rogerfederer saidso i heard these stories that college for gay guys was going to b great. they have a bunch of young sexy guys and they might share ur same interests. of course the parties and wild sex (not my thing) but college has disappointed me. I thought when i went to college id have all these opportunities to date and finally b gay but there are none. the one place where all young guys come together and nobody even looks at me. Is this really how its suppose to be?? or was i deluding myself?
I don't think you were deluding yourself, hell you have Hollywood to thank for that. They make it look like a given on TV and the big screen that your going to live like a rockstar. Much like regular life, nothing is effortless. Your a really good looking guy, everything exactly where it needs to be. You don't strike me as LD. You might consider checking out some of the areas of interest and study that gay guys are attracted to? Drama for one, and that's not stereotyping, it's just good sense. Check out some of the study groups as well.
Where I came from (Michigan) Ann Arbor, home to U of M was a major gay hub. Yet it's not like there were 50 gay clubs. Sometimes it's as simple as making one friend, personally I would find the most flamboyant guy. I guaranty you he is connected and knows the social directory by heart. They are a bloody blast to hang out with, I've never met one that was not hysterically funny, and regardless how macho people gravitate to them. They will without hesitation drag you by the hand to introduce you to everyone you really need to know. PS, they always have your back.
Even when I was in the closet, one of my closest friends was a total flaming queen. I never let him know I was gay, yet I know he totally suspected despite my being married. He used to bring his "boys" by all the time, straight up putting me on the spot having them check out my ass, rambling on about what a hot homo I could be. My X knew better than to give me crap over him, and I think she got a sadistic kick out of how red I got.
Also, if your in a place you KNOW there are gay guys, dude! your cute - look at them! If you're not they will never approach you, keep in mind nobody likes to get shot down. If you flash them a smile and maintain eye contact, I promise you won't be standing there alone long. Never fails. I'm never the aggressor, it's all I have ever had to do. What you do from there is up to you.
Lastly, chillax. The party's and socialising are fun, but keep your eye on the prize. It can be pretty tricky to balance.