Asking someone to dance

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
    Hey,

    So tonight I was at a gay bar and got turned down when I asked a cute guy to dance. It was the first I had ever asked a guy to dance, so yeah...wasn't the greatest feeling in the world.

    What I want to know, is if some guys consider it sleazy to be asked to dance. I'm only asking cause I've never been asked to dance, and I've never seen guys do it at gay bars. What do you think ?
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    Jun 11, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    You're so cute, how could someone turn you down? Wanna dance with me? icon_wink.gif
    P.S. I'm not the best dancer---would you still give me a chance?
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    Jun 11, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidHey,

    So tonight I was at a gay bar and got turned down when I asked a cute guy to dance. It was the first I had ever asked a guy to dance, so yeah...wasn't the greatest feeling in the world.

    What I want to know, is if some guys consider it sleazy to be asked to dance. I'm only asking cause I've never been asked to dance, and I've never seen guys do it at gay bars. What do you think ?


    Aww don't worry much about it.. You can't go through life without being turned down once icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 11, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    You're cute. He just wasn't interested in dancing, or he just wasn't into you.

    I do recall one time when I asked a guy to dance. He said no. I walked away. He walked up to me and said, "I didn't want to dance, but that doesn't mean I didn't want to talk." I think we ended up going home with each other.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jun 11, 2012 7:17 AM GMT
    Maybe you didn't get rejected, maybe the guy can't dance and he didn't want to make a fool out of himself. Even if he did like you he could have said no because he didn't feel comfortable enough dancing in front of you.
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    Jun 11, 2012 7:25 AM GMT
    I agree with the rest, your very handsome. Chances are endless as to why he said no, he might have been waiting for someone or even been someone's bf but there alone with friends.
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    Jun 11, 2012 8:01 AM GMT
    I don't think formal "would you like to dance?" asking is as common as just, everyone dancing next to each other and then at some point 2 people engaging because of their proximity. The only time I ever kind of asked someone to dance I was hideously drunk with a group of friends and they were playing a "ok we'll tell you who you have to ask out to dance" game, and they point to this guy. So what do I do? I stick my arm out dramatically and point to him, and just...keep my arm stretched out pointing at him...like a damn fool (sue me I was drunk). And then I slowly moved towards him, still pointing at him, pointing right at his face as he watched me approach him slowly like a damn fool. He was blushing which I thought was cute. Then we started dancing. Then I gave him my business card (o_O??). And then I left.

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    Jun 11, 2012 8:30 AM GMT
    Most guys these days aren't into dancing. I know I'm not. So, I would have turned you down, too. But I also would have offered a drink, and a quiet corner as an alternative. icon_razz.gif
  • aj101

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    Jun 11, 2012 8:31 AM GMT
    Was he dancing to begin with? If was just sitting there he may have been uncomfortable and didnt want to dance. Many guys i have noticed dont really like to dance.
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    Jun 11, 2012 8:45 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI don't think formal "would you like to dance?" asking is as common as just, everyone dancing next to each other and then at some point 2 people engaging because of their proximity. The only time I ever kind of asked someone to dance I was hideously drunk with a group of friends and they were playing a "ok we'll tell you who you have to ask out to dance" game, and they point to this guy. So what do I do? I stick my arm out dramatically and point to him, and just...keep my arm stretched out pointing at him...like a damn fool (sue me I was drunk). And then I slowly moved towards him, still pointing at him, pointing right at his face as he watched me approach him slowly like a damn fool. He was blushing which I thought was cute. Then we started dancing. Then I gave him my business card (o_O??). And then I left.



    Lol I'm going to get shitfaced just to do this.
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    Jun 11, 2012 8:48 AM GMT
    awe, that was sweet of you to ask someone to dance. I would have been mortified by a guy asking me to dance. however, thats mostly because gays dont tend to do that in the us. i think its time for a change >.
  • Havasu

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    Jun 11, 2012 8:57 AM GMT
    I once had a huge crush on a guy and got up the courage to go introduce myself. So I went over to him and said something like "Hi, what's your name?" and he replies back "Why?" So I just quietly kept moving.
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    Jun 11, 2012 8:58 AM GMT
    Dont take it personally.
    At country bars, i often ask people to dance.
    Sometimes dudes say no for a variety of reasons.
    Maybe they dont know how to dance. Some are with a date or a partner and dont want to leave their side. They might be in the middle of a conversation with friends. Or they may not like the particular song being played.

    I usually dont dance with guys that dont know the steps well because u end up tripping on each other. Also dont like to dance with dudes that are way too flashy on the dance floor.

    Dont feel bad. Everyone gets rejected. It may or may not be about you. Move on and try again.
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    Jun 11, 2012 9:00 AM GMT
    I ask one girl to dance...

    she says no...

    I ask another...

    she says "I have a bf so bye bye"..

    I say... im not looking for a gf, I'm looking for a dance partner"

    She says "Buy my friend a drnk and she will dance with you"

    I go away, and ask another..

    She dances with me....

    *shrugs and smiles*
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    Jun 11, 2012 9:15 AM GMT
    need to be more detailed if you want a more specific answer!

    Everyone's already stated the majority of reasons for a general turn down to an offer to dance.

    And yea.. you are handsome.. I would dance with you icon_razz.gif
  • ja89

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    Jun 11, 2012 9:17 AM GMT
    he could feel awkward dancing with other people, I know I am. I love to dance alone without someone grinding their junk on me. Both guys and girls, I get no satisfaction from it.

    Plus, don't get bogged down on being rejected, you're asking to dance not asking to marry. There are other guys out there who would like to dance.
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    Jun 11, 2012 12:57 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidYou're cute. He just wasn't interested in dancing, or he just wasn't into you.

    I do recall one time when I asked a guy to dance. He said no. I walked away. He walked up to me and said, "I didn't want to dance, but that doesn't mean I didn't want to talk." I think we ended up going home with each other.


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    Jun 13, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidHey,

    So tonight I was at a gay bar and got turned down when I asked a cute guy to dance. It was the first I had ever asked a guy to dance, so yeah...wasn't the greatest feeling in the world.

    What I want to know, is if some guys consider it sleazy to be asked to dance. I'm only asking cause I've never been asked to dance, and I've never seen guys do it at gay bars. What do you think ?


    Was he dancing any other time? I have turned down a dance before... I HATE dancing. I would rather you buy me a drink. icon_smile.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 13, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    I remember asking a guy to dance...and he said " No, Thanks".....and I later found out that he was there as an Escort with a client....icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 13, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    All girls either say "I'm with my bf or I have a bf at home" - typical response in my experience.
  • hahahehehoho

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    Jun 13, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    awww dont be sad icon_sad.gif. There are always people that will dance with you!!! People already said a lot of reasons why someone might turn you down. I dont think it should be anything you should take personally. cheer up and go find another dance partner and dance the night away icon_smile.gif