The one question i have a hard time answering for when asked by " STR8 GUYS "

  • MarcBodybuild...

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    Jun 07, 2012 2:37 AM GMT

    I have friends who are Str8 who asked me this question from time to time , ( If a str8 guy experiments with another guy that does automatically makes them bi ? or gay ? or are they still str8 "


    My answer is : I'm not sure , it depends, some people are truly gay, some people are in their Bicurious phase, while others swings both ways. What ever feels right then to me that would the answer


    What about it guys ? how would u explain this to ur bud when he ask u this question ?
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    Jun 07, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    In my opinion, it is whatever he wants it to be. Usually people around him are the one that categorizes him. I would tell him to be whatever he wants to be. Just tell him to be a "decent person." Sexuality is not black and white.... except pure gay or pure straight.
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    Jun 07, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    It's not who you have sex with. A woman can be raped against her will but that doesn't make her straight. And there are plenty of gay virgins also. It's who you're attracted to....not who you have sex with.
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    Jun 07, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    If a man experiments with another man, that makes him a scientist.
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    Jun 07, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    Something...something Kinsey bla bla bla.

    Something something...don't label me bro...bla bla

    Don't box...yada, yada...shads of gray yada yada.

  • Karl

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    Jun 07, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    depends on his thought and what he really want to be....
    just an experiment....
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    Jun 07, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf a man experiments with another man, that makes him a scientist.


    But, if a man sucks just one dick, he's a cocksucker for life!
  • easterndude69

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    Jun 07, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    That would just make him bi-curious maybe. It's ok to experiment. It doesn't make them gay or bi they just have a curiosity for the other side.
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    Jun 07, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    It would depend on how much they wanted to do it again icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 07, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    MarcBodybuilding said
    I have friends who are Str8 who asked me this question from time to time , ( If a str8 guy experiments with another guy that does automatically makes them bi ? or gay ? or are they still str8 "

    My answer is: "What an interesting question, why ever would you ask?"
  • Havasu

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    Jun 07, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    -- If a man experiments with another man, that makes him a scientist. --

    LOL
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    Jun 07, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    If he started out straight, then he's still straight.

    This question is actually what works against the gay-rights movement. People think we can somehow change them. They think if they give us too many rights, and we get too comfortable being ourselves in society, that we'll rub off on them and their kids and turn everyone gay.

    I think it's pretty clear by now that people are born gay, that we're a small and fixed percentage of the population, and that straight people should stop worrying that their sexuality is under siege.
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    Jun 07, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    I call them Tri-sexuals....they'll try anything with a hole and a heartbeat! lol
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    Jun 07, 2012 6:15 AM GMT
    MarcBodybuilding said
    I have friends who are Str8 who asked me this question from time to time , ( If a str8 guy experiments with another guy that does automatically makes them bi ? or gay ? or are they still str8 "


    My answer is : I'm not sure , it depends, some people are truly gay, some people are in their Bicurious phase, while others swings both ways. What ever feels right then to me that would the answer


    What about it guys ? how would u explain this to ur bud when he ask u this question ?


    I never answer the question because it would offend people to suggest that everyone is bisexual by nature. Whether they are practicing or consciously fantasizing one way or the other is really irrelevant to me. Again, just my opinion.
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    Jun 07, 2012 8:14 AM GMT
    I mess with them by saying,

    "Look, if I eat vegetables in one meal, it doesn't make me a vegetarian. If I eat meat for a whole day, it doesn't make me a carnivore. If I sit in a garage, it doesn't turn me into a car."

    If he's hot, I say,

    "Consequently, if you and I, you know, did something, it wouldn't make us gay or anything..."

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    Jun 07, 2012 9:39 AM GMT
    The problem with this question is that people think it matters. I tell people that I'm just a sexual person. I don't have a particular type in guys or girls. I don't put a label on myself cause it is stupid to try to conform to a label. And when you do or don't do something that is defined by that label more questions are asked.

    Just don't define or confine yourself to the label of bi, straight, or gay. There are so many in-betweens that we don't have labels for.
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    Jun 07, 2012 9:52 AM GMT
    MarcBodybuilding said
    I have friends who are Str8 who asked me this question from time to time , ( If a str8 guy experiments with another guy that does automatically makes them bi ? or gay ? or are they still str8 "


    My answer is : I'm not sure , it depends, some people are truly gay, some people are in their Bicurious phase, while others swings both ways. What ever feels right then to me that would the answer


    What about it guys ? how would u explain this to ur bud when he ask u this question ?


    My answer would be:

    No. Experimenting with another guy doesn't automatically make a guy bi or gay. What determines sexual orientation is the feelings and attractions someone has toward members of the same gender. For some, experimenting may simply be a way to explore sexuality and satisfy a curiosity. For others, they may be gay but so repressed that they never act out their true desires.

    And then be sure to add "No homo, bro!" icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 07, 2012 9:59 AM GMT
    My partner and I used to write a column for one of the gay rags here in Ft Lauderdale for about 4 years and we would get emails from str8 men all the time asking that question.

    My partner who was a practicing psychiatrist in Dallas for many years would ask them one question.

    "Who or what do you visualize (the majority of the time)when you masturbate by yourself?"

    That usually sums up one's orientation.

    BTW both of us were married to women in the past and both of us had active sex lives with them right up until the time we came out. Both of our wives believed we were bi sexual but trust me.. we are both 7s out of six on the Kinsey scale.

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