Would you date a guy. . .

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    Jun 13, 2012 6:38 AM GMT
    who is on probation and may possibly be sent away for more than a year icon_question.gif
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    Jun 13, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    no.
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    Jun 13, 2012 6:42 AM GMT
    Yes, I am on house arrest right now #parnersincrime
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 13, 2012 11:43 AM GMT
    Is he on probation for possession of marijuana? Not such a big deal. Is he on probation for assault and battery? Theft? Possession with intent to sell? No effing way.
  • calibro

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    Jun 13, 2012 11:48 AM GMT
    depends on the crime. murder, yes. smoking in public spaces, no.
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    Jun 13, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    He say's he wishes to get his life back on track, and I kinda believe him.
    He's one of the sweetest guys I've met icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 13, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    I know I made mistakes in my life (no bad enough to be sent away) but even then I aways hoped for another chance. If your gut feeling says it's ok, then why not icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 13, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    Depends on the crime but if you really like him and are interested I'd say go for it.


  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 13, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    What was his crime?
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    Jun 13, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    he used to sell pot but it was dropped for a heavier one namely illegal possession of firearms.

    he stated it was a bad time for him and attempted to kill himself. got caught by his mom, took the gun and fleed while under alcohol influence.

    he's fucked up but he's really smart, and i just love being around him.
    and he say's he feels the same way too.

    might be too late of a question too, as I think I already like him.
    but I gotta wait till he's still at home for another week to see if his drug test
    comes out clean and I feel worse than when I had my HIV testing done. icon_sad.gif
  • vintovka

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    Jun 13, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    kyleray saidhe used to sell pot but it was dropped for a heavier one namely illegal possession of firearms.

    he stated it was a bad time for him and attempted to kill himself. got caught by his mom, took the gun and fleed while under alcohol influence.

    he's fucked up but he's really smart, and i just love being around him.
    and he say's he feels the same way too.

    might be too late of a question too, as I think I already like him.
    but I gotta wait till he's still at home for another week to see if his drug test
    comes out clean and I feel worse than when I had my HIV testing done. icon_sad.gif


    I personally would be worried about the drug use more than the gun possession per se. If he deals with his struggles by getting f'ed up, then he will likely end up being a danger to himself and others, with or without a gun. If he would not keep a gun around if he were in his right mind and he is staying clean (in his right mind) then sure, I'd date him. If he were still getting f'ed up I'd run the other way.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
    kyleray saidhe used to sell pot but it was dropped for a heavier one namely illegal possession of firearms.

    he stated it was a bad time for him and attempted to kill himself. got caught by his mom, took the gun and fleed while under alcohol influence.

    he's fucked up but he's really smart, and i just love being around him.
    and he say's he feels the same way too.

    might be too late of a question too, as I think I already like him.
    but I gotta wait till he's still at home for another week to see if his drug test
    comes out clean and I feel worse than when I had my HIV testing done. icon_sad.gif


    oxymoron.

    If he was smart, he wouldn't of sold pot or possessed firearms...

    if he was smart, he wouldn't of attempted to kill himself... or flee while under the influence of alcohol.

    He isn't smart, he's spontaneous and confused.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Jun 14, 2012 6:26 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    kyleray saidhe used to sell pot but it was dropped for a heavier one namely illegal possession of firearms.

    he stated it was a bad time for him and attempted to kill himself. got caught by his mom, took the gun and fleed while under alcohol influence.

    he's fucked up but he's really smart, and i just love being around him.
    and he say's he feels the same way too.

    might be too late of a question too, as I think I already like him.
    but I gotta wait till he's still at home for another week to see if his drug test
    comes out clean and I feel worse than when I had my HIV testing done. icon_sad.gif


    oxymoron.

    If he was smart, he wouldn't of sold pot or possessed firearms...

    if he was smart, he wouldn't of attempted to kill himself... or flee while under the influence of alcohol.

    He isn't smart, he's spontaneous and confused.


    "Smart" and "spontaneous and confused" aren't mutually exclusive categories. Intelligence isn't the inability to do stupid things.

    Trust me, you will meet many people who are both smart and fucked up before you die. At times, you may even be one of them.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Jun 14, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    I don't know whether you should date the guy or not -- it's a lot to take on if he's sent away and may have too disruptive an effect on your life -- but I certainly wouldn't discourage you from caring about him and being a friend to him. He's going to need people in his life who are able and willing to do both, and if he does have them, it's all the more likely that he'll be able to turn his life around as you believe he wants to do.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    slimnmuscly said
    _Mohamed_ said
    kyleray saidhe used to sell pot but it was dropped for a heavier one namely illegal possession of firearms.

    he stated it was a bad time for him and attempted to kill himself. got caught by his mom, took the gun and fleed while under alcohol influence.

    he's fucked up but he's really smart, and i just love being around him.
    and he say's he feels the same way too.

    might be too late of a question too, as I think I already like him.
    but I gotta wait till he's still at home for another week to see if his drug test
    comes out clean and I feel worse than when I had my HIV testing done. icon_sad.gif


    oxymoron.

