Jun 13, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
Several years ago I found out that my boyfriend went to a bathhouse in downtown NYC. I was out with my girlfriends on a Friday night (yes I'm female, and I have no idea where else to ask this but a forum where gay men will see this, so thank you in advance for any insight you can provide). I came home to our Upper West Side apartment and realized he was still out. I was slightly buzzed and fell asleep and woke up when he came home sometime around 3am. He told me that he and his friend he played hockey with had gone to a bathhouse somewhere downtown. No other details were given, and I was a naive 24 year old, and thought nothing of it. We broke up two years ago. Now that I've grown up a little more, I find myself idly wondering if maybe he did something with his friend or someone else at that bathhouse. Why would a straight guy go to a bathhouse? To hang out in a sauna with a bunch of dudes and relax? Come on! Haha. Now I think back and I'm slightly amused at the prospect of my "straight" boyfriend going to a bathhouse and having gay sex (although I'll admit that the thought of him coming home and doing it with me after being unfaithful is somewhat disturbing). Do you think this is why he went? There are a few other reasons why I suspect he may be gay. Btw, he is married to a woman now, which I also find amusing. Anyway, just wanted to know what you think in general of "straight" men going to bathhouses, and if it actually happens where they don't go for sex with other men. Thanks!