Anyone ever blow a first date and still make it work?

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    Jul 27, 2008 7:35 PM GMT
    Hey guys, have any of you guys blown a first date and still been able to recover from it, and ended up with a relationship even so? What did you do to get past it or recover from it and still land the significant other?
  • VinBaltimore

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    Jul 27, 2008 7:44 PM GMT
    Not to make light, but the title really made me laugh. I was like, "Don't guys like to be blown on ANY date?!" icon_lol.gif

    But anyway, yes, absolutely. My first date with Jonathan was nothing to write home about. It was a blind date. I totally didn't want to go. So I just had him meet me and the couple that as setting us up at, and I'm not making this up, Olde Country Buffet. My friend George I and used to meet there regularly when we were both laid off from work and we just kept up the tradition.

    Amazingly enough, there was a second date. And we just had our six year anniversary.

    I also have friend that have been married for 12 years. On their first date he called her the wrong name all night. She waited until halfway through the night before she told one of his friends, "By the way, my name is not Diane".

    The only way to recover is to just ask him out again. C'mon, it couldn't have been THAT bad!
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    Jul 27, 2008 8:05 PM GMT
    depends...did you show up for the date, and just didn't impress...

    or did you miss it in its entirety, without a phone call....

    the first...you might recover from.
    the second. No way.
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    Jul 27, 2008 9:49 PM GMT
    I showed up, I just blew it in other ways. Embarrassed myself, etc. I would never just not show, I can't imagine a more rude or insulting thing to do to someone.
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    Jul 27, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    YngHungSFSD saidI showed up, I just blew it in other ways. Embarrassed myself, etc. I would never just not show, I can't imagine a more rude or insulting thing to do to someone.


    Hmm. How exactly did you "embarass" yourself? (Come on, humor us.) What you consider embarassing might have been perceived differently by your date.
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    Jul 27, 2008 10:15 PM GMT
    What actually did you do to blow it?

    Some guys are very forgiving since it's the 'first' date, but that depends on the level of blow.
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    Jul 27, 2008 10:20 PM GMT
    my last relationship which lasted about a year and half started off with a crappy date. I was really nervous because I totally liked the guy. When I get nervous I don't shut up. I think I said some pretty dumb things.

    About 4 months after we had been together he told me how he felt after our first date. It was the second date though that changed things.

    I apparently came off very self-centered on the first date. On the second date I said something about being really interested in getting to know all the small stupid stuff about him. I asked him what his favorite color was. It was love after that!

    So moral is - one date doesn't define a future!
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    Jul 27, 2008 10:24 PM GMT
    In the previous thread he was "the one" and you were looking for first date advice. You had totally connected prior to the date. C'mon, you gotta give us more. Was it just not the same in person?
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    Jul 27, 2008 10:32 PM GMT
    I will never forget a first date when we were in a celebrity car crash...yep, that's right, too busy boy watching while driving down Robertson in West Hollywood right in front of The Abbey and BAM rear-ended Debra Winger. Our 2nd (and last) date was picking up my car at The Body Shop. icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 27, 2008 10:37 PM GMT
    Well Yng,
    I am sorry to hear about this. I know you had your heart set on it. Well, you know this will sound cliche, but you can always learn from your mistake if you are honest with yourself.

    Again, when meeting people don't try so hard, and listen at least as much as you talk.

    On another note, I had a blowup with my second bf. On our first real date, we went out and then came back to my place. Well at the time, my first bf was still living with me renting a room even though we had broken up a year and a half before. So after we ate and came back to the house, my ex went crazy ranting about him coming over etc .. After about a week, I kept talking to the guy. I just learned to work around my ex and just spent time with him away from the house. Things went well and we continued to date for 1.5 years and remained friends even after we separated. I loved him till the day he died (a few weeks ago) and will always treasure the time we had together.
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    Jul 27, 2008 10:44 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI will never forget a first date when we were in a celebrity car crash...yep, that's right, too busy boy watching while driving down Robertson in West Hollywood right in front of The Abbey and BAM rear-ended Debra Winger. Our 2nd (and last) date was picking up my car at The Body Shop. icon_redface.gif
    LOL, well put a note in the relationship guide ..
    1. Keep your eyes of the road. icon_eek.gif If you see Debra Winger, the end is near in more ways than one.
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    Jul 27, 2008 10:59 PM GMT
    rigarymi saidIn the previous thread he was "the one" and you were looking for first date advice. You had totally connected prior to the date. C'mon, you gotta give us more. Was it just not the same in person?


