex. This isn't just limited to AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. can all be transmitted through anal sex. You shouldn't be having anal sex without a condom; it's not worth the risk to either partner.

    2: Start Small: Simply put, a penis is an awful big to be the first thing you stick up someone's butt . Better to start with something smaller and work your way up. Fingers are an excellent beginning point. Use one finger, then two, to initiate your partner into the mysteries of anal penetration. Try it while performing oral sex for an extra thrill. Be sure your fingernails are trimmed, not to forget the lube, and you might even want to wear latex gloves.

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    Jun 06, 2012 1:46 PM GMT
    tryintofindme said...I was just wanting to have some advice on what to do. Liking a guy I can't have is so normal for me. I wish I didn't have that problem.

    Anybody got any advice for me?

    Thanks in advance!

    You answer your own question. Like a guy you CAN have. And forget this guy as a BF. Fixating on him prevents you from devoting your attentions to gay guys that you CAN have.
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    Jun 06, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    tryintofindme said Anybody got any advice for me?


    Tell him you're gay and prefer to be hooked up with a guy.
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    Jun 06, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    It's a story as old as gay time, until you come out of the closet and have the ability to freely pursue guys that can reciprocate your feelings you will be destined to antagonise over friends who will never give you the romantic attention you need.
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    Jun 06, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    tryintofindme said...I was just wanting to have some advice on what to do. Liking a guy I can't have is so normal for me. I wish I didn't have that problem.

    Anybody got any advice for me?

    Thanks in advance!

    You answer your own question. Like a guy you CAN have. And forget this guy as a BF. Fixating on him prevents you from devoting your attentions to gay guys that you CAN have.


    ^ this

    it's unfulfilling and a waste of time crushing on straight guys.... dear OP, don't waste too much time on straight guys. They'll get married while you'll just get older - alone.
  • mybud

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    Jun 06, 2012 6:55 PM GMT
    Dude...If you try anything with this guy it will end badly...You need to come to the realization he's str8 and nothing you can do can change that....You need to focus on your own kind.. Gay men.....Get involved in the gay social lifestyle..attract those who are like you...
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    Jun 06, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    agreed with most people. you're barking up the wrong tree. you can't make him gay, just like he can't make you straight. even if you're drunk and having a "bromance" moment, its not going to be that way when he's not drunk.

    find someone who is available for you to fall for. your friend is your friend. maybe if you come out to him and he isn't freaked out about it, you can have a deeper friendship based on mutual acceptance, and he can act as your wing man. but its best not to force things.
  • mikeylikes

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    Jun 06, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    you have to live with him and hes your friend. dont touch. until you find a healthy place to do the gay stuff youre itching to do, youre going to keep trying to do it in the wrong place. go on grindr and find some dick, you'll feel better
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    Jun 06, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    Wait you rubbed his ass when he was unlocking the door??

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    Jun 06, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    globe_trotter saidWait you rubbed his ass when he was unlocking the door??

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    LOL yeah I was kinda wondering about that part myself. Rubbed his ass in - on the way past him? <--- Not likely he got the hint. Rubbed his ass as in - dang baby! You gonna SHARE this? <--- I'm guessing far less likely, but if that was the case it would certainly lay ground work for some potential.

    Otherwise I agree with the majority here, snap out of it. Unwanted advances are pretty awkward and could kill a friendship. You might just say to hell with it and come out to him, one thing for certain if there was a snoballs chance it would present itself right about there.