Step Father arrested for beating up a kid

  • MarcBodybuild...

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    Jun 10, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    http://www.bing.com/videos/watch/video/stepfather-in-hot-water-for-beating-kid/6dotvhc


    That step father needs to be hit with a baseball bat on the face!icon_evil.gif
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    Jun 10, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    Here ya go -----> http://www.bing.com/videos/watch/video/stepfather-in-hot-water-for-beating-kid/6dotvhc
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    Jun 10, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    beat the grandfather too for defending the sick bastard
  • GWriter

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    Jun 11, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    It looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.
  • GWriter

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    I'm not defending the use of a belt, btw.
  • NashRugger

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    Ok, one or two times, but multiple is getting a little crazy. I do not condone the use of a belt and consider it child abuse.
  • BeingThePhoen...

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    GWriter saidIt looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.

    I agree that it is not the end of the world but as someone who was disciplined like this in my childhood, it certainly is child abuse. We are not allowed to put our hands on adults, because it is considered assault. Why would we not consider putting our hands on children (much weaker than adults) assault as well? My "spankings" were very rarely ever warranted, but were always severe. I love my parents too, but that does not make what they did any less than abuse, because they didn't have the proper skills to correctly discipline.
  • GWriter

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    BeingThePhoenix said
    GWriter saidIt looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.

    I agree that it is not the end of the world but as someone who was disciplined like this in my childhood, it certainly is child abuse. We are not allowed to put our hands on adults, because it is considered assault. Why would we not consider putting our hands on children (much weaker than adults) assault as well? My "spankings" were very rarely ever warranted, but were always severe. I love my parents too, but that does not make what they did any less than abuse, because they didn't have the proper skills to correctly discipline.

    I feel for you man. I'm sorry you went through that. I guess we are all different. It wasn't that traumatic for me, but I have no idea what your youth was like.
    Hope you are doing ok now.
  • BeingThePhoen...

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    GWriter said
    BeingThePhoenix said
    GWriter saidIt looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.

    I agree that it is not the end of the world but as someone who was disciplined like this in my childhood, it certainly is child abuse. We are not allowed to put our hands on adults, because it is considered assault. Why would we not consider putting our hands on children (much weaker than adults) assault as well? My "spankings" were very rarely ever warranted, but were always severe. I love my parents too, but that does not make what they did any less than abuse, because they didn't have the proper skills to correctly discipline.

    I feel for you man. I'm sorry you went through that. I guess we are all different. It wasn't that traumatic for me, but I have no idea what your youth was like.
    Hope you are doing ok now.
    I'm fine. Thanks for the concern. My relationship with my parents is fine now, but I am a pretty forgiving person. I came to the realization that they just didn't know another way to discipline. They were slaves to their rearing and their emotions. But, not everyone has my mentality. I plan to have children one day and I made a promise to myself that I would never let my children deal with the "discipline" I endured.
  • GWriter

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    BeingThePhoenix said
    GWriter said
    BeingThePhoenix said
    GWriter saidIt looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.

    I agree that it is not the end of the world but as someone who was disciplined like this in my childhood, it certainly is child abuse. We are not allowed to put our hands on adults, because it is considered assault. Why would we not consider putting our hands on children (much weaker than adults) assault as well? My "spankings" were very rarely ever warranted, but were always severe. I love my parents too, but that does not make what they did any less than abuse, because they didn't have the proper skills to correctly discipline.

    I feel for you man. I'm sorry you went through that. I guess we are all different. It wasn't that traumatic for me, but I have no idea what your youth was like.
    Hope you are doing ok now.
    I'm fine. Thanks for the concern. My relationship with my parents is fine now, but I am a pretty forgiving person. I came to the realization that they just didn't know another way to discipline. They were slaves to their rearing and their emotions. But, not everyone has my mentality. I plan to have children one day and I made a promise to myself that I would never let my children deal with the "discipline" I endured.

    I bet you will be a great Dad! ;)
  • BeingThePhoen...

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    GWriter said
    BeingThePhoenix said
    GWriter said
    BeingThePhoenix said
    GWriter saidIt looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.

    I agree that it is not the end of the world but as someone who was disciplined like this in my childhood, it certainly is child abuse. We are not allowed to put our hands on adults, because it is considered assault. Why would we not consider putting our hands on children (much weaker than adults) assault as well? My "spankings" were very rarely ever warranted, but were always severe. I love my parents too, but that does not make what they did any less than abuse, because they didn't have the proper skills to correctly discipline.

    I feel for you man. I'm sorry you went through that. I guess we are all different. It wasn't that traumatic for me, but I have no idea what your youth was like.
    Hope you are doing ok now.
    I'm fine. Thanks for the concern. My relationship with my parents is fine now, but I am a pretty forgiving person. I came to the realization that they just didn't know another way to discipline. They were slaves to their rearing and their emotions. But, not everyone has my mentality. I plan to have children one day and I made a promise to myself that I would never let my children deal with the "discipline" I endured.

