I fell in love with someone I want to ask to sponsor me at a gay AA meeting...

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    Jun 08, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    God, this feels so childish. He was a speaker at our meeting today and I just royally fell in love. I mean, he was inspiring, honest, cute, interesting, entertaining, insightful, educational... DAMN HE WAS LIKE A GOOD BOOK WHERE YOU MEET THE WRITER IN PERSON!!! I can't do the sex thing with anyone so deep relationship is out of the question. But I guess I will have to lower my ego and at least ask the guy to sponsor me. Who knows, maybe theres a good brotherhood to be had.
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    Jun 08, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
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    Jun 08, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
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    Jun 08, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    Stuart? Don't you know you're not supposed to fuck anybody in The Rooms for at least until you're 1 year clean and sober.

    "Meetings", "Mediation", and "Masturbation".

    Stick to the three M's for your first year, Stuart.
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    Jun 08, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidStuart? Don't you know you're not supposed to fuck anybody in The Rooms for at least until you're 1 year clean and sober.

    "Meetings", "Mediation", and "Masturbation".

    Stick to the three M's for your first year, Stuart.


    Sounds like what I've been doing. No sex for me ever actually. Been years without it and doing just find with number three on your list once in awhile.
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    Jun 08, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    I have to remain on my very best behavior in these places because I do have respect for the program. It's just a crush probably... It will pass... I hope.
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    Jun 08, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    This is a bad idea. If he responsibly rejects your advances, it will give you a reason to drink.
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    Jun 08, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidThis is a bad idea. If he responsibly rejects your advances, it will give you a reason to drink.


    It's not an advance if I am choosing him as a sponsor for the right reasons. As I mentioned, he was like reading a really good book; his looks just happened to be something very intriguing on the side. I need a good mentor actually.
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    Jun 08, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
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    SkinnyBitch saidThis is a bad idea. If he responsibly rejects your advances, it will give you a reason to drink.


    It's not an advance if I am choosing him as a sponsor for the right reasons. As I mentioned, he was like reading a really good book; his looks just happened to be something very intriguing on the side. I need a good mentor actually.

    Or is that the disease talking?
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    Jun 08, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
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    Sustenance said
    SkinnyBitch saidThis is a bad idea. If he responsibly rejects your advances, it will give you a reason to drink.


    It's not an advance if I am choosing him as a sponsor for the right reasons. As I mentioned, he was like reading a really good book; his looks just happened to be something very intriguing on the side. I need a good mentor actually.

    Or is that the disease talking?


    True. This is why I didn't ask him to sponsor me this evening. I have a temporary sponsor (his choice) who is a really nice kid with a little bit of time so I am in no rush at the moment to find the right sponsor.
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    Jun 08, 2012 6:53 AM GMT
    You should pick someone else.
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    Jun 08, 2012 10:23 AM GMT
    I agree with the others here. You should pick a different sponsor. Not that you can't be friends with the guy you describe above, but your emotions will mess with your chance for success. Find someone that you don't feel attracted to.