To the fathers here at RJ with more than one child.

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    Jun 08, 2012 11:19 PM GMT
    Do you love one more than the other?

    If so why?

    If so, do they know this?
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    Jun 09, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    Yes. I make it obvious. For the dumber ones, I have a chart posted in the kitchen.
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    Jun 09, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidYes. I make it obvious. For the dumber ones, I have a chart posted in the kitchen.


    LOL.

    I have 4, and I love them all uniquely. I did have an easy out when my Daughter came along.. I told the boys before she even got home they were now the royal subjects of a Princess. They never argued, yeah I hear about how spoiled she is from time to time.. my blanket reply is yeah, tough shit.

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    Jun 09, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    tru_blu_auzzie saidDo you love one more than the other?

    If so do they know this?
    What a stupid question.. are you gonna rant about how they aren't "bona fide homosexuals"????????

    Go get another bottle to polish off!
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    Jun 09, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    Jajaja, I love this thread, hopefully I'll be entitled to actually post here some day
  • monet

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    Jun 09, 2012 9:03 AM GMT
    I have a feeling this is going to turn into a bitch-fest about how TBA's parents didn't love him as much as they loved his siblings.
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    Jun 09, 2012 12:50 PM GMT
    It's like a cracked record... bi's are half brothers and not gold card bearers of gayness...let's all arse-lick the the Queen...fuckwit Conservatives - the cause of all economic problems are to be worshipped...and around and around and around we go...
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    Jun 09, 2012 1:12 PM GMT
    ozmuscle2 saidIt's like a cracked record... bi's are half brothers and not gold card bearers of gayness...let's all arse-lick the the Queen...fuckwit Conservatives - the cause of all economic problems are to be worshipped...and around and around and around we go...


    Now go and change your Nappie mate, it's full of assumptions, would be no diffrent Christians bitching about how gays are like a cracked record, all they do is talk about gay marriage. You have made the choice to look so stop bitching about it, and you voted for Kevin 07 what a pisser that was, Julia took his job and now who is Kevin ; icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    But I have no need to insult you as mother nature did such a good job.
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    Jun 09, 2012 1:16 PM GMT
    monet saidI have a feeling this is going to turn into a bitch-fest about how TBA's parents didn't love him as much as they loved his siblings.


    Is that what you want it to turn into, as it's not what one was to ask, as being a none breeder I have no children, and if I did like one more than another I would do my best that they never knew it.

    No the question come from hearing many diffrent parents say diffrent things about their kids and I've even seen them treat one differently to another.

    So do you have any kids and do you treat them all the same?

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    Jun 09, 2012 1:22 PM GMT
    One is going to make the assumption that with all the bi fathers here at RJ, the answer would have to be yes for a number of them.

    Oh and just so you know it's for a paper one is doing; but I can draw my own conclusions.
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    Jun 09, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    tru_blu_auzzie saidDo you love one more than the other?

    If so do they know this?
    What a stupid question.. are you gonna rant about how they aren't "bona fide homosexuals"????????

    Go get another bottle to polish off!





    What a hypocrite you are....

    TropicalMark saidIf you idiots cannot stand Art or his posts.. then grow the fuck up and move onto something else.
    The 5 yr old mentality is disgusting and embarrassing to your generation.
    You ignore my posts.. why cant you ignore others that you 'hate' to read?icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    The OP asked a valid and thought-provoking question.
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    Jun 09, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    TropicalMark said
    tru_blu_auzzie saidDo you love one more than the other?

    If so do they know this?
    What a stupid question.. are you gonna rant about how they aren't "bona fide homosexuals"????????

    Go get another bottle to polish off!





    What a hypocrite you are....

    TropicalMark saidIf you idiots cannot stand Art or his posts.. then grow the fuck up and move onto something else.
    The 5 yr old mentality is disgusting and embarrassing to your generation.
    You ignore my posts.. why cant you ignore others that you 'hate' to read?icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    The OP asked a valid and thought-provoking question.
    LMAO.. oh and Todd, you just verified that you indeed read that post but continued the behavior.

    Your calling me a hypocrite is quite hypocritical!

    But thanks for making yourself a fool!icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 09, 2012 2:00 PM GMT
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    Jun 09, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    CuriousJockAZ said
    The OP asked a valid and thought-provoking question.

    Now you're trolling, Todd. You know damn well Sybil just posted this so she could go off on one of her patented harangues. There's no hypocrisy in pointing that out.