    I bet you will be a great Dad! ;)
    Thanks! ;)
  • FRE0

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    Jun 11, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    I agree that it is child abuse. However, when I was a kid, it would have been considered standard practice. Even so, it is one of the reasons that I do not have fond memories of my childhood.
  • BeingThePhoen...

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    Jun 11, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    FRE0 saidI agree that it is child abuse. However, when I was a kid, it would have been considered standard practice. Even so, it is one of the reasons that I do not have fond memories of my childhood.
    I feel ya. Personally, I do have a lot of fond memories, but I also have some memories I wish I could forget. I think the best we can do is to do our best to let people know that abuse is abuse, no matter how you try to disguise it.
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    Jun 11, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    I got whippings by my parents but i deserved them. Made me not want to repeat the same behavior. I think that is part of the problem with todays spoiled brat kids.
  • FRE0

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    Jun 11, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    beachwalk saidI got whippings by my parents but i deserved them. Made me not want to repeat the same behavior. I think that is part of the problem with todays spoiled brat kids.


    There are better ways to discipline children. Check out these supernanny youtube videos:

    http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=supernanny

    My mother was terrible. She was an expert at turning a very minor infraction into an international catastrophe. She also practically forced us to lie by screaming, "Did you do this!?!?" Of course any kid would reflexively answer "No," after which it would be too late to be honest. And, when we lied, we'd be interrogated until we finally admitted it, then punished both for the infraction and lying about it. It created a very unpleasant situation and made home life tension-filled. A better approach would have been to say, "I don't want you to answer right now; think about it for a while then we'll discuss it later. Here's what happened.... I'll come back later, then you can tell me whether you did it." Using that approach, a kid would be much more likely to be honest.

    When I was learning to drive, Mother would immediately scream and yell whenever I made a mistake. It made us both nervous. A better approach would have been to say calmly, "When you find a place to park, park the car so we can discuss what just happened." When parents cause children to think of the parents as unreasonable and dictatorial, the children are likely to obey only when being observed instead of doing what makes sense. That may be a contributing factor to the very high car accident rates of young drivers.

    There are effective ways to teach children without hitting and screaming and yelling, and the better ways do not create spoiled brats. But knowing how to raise children is not inherited knowledge; it has to be learned. There are good and effective methods of dealing with situations which parents would be unlikely to figure out for themselves. For that reason, there should be classes for parents to learn effective non-violent ways to deal with the problems they will encounter.

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    Jun 11, 2012 7:28 PM GMT
    GWriter saidIt looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.


    How can you say it is not abuse?! An adult 3 to 4 times the size of a child takes a weapon and hits a child with it! In the adult world you can be arrested for it, but its not abuse for a parent to do it to their child?! I agree a slap of a hand or a swat on the buttocks (with hand not belt) is not abusive and may be warranted in times were the child has to be brought in line lest he injures himself, but to repeatedly hit a defenseless child with a weapon is abuse. It looks harsh today because it IS harsh. And it looks horrible because it IS horrible. And in some cases it IS the end of the world for some kids, resulting in either physical death or emotionally crippling the child for life.

    I know what I speak of because it's a family joke that I was beaten (with a belt) everyday of my life whether I needed it or not just to keep me in line. Now that is a bit of hyperbole, but it is true enough that I grew up resenting all authority which hadn't served me well in my personal life or career.
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    Jun 11, 2012 7:29 PM GMT
    ULmatt saidbeat the grandfather too for defending the sick bastard

    Brilliant, because as the grandfather would know, the very best way to teach people not to be violent is to beat the shit out of them, right?
    That is your logic, eh?
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    Jun 11, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    GWriter saidIt looks horrible, but it's not the end of the world. I got hit with a belt by my Dad, and I didn't die. I have a great relationship with him today. It wasn't hateful, and I don't feel like I was the victim of child abuse. I'm 45, and that's just how kids were punished 30- 40 years ago. It looks harsh today... but it's not extremely abusive, and not the end of the world.


    I was hit too when I was a kid...usually with a hand or a wooden spoon. But I often deserved it....this kid just dropped the ball a couple of times. Seems excessive to me...
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 12, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    Blah.. I got spankins with a belt as a child (sometimes hit with the buckle though not on purpose) and I don't think it's a big deal.

    Some kids just need a good ol' whippin.

    And whenever I see a bad little child "cuttin up" as my granddad used to say, I sometimes wish the parents would do more than just give little Johnny "a stern talking to" and hope that he gets in line. It doesn't work, and the kids grow up to be annoying ungrateful brats with no concept of respect.