    If he was smart, he wouldn't of sold pot or possessed firearms...

    if he was smart, he wouldn't of attempted to kill himself... or flee while under the influence of alcohol.

    He isn't smart, he's spontaneous and confused.


    "Smart" and "spontaneous and confused" aren't mutually exclusive categories. Intelligence isn't the inability to do stupid things.

    Trust me, you will meet many people who are both smart and fucked up before you die. At times, you may even be one of them.


    Intelligence is the ability to carry out an adaptive, best possible outcome in any situation presented to you.

    The mere fact that he was going against the views of the majority of the people he is with is in itself not smart at all.

    Why make things harder on yourself? That's counter-intuitive.

    FYI, I will NEVER be an idiot like this man and do something illegal.

    You know, there are MANY people who have never committed an illegal act - I happen to be one of them.

    If he didn't like the laws of the land he was in, he is free to leave... the very fact that he was selling marijuana when he knew it was illegal is him being not smart.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    No hood rats, thanks.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    Probably not.
  • Beeftastic

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    Jun 14, 2012 6:56 AM GMT
    I'm guessing you like drama?

    Firearms and drugs don't mix well from a legal perspective, anyone that combines the two is not the brightest bulb in the box.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Jun 14, 2012 7:05 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    slimnmuscly said
    _Mohamed_ said
    kyleray saidhe used to sell pot but it was dropped for a heavier one namely illegal possession of firearms.

    he stated it was a bad time for him and attempted to kill himself. got caught by his mom, took the gun and fleed while under alcohol influence.

    he's fucked up but he's really smart, and i just love being around him.
    and he say's he feels the same way too.

    might be too late of a question too, as I think I already like him.
    but I gotta wait till he's still at home for another week to see if his drug test
    comes out clean and I feel worse than when I had my HIV testing done. icon_sad.gif


    oxymoron.

    If he was smart, he wouldn't of sold pot or possessed firearms...

    if he was smart, he wouldn't of attempted to kill himself... or flee while under the influence of alcohol.

    He isn't smart, he's spontaneous and confused.


    "Smart" and "spontaneous and confused" aren't mutually exclusive categories. Intelligence isn't the inability to do stupid things.

    Trust me, you will meet many people who are both smart and fucked up before you die. At times, you may even be one of them.


    Intelligence is the ability to carry out an adaptive, best possible outcome in any situation presented to you.


    That's one type of intelligence, yes. Others, to cite Merriam-Webster, include "the ability to apply knowledge to manipulate one's environment or to think abstractly as measured by objective criteria" and "mental acuteness." A person who shows those types of intelligence has potential to develop the other type.

    _Mohamed_ said

    The mere fact that he was going against the views of the majority of the people he is with is in itself not smart at all.

    Why make things harder on yourself? That's counter-intuitive.

    FYI, I will NEVER be an idiot like this man and do something illegal.

    You know, there are MANY people who have never committed an illegal act - I happen to be one of them.

    If he didn't like the laws of the land he was in, he is free to leave... the very fact that he was selling marijuana when he knew it was illegal is him being not smart.


    I didn't mean to suggest that you're ever going to do anything illegal, but if you think that because you're intelligent -- which you obviously are -- you'll never do anything unintelligent, then that strikes me as an unintelligent assumption.

    The rest of your post conflates conformity with intelligence -- not an intelligent argument -- and posits a freedom of mobility that just doesn't exist in today's world. Most people aren't free to just pick up and move to the country of their choice. Again, not an intelligent argument. More evidence that intelligent people are capable of behaving unintelligently.
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    Jun 14, 2012 7:07 AM GMT
    You already know the answer to this question. It is clearly a poor idea, and you knew that the moment you decided to post this.

    So really the only thing that remains to be seen is whether you can restrain your impulses. What a previous poster said about intelligence is accurate - there are a load of intelligent people who have no self-control, and they don't live enviable lifestyles. I think he called it "spontaneous".

    The key to success in life is being able to feel one thing and do another.
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    Jun 14, 2012 7:10 AM GMT
    hot
  • Suetonius

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    Jun 14, 2012 7:16 AM GMT
    kyleray said

    he's fucked up but he's really smart, and i just love being around him.
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    If he's fucked up and you want him, then you are probably equally fucked up.
    You could "date" him, but not get seriously involved; then when he gets sent off to the slammer, you move on.
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    Jun 14, 2012 7:22 AM GMT
    Personally, I would not. And not just because of his potential jail term. There is just too much going on with this guy to make me feel comfortable.
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    Jun 14, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    Too late. We are now dating. Though I'm not really clear on what that word means here.

    He's still at home, and that means he cleared the drug testing.
    He said that whenever he's with me, he wants to get his life back on track.

    I do care for this guy, and if we stay together or not, we'll have to find that
    out through time but I'm going to take the risk.

    And try to keep him out of trouble.
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    Jun 14, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
    oohh prison love