Could you love or fall for a guy who doesn't speak English/not a native English speaker?

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    Jun 11, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Let's say if you travel to a foreign country like Italy or France and fall for one of the handsome native. Or if you meet a gorgeous guy, everything is great except that he doesn't speak a word of English or speak it very poorly/with a heavy accent. I guess my question is does Language/Communications pose a barrier in two guys liking or loving each other/taking the next step? There were a couple of guys in my past that I passed over because they didn't speak English (mostly Spanish and some Chinese).

    My friend and I discussed this recently and I felt bad about it. I mean, I'd try to come in the middle and compromise/maybe learn his native language (whatever that maybe) and I'd help him learning English in return if we are both feeling each other in that way. What do you guys think? icon_cool.gif

    BTW, Vietnamese is my first language, I learned English when I was 6 years old, then I took 7 years of French in HS and College. So I am all for a multicultural upbringing and I do find some Foreign men/foreign accents very attractive and sexy. icon_cool.gif My ex taught me some/little bit of Italian! oh lala, how I missed that and him.


    This song by Basshunter is pretty cool, I think it's in Swedish. icon_cool.gif (He's so cute in the video, isn't he? Those Swedish men.)
  • Guycicle

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    Jun 11, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    The people I've met who speak foreign languages the best seem to be either mormons (they have good language training + 2 years abroad) or people who have a boyfriend or girlfriend who is from another country. So yes, it can (and does) happen but it depends on the person and their circumstances. And sometimes it's better to not understand everything the other person says. icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 11, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    I usually don't fall for a guy unless we've had some good conversation. And good conversation (to me) doesn't usually happen if the other person doesn't have a reasonable command of the English language.

    That said, I'm fascinated by other languages, and would jump at any opportunity to learn more languages. I really wanna learn Finnish and Japanese
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    Jun 11, 2012 5:57 AM GMT
    Guycicle said And sometimes it's better to not understand everything the other person says. icon_cool.gif


    icon_lol.gif I understand exactly what you mean! + 1000 !!!
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    Jun 11, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    LOL well that would be putting the chemistry thing to the test, but to be honest yeah, I think I could find a way to make it work if I were really crazy about him. Hell there are phone translator apps now!! You would at least see if there was a reason to learn his language lol
  • fitartistsf

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    Jun 11, 2012 10:19 AM GMT
    I actually prefer a guy with an accent. I'm still hoping to find somebody who has an accent to settle down with. I think it is so cute. I'm a Europhile, and so any guy with a European accent I'm a sucker for.... Anything from English/Scots/Irish, to Eastern European, to Mediterranean (Italian/Spanish)....
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    Jun 11, 2012 10:23 AM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidYeah unfortunately, communication is pretty vital in a relationship.

    I was weirded out once because this Arab guy kept telling me he loved me, but I guess the phrase I love you in arabic has a different connotation to it.


    I say that to all of my friends myself, quite often
  • drypin

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    Jun 11, 2012 10:33 AM GMT
    I'd have to say yes.
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    Jun 11, 2012 10:43 AM GMT
    Yeah i could. I know people that don't have english as their first language who speaker better english than some actual native speakers!
    Id actually prefer a Guy who spoke french and no english so id practice it more!
    But yeah if we couldnt communicate in either of those languages i couldnt have a relationship with them
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    Jun 11, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    fitartistsf saidI actually prefer a guy with an accent. I'm still hoping to find somebody who has an accent to settle down with. I think it is so cute. I'm a Europhile, and so any guy with a European accent I'm a sucker for.... Anything from English/Scots/Irish, to Eastern European, to Mediterranean (Italian/Spanish)....


    +THIS
  • ohioguy12

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    Jun 11, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    I'm really into foreign guys, but if I find out they're fluent in english, it's a bit of a disappointment. The cutest thing in the world is if a non-fluent speaker is trying to speak english and forgets certain words.
  • Drift

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    Definitely. Words are important, but not fundamental. It would maybe make some things more difficult, but i wonder if those things would more likely be those things that affect you from the outside? Making love does not require words. Neither does caring for that person.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    Yes.....and as a result I was taught how to speak Romanian by my Prăjitura cu zahăr....pirate_2.gif
  • Buddha

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    Awh man you guys suck D: we know some English, at least. Sometimes.

    I tend to notice that native speakers get really pissed off when you correct them.
  • CincyBOJ

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    Jun 11, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    I was once seeing a guy who's native/main language is Indonesian but he knew English very well (and also German). On one romantic evening we were sitting in a large park, beautiful nature scenery, I had asked him to describe our moment in his native language. There was something magical about not understanding the words but listing to the rhythm and inflections in his voice. I never asked for a translation but listened to the feeling it gave me.
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    Jun 11, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    Only if I spoke his language.
    I would be able to lust after a guy I didn't share a language with, but couldn't love someone I couldn't talk with. For me communication and understanding brings on love.
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    Jun 11, 2012 3:17 PM GMT

    tough!.. possibly will try the best creative way to communicate!
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    Jun 11, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    Falo um pouco de Português...

    And only because the man I loved was Brazilian icon_smile.gif.
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    Jun 11, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    Learning a language come very quickly , especialy when love is involve.
    I went to Australia for study. My level at this time was realy poor. It took me 2 months to be able to hold a conversation, then 2 more months to be able to think in english. It incredible how guys arent able to make some concession sometime.

    Last thing... I love to speak english, but french, german and spanish too...
    Its not because you are speaking english that you dont have to learn an other language. Moreover when you love someone , the language he speak, and where he comes from makes his personality...

    Conclusion... I can do anything if I meet someone worth it!

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    Jun 11, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    Larkin saidFalo um pouco de Português...

    And only because the man I loved was Brazilian icon_smile.gif.


    awwwww icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 11, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
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    Jun 11, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    it has to do the fact if both guys like languages because many people hate learning foreign languages, in my case I wouldn't have any problem because I love languages I speak B1 German, B2+ English, A1 French and of course Spanish my mother tongue, in fact I love meeting people who love Spanish!! many foreign accents sound great!!
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    Jun 11, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    As an avid lover and learner of foreign languages, this wouldn't be a problem for me. I'd be more than willing to learn the language of my partner.
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    Jun 11, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    I feel sorry for the yappers who say they could not fall for someone based solely on language. Learn the new language you bozos. What the hell? Put some time in, you have love on the line. All you wankers write about on a daily basis is how hard it is to find someone of real substance, so now you imagine you are on vacation or traveling for business and then you meet him, this person you have been waiting to meet and the only thing that keeps him from perfection is he speaks a foreign tongue? Are you insane or stupid? Which is it? I could learn the fundamentals of almost any language in about a week, and that would be while I continue to work full time. Quit whining about wanting some sort of fantasy love when you could have it, if you would get off your lazy ass and be willing to do something as simple as learn a new language for the opportunity.
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    Jun 11, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    I gotta say, a guy with an accent is a huge turn on, I had a brief fling with a Brazilian pilot, aside from the fact he was stupid hot muscled floor to ceiling, (Think Ricky Martin - ripped) every time he spoke I wanted to drag him back to bed.. between his accent and his gorgeous smile, fluttery lashes and bedroom eyes.. Damn.. I should hunt him down.

    A guy could describe potting a plant in French and it would sound sexy. I think it would be much like falling in love with someone who was a deaf mute, you would adapt. As a kid I had a major crush on Ricky Ricardo LOL! Hot.icon_rolleyes.gif