    I was going to say the same thing. YngHung, you mentioned you embarrassed yourself. Did you trip or blurb on too much about yourself? What? If it was something like you tripped or acted nervous, chances are he found it endearing - I would. Something like that, you could totally recover. Give it a little time and you'll be fine. If it was more than that, it wouldn't hurt to point it out to him when you discuss it so he knows you're aware of your own blurbs.

    ActiveAndFit, I'm sorry to hear about your ex. I'm still friends with mine and I cant imagine what I'd do if I lost them...and I tend to be one of few that deals with death as something normal. icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 27, 2008 11:02 PM GMT
    ActiveAndFit said
    CuriousJockAZ saidI will never forget a first date when we were in a celebrity car crash...yep, that's right, too busy boy watching while driving down Robertson in West Hollywood right in front of The Abbey and BAM rear-ended Debra Winger. Our 2nd (and last) date was picking up my car at The Body Shop. icon_redface.gif
    LOL, well put a note in the relationship guide ..
    1. Keep your eyes of the road. icon_eek.gif If you see Debra Winger, the end is near in more ways than one.



    LOL -- Actually, that was my 2nd "Celebrity Car Crash". About a year before that, my BF (at the time) and I got rear-ended by Jennifer Jason Leigh, and that relationship ended shortly afterwards.

    Suffice to say, if you're in a celebrity car crash, it could be a sign that your relationship's day's could be numbered.


    (LOOKOUT! Here comes Britney!!!!!icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 27, 2008 11:10 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    LOL -- Actually, that was my 2nd "Celebrity Car Crash". About a year before that, my BF (at the time) and I got rear-ended by Jennifer Jason Leigh, and that relationship ended shortly afterwards.

    Suffice to say, if you're in a celebrity car crash, it could be a sign that your relationship's day's could be numbered.


    (LOOKOUT! Here comes Britney!!!!!icon_eek.gif
    Well I have heard of having stars in your eyes, but I guess when you have them in your bumper too, it is a recipe for disaster.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jul 27, 2008 11:13 PM GMT
    Although, crashing into David Beckham might be worth a few scrapes, bruises, and an ended relationship.
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    Jul 27, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    Well I haven't but i do know that my dad showed up 3 hours late, drunk off his ass and spilled milk (why a drunk person wanted milk I still don't know) all over my mom, and well yesterday we just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversay, so i think it's possible to fix whatever you did.
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    Jul 28, 2008 4:22 AM GMT
    In my younger days, I blew someone on the first date. We ended up dating for 2 years. But that's besides the point.

    First impressions are usually wrong, so if he takes the time to get to know you, I'm sure something good can come of it.
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    Jul 28, 2008 11:22 AM GMT
    On my first date with Drew-fish we were supposed to go to Hill City so he could pick up an application for a job, and then spend the afternoon having tourist-y good times, but he changed his mind about wanting the job, so we went hiking.
    I thought i'd seriously blown the date because after the initial shake hands and Hi's, he didn't look at me. Not once. No smiles, not sideways glances, NOTHING.

    Turns out he really thought I was cute and was uber-shy. We dated for three years cause he called me later that night, thanked me for the date and asked me out on another one.
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    Jul 28, 2008 12:40 PM GMT
    On my way to a Friday first date on top of a bad week I had my wallet and cell phone lifted from my bag on the trainicon_confused.gif

    Couldn't call and cancel, was late having to report the theft, I showed up with a really sorry I can't do this Oh and can I borrow 5 bucks. He was dead sweet took me out to dinner and lent me cash.

    Were still together a year and a half latericon_smile.gif
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    Jul 28, 2008 4:39 PM GMT
    no... i usually take 4-5 dates before i screw it up hahaha...

    well seein' that you talked with the guy for like hours on end prior to the date... i can't imagine that you can't call him up to apologize for whatever you did...
  • GQjock

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    Jul 28, 2008 11:33 PM GMT
    Oh Yng... !!!!
    and this was the guy that was IT, right?

    icon_rolleyes.gif I wouldn't worry about it
    If you were super embarrassed or shy or something like that he might have thought it was cute

    but you can always give him a call or run into him and say... Hey, listen I know things didn't really turn out like right the other night but I was super nervous about it and I kinda messed up
    Let's try it again sometime and give it another chance
    what do you think?

    If he says no.. he's not the kind of guy you thought he was
    If he says yes...
    you're in
    But you better not screw it up this time icon_wink.gif