Is it easier for you to love or hate someone?

  • silverfox

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    Jun 09, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    Woke up thinking about this. I will be posting my response in a bit. I wanted to get the conversation rolling.

    So....your thoughts?
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 09, 2012 12:25 PM GMT
    On one hand you have people that are completely open and accepting from the get go while in contrast some people are more cynical and pessimistic by nature. I suppose this would be dependent on how you were raised and other life experiences. The former disposition would make it easy to love someone despite their follies while the latter would make it easier to spot a person's flaws and quickly find a reason to dislike them.

    I'm gonna go with the generic answer and say I am smack dab in the middle. I try hard to give people the benefit of the doubt and not always judge on first impressions unless said individual is overbearingly aloof. But once I do get to know an individual, more often than not a friendship follows suit. Once the bonds of amity are built between me and another kindred spirit, I cherish, love and respect the relationship we have together and go out of my way to see that what we share will be everlasting.
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  • Karl

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    Jun 09, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    Im easy to love people.
    But I cant hate someone for a long time.
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    Jun 09, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Harder to love because it involves more trust. Easy to befriend, however because the intimacy is different.

    As JP said, hating requires too much energy but it is easier to initiate.
  • tazzari

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    Jun 09, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    It's easy to hate, but it burns you up. Better to do the work of finding ways to love people.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 09, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    I absolutely refuse to hate anyone. That's an emotion I just think is too negative and ultimately destructive. Life is too short to waste time on feeling something like that.
  • calibro

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    Jun 09, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    hate is super easy
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    Jun 09, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    Hate because of the way a lot of humans act.

    I could never hate a...puppy.
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    Jun 09, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    Hating really does burn you up... but its easier to do than love
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    Jun 09, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Nobody deserves my hate, that'd be way too much of an emotional investment for anyone to be worth it. Loving is actually super easy for me.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jun 09, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidI find it pointless and exhausting to hate people. If I don't care for someone, I just cut them out of my life. Much easier than active hating.
    jp, i sort of agree with you. i do not usually hate anyone. i just find it easier to just not interact with them. if i have to work with them. i just try to avoid them as much as possible.
  • silverfox

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    Jun 09, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI absolutely refuse to hate anyone. That's an emotion I just think is too negative and ultimately destructive. Life is too short to waste time on feeling something like that.



    Note from the Op: Admirable philosophy. Probably why you look much younger than your years CuriousJockAZ.
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    Jun 09, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    silverfox saidWoke up thinking about this. I will be posting my response in a bit. I wanted to get the conversation rolling.

    So....your thoughts?


    I think it's easier for me to love someone because you'd have to really piss me off in order for me to "hate" you....I might dislike someone, but "hate" is a strong word.
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    Jun 09, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    Hate is a really strong word. I'd say it's easier for me to dislike someone than love them.

  • silverfox

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    Jun 09, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidHate is a really strong word. I'd say it's easier for me to dislike someone than love them.



    Note from the Op: Love is a strong word too no?
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 09, 2012 10:00 PM GMT
    It's easier for me to show affection for someone. I never actually hate anyone, I just feel sympathy for them. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    silverfox said
    whateveryo saidHate is a really strong word. I'd say it's easier for me to dislike someone than love them.



    Note from the Op: Love is a strong word too no?


    +1 very true....sometimes I think it's even stronger than hate.
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    It's easier for me to care about and love someone. Hate is exhausting!
  • silverfox

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    Jun 09, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    Ok so here are my thoughts on this.

    I am so IN LOVE with the idea of finding it easier to LOVE someone than to hate someone.


    But this is not the case for me.


    I don't give out true love that easily. LIKE yes (see my facebook icon_smile.gif, affection...most definitely. Respect, admiration etc......all the way.

    But LOVE? I guess it comes down to your definition of love. For me it is a sacred emotion.

    Am I a hater? I don't think of myself that way. But I can definitely hate a group of people when prompted. I can hate, for example.....people who hate me. Or people who don't want me to succeed......or have the same rights that they do.

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    Jun 09, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    hating's easier, but more emotionally costly. loving's harder, but more emotionally satisfying.
  • Beeftastic

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    Jun 09, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    Except for a few people who have wronged me intentionally and badly, I don't hate or hold grudges very much. I am much better at loving. I do find that hate saps my strength and does nothing positive in my life.
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    Based on many of the posts on this website, hate seems to be a walk in the park for most.
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:21 PM GMT
    Like JP said
    I cut people out of my life now rather than hate them, I'd rather concentrate on those I love or are yet to love.
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    Jun 09, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    I may get angry with people from time to time, but I can not stay that way for very long. But I hate very few if any as that takes way to much effort for me. I can not think of one person here at RJ I behold hate for, as I don't care enough to feel so deeply for the people who abuse me here; yet there are those here to that I would take the shit off my back for.