    You don't know that was his motivation. My point is that when we rib Art Deco in a thread when he's going off on one of his long-winded delusional tirades about "GOP Plants at RJ", we are quickly blasted as bullies, yet members like SB and tru_blu_auzzie and others face unprovoked personal attacks ALL the time and apparently that is okay. Just pointing out the double-standard around here. I found the subject "thought provoking" because I grew up in a family in which this was a real problem. Much as my parents did everything humanly possible to prove to him otherwise, my younger brother to this day insists that I am the favored one, so I was interested at some of the posts. It took exactly 4 posts in the thread for TropicalMark to zoom in with an unprovoked attack on the OP. So when he wonders for the most part why I and others usually ignore his posts, that would be one of the reasons. he's a great big hypocrite, and just as big of a bully as anyone else around here.
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    Jun 09, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    JPtheBITCH said
    CuriousJockAZ said
    The OP asked a valid and thought-provoking question.

    Now you're trolling, Todd. You know damn well Sybil just posted this so she could go off on one of her patented harangues. There's no hypocrisy in pointing that out.



    You don't know that was his motivation. My point is that when we rib Art Deco in a thread when he's going off on one of his long-winded delusional tirades about "GOP Plants at RJ", we are quickly blasted as bullies, yet members like SB and tru_blu_auzzie and others face unprovoked personal attacks ALL the time and apparently that is okay. Just pointing out the double-standard around here. I found the subject "thought provoking" because I grew up in a family in which this was a real problem. Much as my parents did everything humanly possible to prove to him otherwise, my younger brother to this day insists that I am the favored one, so I was interested at some of the posts. It took exactly 4 posts in the thread for TropicalMark to zoom in with an unprovoked attack on the OP. So when he wonders for the most part why I and others usually ignore his posts, that would be one of the reasons. he's a great big hypocrite, and just as big of a bully as anyone else around here.
    To include the OP? C'mon Todd, admit it!
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    Jun 09, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    I think it is a good question.. I have three. two are twins, a boy and a girl the oldest is a girl.. I love them all in their own way but I love them all just as much as the other.. I would lay down my life for any and all of them if needed..

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    Jun 09, 2012 8:57 PM GMT
    gatorball saidI think it is a good question.. I have three. two are twins, a boy and a girl the oldest is a girl.. I love them all in their own way but I love them all just as much as the other.. I would lay down my life for any and all of them if needed..



    Thank you, I hope I would be the same. Sadly it's not the case in many families, were parents do pick and choose the children they love more than others, I've even seen with a women I work with were she loves her gay son much more than her straight son.
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    Jun 09, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    Yes.

    I like this one better than...
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    ...these two.
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    And this one..
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    ...better than this one.
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    Because the first one is much better behaved than the second two and of those two one is exceptionally less annoying the other.
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    Jun 09, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    The_Guerrilla_Sodomite saidYes.

    I like this one better than...
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    ...these two.
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    And this one..
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    ...better than this one.
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    Because the first one is much better behaved than the second two and of those two one is exceptionally less annoying the other.



    OMG I just know I would love all of your family.

    Well one of my cats loves her solitude, yet the younger one loves the dogs, and goes on walk with them, breaks up fights with them, yet bullies them too and even one of the neighbor's dog runs when they see him; the cat does rule as much as I try to put him in his place. But I love them all the same, albeit they are very diffrent.
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    Aww! You wouldn't know it. They look loved and well adjusted. icon_biggrin.gif


    The_Guerrilla_Sodomite saidYes.

    I like this one better than...
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    ...these two.
    317466_10150900828570386_720820385_21380
    And this one..
    299802_10150859704940386_720820385_21090
    ...better than this one.
    eddieme.jpg

    Because the first one is much better behaved than the second two and of those two one is exceptionally less annoying the other.
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    The_Guerrilla_Sodomite saidYes.

    I like this one better than...
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    ...these two.
    317466_10150900828570386_720820385_21380
    And this one..
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    ...better than this one.
    eddieme.jpg

    Because the first one is much better behaved than the second two and of those two one is exceptionally less annoying the other.




    Those pics are so damn cute....and the pets are pretty adorable too icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 09, 2012 11:09 PM GMT
    Oh who has an adorable pussy, I just want to stroke it, and make it purr.
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    Jun 10, 2012 3:00 AM GMT


    I think that parenting is far more complex than most ever considered before they became parents. Especially years ago, when kids were just some assumed part of the marriage ritual. Mine were horribly ill prepared, but then most were back then.

