Pushy skypers

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    Jun 12, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    Have you ever had a guy who was really into skyping that the moment you give him your skype ID he'll expect you'll instantly hop on and chat..and 15 minutes later you'll get a message like "I'm not into games... nice life" or something like that.

    Or even when you do not within an hour get back to someone, and then they freak and type "why are you ignoring me?" as if you LIVE on your computer.. or you are not at work.. or in transit.. or taking a dump... or eating.. or just generally living real life. Some people do take internet connection TOO seriously.. then jump to conclusions and shoot themselves in the foot.

    Also.. i can't stand when i do give out my skype and will log on.. and instantly will get a cold call from some guy who is trying to start a video a call. No "Hello.. what are you doing? wanna jack off? Can you Jack off?"


    Discuss. Am i the only one?
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    Jun 12, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    Oh and then... A certain dude just now sent me a message after berating me for not instantly jumping on skype ( i never said i would):

    IF I AM ON HERE I CAN SKYPE

    IF YOU ARE HERE BE AVAILABLE

    BYE


    I'm like "Bye back" .. It's insanity to tell someone how to use a service or if you are on, you should be available on skype because that is how you use RJ.

    That's insanity!
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 12, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    If you're giving guys on the IM function or in the chat rooms our Skype info when they ask for it, it's usually because they're on it already and want someone to jerk off with. It's naive to think otherwise. icon_rolleyes.gif

    If you've been messaging a guy for a while and then you talk about moving the relationship to Skype, that's another story. This sounds like a situation of the former, though.
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    Jun 12, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
    No this is a message. regular. I do not use IM because i can not talk in real time. If i can not talk in real time, i am not using the IM function.. i would think anyone with common sense would think that through message if you ask for my skype and i am not on any real time messengers and i've been slowly communicating with you through message... that i am not able to chat on skype.

    I'm pretty sure in my original Post i used the word message and not IM.
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    Jun 12, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    baha experienced something like that yesterday (on RJ not on Skype) - some guy (I won't name names) wrote to me and I wrote back. I had received messages from several other members and forgot to check the next message he sent before logging out. When I signed in later he had written to me again saying, "what's your deal, dude? most guys are into me. How come you're not?"

    What the hell icon_confused.gif lol
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    Jun 12, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    i don't even give gays my Skype. It turns the into wild animals.
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    Jun 12, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidbaha experienced something like that yesterday - some guy (I won't name names) wrote to me and I wrote back. I had received messages from several other members and forgot to check the next message he sent before logging out. When I signed in later he had written to me again saying, "what's your deal, dude? most guys are into me. How come you're not?"

    What the hell icon_confused.gif lol



    Some people get BUTT hurt! Straight up HURT if you do not respond to them right away.. and perhaps you'll honestly miss the message.. or do not have time for a response.. You don't have to project your personal feelings of inadequacy on me and my failure to respond to you in the time frame YOU personally see fit.

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    Jun 12, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    It's very easy to avoid these types (for the overwhelming most part): stop giving your skype addy out to guys with whom you haven't built up any pre-established, conversation-based friendship with a decent while prior to.
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    Jun 12, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    I am guilty of that... with some people on here... and to those people (you know who you are) I apologize.
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    Jun 13, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    This is one of the reasons I mostly have my IM feature turned off. People get proprietary in a hurry; they think they own you, like you're a movie screen they can yell at.
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    Jun 13, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidThis is one of the reasons I mostly have my IM feature turned off. People get proprietary in a hurry; they think they own you, like you're a movie screen they can yell at.


    yeah.. i never use the IM function myself.

    I think some guys will go to your profile and see you are listed as online (period) and will use that as fodder to assume you are ignoring them.. when in actuality, you could just have the window open, or shut the window down and the system still has you listed on your profile as online.. or you are off doing other shit period... possibilities endless. Its best to not assume someone is ignoring you unless you go weeks and several messages with no response. yeah it's pretty obvious, he's not into you.
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    Jun 13, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    Just so you know, most of those guys on skype are just scammers/spammers. They're recording what you do on video and posting them to porn sites. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 13, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    or they start off nice then after talking a bit they ask if you have skype then they tell you to get on and drop your damn pants.
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    Jun 13, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    wanna skype? icon_biggrin.gif
  • Lanter

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    Jun 13, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    For the most part, when I give out skype screen names, its to discuss a topic that has already been determined.
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    Jun 13, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    I think it's funny people assume I have a webcam.

