Rejection and angry messages

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    Jun 09, 2012 8:33 AM GMT
    Sometimes on adam4adam I get a guy giving me a compliment like "cute pictures" and then a few days later FINE YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE
    or "have the balls to say you are not interested"....icon_rolleyes.gif
    There is guys who reject me too but I just leave them alone if they don't reply...jeezus

    Anybody else get similar messages? Or...do YOU send them to people icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 09, 2012 8:38 AM GMT
    Dj1990 saidSometimes on adam4adam I get a guy giving me a compliment like "cute pictures" and then a few days later FINE YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE
    or "have the balls to say you are not interested"....icon_rolleyes.gif
    There is guys who reject me too but I just leave them alone if they don't reply...jeezus

    Anybody else get similar messages? Or...do YOU send them to people icon_eek.gif

    that's why you should be on RJ than go to that site icon_wink.gif
    I dont know , maybe it because you didnt reply to their compliments
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    Jun 09, 2012 8:42 AM GMT
    I dunno. Is it really hard to send a simple "Thanks for the compliment", or "Sorry, not really looking for anything right now" ?

    Sure, you're not obligated to reply to every message you get. But it seems that courtesy and effective communication are forgotten concepts in the digital age.
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    Jun 09, 2012 9:02 AM GMT
    replying to dozens of messages with "thanks" is boring

    the fact half of them are trolls with unclear pictures does not help

    that's why you have the option of just sending a smile and the guy will reply if he likes your profile
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:04 AM GMT
    "thank you but I'm not interested"

    Select, copy, paste 12 times.

    The alternative is getting no messages, and I can assure you you'd be wishing for them if you lost them.
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    Jun 09, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    It's polite to say thank you, but you shouldn't have to get cussed out just because you didn't respond.
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    Jun 10, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    You're better off ignoring them. "Thanks!" Or, "Not interested, but thank you!" on that site is seen as an opening for further convo that, way too often, winds up with the equivalent of boiled pet rabbits in your inbox.

    The fun part is they do it to EVERYBODY, making a sport of it, so you usually get another sweet-nothing comment from the same people months later (if you don't block them). Even they forget they cussed you out after awhile.
  • whytehot

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    Jun 10, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    i respond to everyone who sends a thoughtful message (usually a question), even if i'm not interested in them. Some generic compliment or long-winded cut/paste introduction are not worth dignifying
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    Jun 10, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    What i dont get is they send a shitty message and basically threaten you. Two weeks later its another message along the lines of Hi how are you want to hook up? Seriously Im convinced most guys on those types of sites are high.
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    Jun 10, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    Why not just write something at the top of your profile to say "I won't be replying to messages that look like they were copied and pasted to 50 other members".

    If they do it anyway, no one could blame you for ignoring.
  • Webster666

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    Jun 10, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    Everybody has different attitudes and expectations and motives.
    It's unrealistic to expect other people to behave exactly the same as we would, when receiving a message. And, we can't predict another guy's reaction.

    Some guys insist that all messages must receive a reply.
    Some guys feel that all messages are unsolicited, and, therefore, a reply is not mandatory.
    Some guys only respond to guys after they check out the sender's pics, and find him attractive.

    Some guys are looking for sex.
    Some guys are looking for a relationship.
    Some guys are looking for friends.

    Some guys are bitter and angry and short tempered.

    One guy might think that a message he received was hot/sexy.
    Someone else might think that the same message was vulgar/disgusting.

    It pays to send messages, then forget about them.


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    Jun 10, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    I know what you mean, and if you do reply then they want to keep talking to you. Worst case I got was a random guy asking me if I found him ugly cause I didn't respond his message....I left it at that.
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    Jun 10, 2012 11:36 AM GMT
    You can sink to their level and cuss them back out.
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    Jun 10, 2012 12:07 PM GMT
    Maybe I am the exception, but this is the Internet; none of these relationships are real. I like being polite on Realjock because it is an actual online forum community and we tend to get to know each other. But the sex apps are full of craycray dudes who thinks it is real.

    I will get a compliment, I try to respond because I appreciate them. But when it get a compliment, a needy compliment and then a pissed off reply when I haven't even had a chance to log on.... That's is a big sign of a dude is who is wearing his crazy pants. Don't worry about it... Do you best to be polite and kind, but in the end none of this is real.
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    Jun 10, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    xrichx saidI dunno. Is it really hard to send a simple "Thanks for the compliment", or "Sorry, not really looking for anything right now" ?

    Sure, you're not obligated to reply to every message you get. But it seems that courtesy and effective communication are forgotten concepts in the digital age.


    Right on the spot!