    My older brother was always my Mom's pet cause - in her eyes he could do no wrong. My younger 2 brothers were both into sports, and therefore my Dad related to them. I on the other hand was creative artistic, emotional and highly empathetic by nature. Coupled with ADD that went undiagnosed until well into adulthood, I felt like an alien. It hurt that I was the odd kid out, as kids we don't see why there is this tilt in the scales.

    We naturally equate a parents bond on different levels with a sort of favoritism, that may be the way it looks on the surface - it did to me as a kid, but later as an adult I realised it wasn't really the case. Lots of bumpy pavement in between, I was an angry rebellious kid as a result for a lot of what I felt were good reasons. I was pissed off for being born. I told my Mom about my first gay experience at 13, horrified, cocktail in hand she told me I was confused, and that I should forget it ever happened and NEVER speak of it again, most importantly NEVER tell my Dad. So yeah, yet another reason to hate myself, and hate them for bringing me here.

    I never expected to be married or have kids, I never thought that far ahead. I was drunk and high all the way through junior high and high school, and if there was a way to embarrass my parents along the way - all the better. If you had asked me why I couldn't have told you - something just wanted to make them pay. I hurt myself more than I could ever hurt them.

    Then at 18, when I got my X knocked up, suddenly there was going to be this little person for me to love. It changed me, probably saved my life. I had to be a man and do the right thing.. and I was going to be the kind of parent I wished I had. All the sudden, I finally had something my Dad related to. Like this door swung opened, and I wasn't this outcast anymore. My Mom - well that was another story.. the first thing she said was don't think for a second I am going to be taking care of it. That stuck.

    Parenthood agreed with me. I pulled my shit together, got a good job - did what I thought was right. You can question my decision, trust I did, often. But I was determined. As the years went by, more kids - each of them different, I found a way to be close to them all - even faking interest in sports. It was a disaster of a marriage, but I wasn't going to be a part time Dad, and there was no damned way another guy was touching my kids. Ever.

    Along the way, I learned a lot about forgiveness. Looking at things from a distance, my Mother should never have had 4 kids. She was so over her head. My Dad - emotionally unavailable back then would be putting it mildly. He changed a lot over time. I saw them for what they were, not who I thought they should have been. I had no choice but to forgive them, they were a product of their environment.

    I am very close with all four of my kids, each on a different level. I always have been. If they needed me I was always there, and was it story book? Far from it, but it was as close as I could make it and they will be the first to say as much. My X was bi-polar, and refused to stay on course with her meds - that adds chapters I won't detail. In the end it imploded because it never should have been. When she started cheating, I wanted out. My Dad was the one who hit me with the cold hard facts.. I made my bed, I had 4 kids to look out for. Much as I hated it, he was right.

    It was a messy ending, a 2 year long battle that left plenty of marks. In coming out to my kids, I found the true measure of myself as a Father. Much as I worried in the days before I came out, each of them went out of their way to be sure I knew nothing changed how they felt about me. My youngest Son cried at what he knew was hell for me, he knew why I stayed.

    So. You ask if I have favorites.. rephrase that. Each of my kids has something that makes them my favorite - every time I am with them. Whether it's wicked humor, or deep thoughts.. brown eyes and brooding seriousness, blue eyes and total irreverence, a million watt smile and stunning beauty with an invisible crown. I love them each the best.

    So, if having kids makes you look at me as somehow less, what was the term? Oh yeah - who fuckin cares. I respect your right to have that opinion, I can't quite get my head far enough up my ass to understand that but I can deal, I didn't apply for your approval.

    Bitch I looked SATAN straight in the eye and said "I want a divorce." AND lived to tell the tail. - you got nothin. You have been weighed, you have been measured, and you have been found wanting.






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    Jun 16, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    CrankyMcBadass said
    CuriousJockAZ said
    The OP asked a valid and thought-provoking question.

    Now you're trolling, Todd. You know damn well Sybil just posted this so she could go off on one of her patented harangues. There's no hypocrisy in pointing that out.


    Well from you it's full of it. Lets not overlook you are one of the main haters here at RJ, it's you who start with most of the attacking here at RJ and people talk back to you because you are pure evil, and you do your best to bring out the bad in others just so you can justify your hate, nothing is ever to low for you in you hate and abuse of others. No it's you who is really the troll, but you need to hang with the pack of liberal hens to feel you are not on your own as bullies don't have the balls to stand on their own. I'm sure if I got to spend 10 minutes with you I would walk away from a silent shaking coward,, pissing myself laughing.
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    Jun 16, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
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