    "Let's Skype"

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    Jun 13, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    This thread is a great topic and I can't help but laugh at the fact that those same things have happened to me. People take Skype and IM WAY too seriously. It is just another means of communicating.

    Honestly, when I talk to friends or guys that I meet online on Skype, I generally chat with them, because I figure they are probably busy with other things as well. Most people need to realize another person's life does NOT revolve one conversation with one person.

    Of course if time permits & I ask them if it's ok to vid chat, then we cam. It really is all about respect. If both people respect one another's time & understand that, then everything is good.

    But what guys ACTUALLY are cordial, considerate, and use common sense? ---___-- lol
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    Jun 13, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    I think it's kind of funny that people assume because you are on gay site (and this isn't a sex site.. you can't show hard ejaculating cock and a dildo up your ass) that you SHOULD cam with them. Or because you said you found them attractive that point A should lead to B, and B to C... Unlike any other site i've been on, i've notice a little more "entitlement" in some guys. Just because i give you my skype doesn't even mean that i then must cam with you because you want to.

    Whatever happened to... if you catch me, you catch me.. if you don't, you don't.. My life doesn't revolve around having webcam chat with YOU.

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    Jun 13, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    Musclenerd11 saidThis thread is a great topic and I can't help but laugh at the fact that those same things have happened to me. People take Skype and IM WAY too seriously. It is just another means of communicating.

    Honestly, when I talk to friends or guys that I meet online on Skype, I generally chat with them, because I figure they are probably busy with other things as well. Most people need to realize another person's life does NOT revolve one conversation with one person.

    Of course if time permits & I ask them if it's ok to vid chat, then we cam. It really is all about respect. If both people respect one another's time & understand that, then everything is good.

    But what guys ACTUALLY are cordial, considerate, and use common sense? ---___-- lol


    Totally man. I would actually like to think the bulk of people on sites like this DO understand that this is all voluntary and really there aren't any rules. When someone gets upset that i do not respond whenever or assumes i actually dissed them, then I'm actually slightly offended they think that i have NO LIFE and just sit in front of my computer waiting to speak to them. Then i'm turned off.. and if they assume that i am "playing games" with them.. then i will assume they are developmentally delayed and are dorks enough to get upset over something that never happened.

    The same shit happens on facebook.

    and i hate i installed facebook messenger on my phone because people on facebook will see the phone icon and assume you are there, when you are just logged on in your phone and not paying attention.. i've had several people think they get avoid because the cell messenger icon appears to say i am on. It's just saying basically "User is on mobile".
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    Jun 13, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    xrichx saidJust so you know, most of those guys on skype are just scammers/spammers. They're recording what you do on video and posting them to porn sites. icon_lol.gif


    So that explains that footage of me up on Xtube ... icon_eek.gif


    Totally lying. As far as I know....
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    Jun 13, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    I attract all the assholes and creepers.

    -.- I'll admit- you know what they say about birds of a feather.
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    Jun 13, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    AlphaTrigger said
    xrichx saidJust so you know, most of those guys on skype are just scammers/spammers. They're recording what you do on video and posting them to porn sites. icon_lol.gif


    So that explains that footage of me up on Xtube ... icon_eek.gif
    Totally lying. As far as I know....
    *Views Adult Pics* icon_eek.gif
    You SHOULD be on Xtube. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 13, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    Ah, the cyber world is such a peculiar place, 'tis not?

    I don't skype

    I don't cam

    I don't IM

  • nomadfornow

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    Jun 13, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    ^^BOOOOOOOOOO - RIIIIINNNG!!!!

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    Jun 13, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    Totally had this happen the other day. If I took too long to respond to a message the guy freaked out. And when I didn't understand what he meant (because it's easy to decipher sarcasm through texted words) he also freaked out. In the end he said I had "no social skills."

    I have blocked him and have moved on with my life.