sensitive dating insensitive men

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    Jun 13, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    I'm curious what people's experiences are. Being an emotional or sensitive guy, dating someone that is the opposite. Do you find that creates problems? What about being emotional/sensitive and dating the same? More or less problems? I'm curious if this is one of those instances where opposites complement each other or if the differences cause more friction than similar types would.

  • calibro

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    Jun 13, 2012 11:52 AM GMT
    you mean bert and ernie?
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    Jun 13, 2012 1:00 PM GMT
    uoft23 said Being an emotional or sensitive guy, dating someone that is the opposite. [...]


    Sounds illogical to me. Like oil and water. Why subject oneself to that?
  • McMacster

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    Jun 13, 2012 1:02 PM GMT
    calibro saidyou mean bert and ernie?


    lol'ed
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    Jun 13, 2012 1:11 PM GMT
    seems to work with straight couples, heh.

    But optimally I imagine gays of a feather should fluck together.
  • xebec75

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    Jun 13, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    ^this is completely wrong...

    this nonsense is why couple after couple I meet is in a tedious sexless marriage they are to emotionally crippled to get out of...

    no frisson...no sex...no bueno
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    Jun 13, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    calibro saidyou mean bert and ernie?


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    Sort of actually lol.

    A guy that isn't very emotionally deep can come off as very callous sometimes, in my experience. But I wonder if being an emotional person, dating someone that was more like myself, they'd probably just drive me nuts.
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    Jun 13, 2012 6:53 PM GMT
    xebec75 said^this is completely wrong...

    this nonsense is why couple after couple I meet is in a tedious sexless marriage they are to emotionally crippled to get out of...

    no frisson...no sex...no bueno


    ?
    Please explain.
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    Jun 14, 2012 8:59 AM GMT
    Don't date a guy who is insensitive to a major degree if you are sensitive... I did this and was a horrible experience looking back.....after 2 years together he could not even tell me that he liked me....he never wanted to talk, never wanted to go out and do things, and would never cuddle in the bed room.

    If anything happened I had to put it together and he would not help or give any feedback about if he liked it or not. When i really pushed him he would say some hurtful commit and we go back to being silent.

  • tautomer

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    Jun 14, 2012 9:00 AM GMT
    It was a disaster for me when I did (with me being the sensitive guy). I tried so hard to get him to understand my emotional nature, and that failed. I tried meeting him in the middle, that failed (cause he didn't move at all). We were simply too different. He could not give me what I needed, and I could not be what he wanted me to be.
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    Jun 14, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    Thankfully we have a dating period before getting into a relationship. Test the water first and see how it goes.
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    Jun 14, 2012 10:24 AM GMT
    Hmm, Ive fallen for emotional people, and less emotional people.. on the whole, what I like about falling for less emotional people, since Im already emotional... and when i fall for an emotional person, and we both get emotional, it just makes it all the more annoying... but its true you both have to at least understand each other.... so theres advantages and disadvantages to both... I suppose the only thing that matters is that you really love and respect each other and communicate and try to compromise on certain things while still allowing the other person to be themselves bla bla bla

    Look at me, you'd think I was an expert, but Ive been single for 32 years haha... where does it all come from I wonder? icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 14, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidHmm, Ive fallen for emotional people, and less emotional people.. on the whole, what I like about falling for less emotional people, since Im already emotional... and when i fall for an emotional person, and we both get emotional, it just makes it all the more annoying... but its true you both have to at least understand each other.... so theres advantages and disadvantages to both... I suppose the only thing that matters is that you really love and respect each other and communicate and try to compromise on certain things while still allowing the other person to be themselves bla bla bla

    Look at me, you'd think I was an expert, but Ive been single for 32 years haha... where does it all come from I wonder? icon_smile.gif


    Thats more or less what I was curious about. I've never really dated anyone thats very emotional but I suspect two emotional guys would almost feed off of each other in a cycle of madness haha.

    Some of the descriptions of insensitive guys seemed like they were just assholes to me. I would consider my bf insensitive only because he doesn't really give emotional things much consideration until I draw attention to them. But when I do he's usually willing to entertain my thoughts at least. icon_lol.gif