Hotgymguy22 saidMaybe it's just me, but open relationships are asking for trouble and something I'd never do. What happens when your partner has a strong connection to someone else? It would probably put strain on the relationship as he might grow resentment towards you.
So what. You think if your lover spends time with someone else he may develop fondness for them--and that's a bad thing? What does that say about the same relationship if it were monogamous? They're with you out of ignorance? You have to keep them in the dark about who else is out there in order to keep them?
What works for different people is different of course, but open relationships can be incredibly healthy with the right combination of attitude, emotional security, and communication. I can scarcely imagine anything else. I love my bf and I'm simply not bothered by him being with other people. He does
have significant affection for most of the other people he sleeps with, but his love for me is not diminished in anyway; I'm simply happy that he has great experiences. The reverse also being true.
That said, some people are much less secure in their relationships. Maybe not a good idea then. Really hard to say. BUT, I do think that if you're thinking about it it's worth discussing. But then I'm a huge fan of "no bs" communication between, well people in general, but especially with the people I love.
How secure are you two in your relationship?