how to meet gay friends in Montreal?

  • vharko

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    Jun 06, 2012 11:10 PM GMT
    I moved here for school, i'm 22 and have been having a hard time to make friends in this city. i've met lots of guys who when i tell them either that i have a partner or that I'm not necessarily looking for sex lose any interest in me. summer is coming and I would really like to be spending it in the village on the patios, but alas i cant find non horny guys who are only interested in sleeping with me (not that its a bad thing) but come on is everyone in this city only interested in humping everything that moves? I'm a very pleasant and fun person but i found that people in this city are very rude.

    any suggestions or tips would really be appreciated
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    Jun 06, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidDo you own any rainbow pots and pans?



    LOL I died.
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    Jun 07, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    Well it would explain a lot where you're encountering the guys you're talking about. If it's on Grindr or something similar, you got a very low chance of finding friendship there...
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    Jun 07, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Step 1: Go to a club on Rue Ste. Catherine
    Step 2: Drop to knees
    Step 3: Make friends

    At least, that's how it worked back in the day... icon_wink.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 07, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    Join a gay sports team (try http://www.acontrecourant.qc.ca/en/information/aboutus/), go to gallery openings or take an art class (try http://www.ateliersculptureargile.com/), find a reading group (try https://www.facebook.com/groups/172648974571/), prendre un cours de français (voilà http://www.learnfrench.ca/). You have nothing holding you back but laziness. If you're looking for friends at Le Drugstore, Parking, Sky, and Chez Mado, you're not looking in the right spots.
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    Jun 07, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    How to meet gay friends in general :S
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    Jun 07, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    Its quite a cultural shock.. I just moved here from the Caribbean and experience a lot of frustration at what i perceive to be the directness and forwardness and distance of people... to me it comes off as rude and uninvolved... conversely, my behaviour can be unsettling for them, as it is too intimate, too close, and too emotional.... which can be invasive and a bit crazy to them.... thus, in the beginning you will be experiencing much of this cultural conflict as well... but the city is a great place and the people, once you learn the ins and outs of your own behaviour and theirs, it becomes a more welcoming place I assure you....
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    Jun 07, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    Don't settle for less. Sex on the first night is bad set up for relationship. You are doing a right thing. Friends who are after sex does not worth your time. If you have a partner, why not just make some effort with straight friends......gay friends sometime can be too catty and dramatic.
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    Jun 07, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    Bunjamon saidJoin a gay sports team (try http://www.acontrecourant.qc.ca/en/information/aboutus/), g.


    OOOOO thank you so much!! I was looking for something like that!! icon_biggrin.gif