My crazy parents break us with my boyfriend :(

  • eyeoftheshark

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    Jun 11, 2012 8:44 PM GMT
    I just broke up with my boyfriend this Saturday .He sufferrd from severe deppression after his ex left him and stole his money.He went throught cutting and i dont kow what else.he was on meds for the last three years i think but he stopped them last summer .his deppression was.coming back the last months .we didnt had the money for him to go to a psychiatriat again.But the last weeks were awfully bad i told him will find a way and he will go to a doctor.Im devastating ..we broke up cause of my family i came out to the last wendsday .it wend horrible wrong they locked me in the by the way) and the next day i left and went to find my20house (im boyfriend.we were in a long distance relationship with him since christmas and now i went to stay with him he told me to.get my things to his house.Im not living with my parents cause of college i was tired of lies and i decided to tell them the truth.Well my family was socked they didnt know were exactly i was and when they found my boyfriends name they hired some people to find everything about him and they did .they found his family and the house we were living my boyfriiend went to find his scared of something bad happening to them cause my family was threating our lives and then my fatmily came and took me from his house.The next day(Saturday) my boyfriend called me and said Were ovr.I kept thinking he did it to protect his family and himsel from my family.Things got better with my family and they calmed down we also talked with a psycologist with them .they got so angry cause they didnt know were i was.I havent talked with my boyfriend since saturday and i dont know if i will again i found his parents broke his cell phone and he lost his numbers.thought im sure he eill gone to facebook to comunicate with me if he wanted. his mother called and she will send my belongings from his house.Im starting to get severe depressed i would rather days now all im doing3 hours for a week now.3be dead .i havent slept over is crying and drinking so i dont fo anything bad to myself.How could he do ths to me?All this time he was afraid and told me mmillion mes not to ever live him.nitthat i ever would .he was afraid he was doing bad to me.and i got to the fact thats why ge left .i dont know im not well at all tommorow i will .go see a psychiatrist hope my boyfriend does too.I live in Greece by the way.I dont know why im still calling him my boyfriend but im still hoping.Today i threw in the garbage our engagement ring and his houde keys: Sorry for the typos im writing through my cellphonre.
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    Jun 11, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    Wow. Well on the outside chance your not a troll, that's a lot.

    1st. Keep in mind that nothing in this life is serious enough to hurt yourself for. That includes boyfriends, in fact especially boyfriends. Life turns on a dime, never forget that what seems an impossible mess today can be nothing tomorrow.

    2nd. If you are feeling like hurting yourself, please - don't. Get counseling, talk to someone - if you can't do that there are websites, forums, places to get some good advice. No man is worth that.

    3rd. Sometimes things end. I know it is hard and it seems bigger than life, but maybe it ended because the guy you meet next is the one you were supposed to be with? It happens every day. Gay or straight, people break up. Your adult enough to be someone's man, your adult enough to broom him if he hasn't the sense to contact you.

    4rth. Your family loves you sometimes they confuse control with love. Give them a minute to catch up.

    Lastly, you need to step back and take in the big picture. Getting involved with someone who has had issues can be a really difficult thing. There is a level of dramma there that may never stop. Please, if you do nothing else, take off the rose colored glasses and really look hard. I'm not saying people with issues are not worthwhile, many who get treatment and stay with it live very normal lives. But for those around the ones who don't, life can become an absolute hell in no time flat.

    Good luck
  • eyeoftheshark

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    Jun 12, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    No unfortunatelly im not a troll ..Thanks for the reply,im not thinking of hurting myself now..Dating someone with this mentallity is realy hard.I was trying my best ,i dont think he ever understood how much i love him cause of his illness..What else can i say i know life.gets better with time..I gave him everything and now its time to move on and give to myself.
  • eyeoftheshark

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    Jun 12, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    broom him means dust him away?forget about him? i cant find it on google :/
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    Jun 12, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    eyeoftheshark saidbroom him means dust him away?forget about him? i cant find it on google :/


    Yes, it means let him go. Life is complicated enough without adding mental issues to the pile. It may be decades if ever that he finally gets that in control. That's a lot of grief, sometimes no matter how much you love someone you're going to loose.
  • eyeoftheshark

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    Jun 12, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    Thanks for the reply it really helped..
  • eyeoftheshark

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    Jun 12, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    Ironically enough Saturday that we broke up was the Gay pride parade in my country .Not that there is any pride left here ,just saying... icon_idea.gif
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    Jun 12, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
    eyeoftheshark saidIronically enough Saturday that we broke up was the Gay pride parade in my country .Not that there is any pride left here ,just saying... icon_idea.gif


    Pride. That comes with time, and at different times in a guy's life. Your more than welcome, and someday - some guy will be lucky to have you, more importantly he will REALISE he is lucky to have you. Till then, enjoy the adventure!
  • eyeoftheshark

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    Jun 13, 2012 10:34 AM GMT
    NoNoNoYes said


    Pride. That comes with time, and at different times in a guy's life. Your more than welcome, and someday - some guy will be lucky to have you, more importantly he will REALISE he is lucky to have you.
    I hope so .