Check this out!!!!! What would you have done?

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    Jun 13, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    So, I had been talking to this guy online/phone/text for a couple of weeks and we were really hitting it off. I finally meet up with him last night for a date and realized he had totally posted a fake pic online. He looked NOTHING like the picture he was saying was him. I immediately said hi, bye and walked out. Am I being shallow? Was I wrong for reacting like that? I was actually just expecting him to be some queen, but was totally straight-acting, total bummer for me icon_mad.gif
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    Jun 13, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    I say that's fine. It's just stupid of him to post fake pics in the first place anyway and that waste both person's time. Even if you hit it off fine, he's already being a liar.
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    Jun 13, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    Personally, I don't think it was shallow. The dude was dishonest. How can you build any sort of relationship - even friendship - when the trust is breached from the start?

    That's just my personal thought.

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    Jun 13, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    i think you did the right thing....i would have done the same
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    Jun 13, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    You did the right thing. Don't give fakers/liars any hope that they can fake/lie and get away with it.
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    Jun 13, 2012 8:43 PM GMT
    Totally appropriate. I hope you made him pay for the bill.
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    Jun 13, 2012 8:45 PM GMT
    If you talked for weeks, he had plenty of time to come clean and be honest but chose not to. Even if he was attractive I'd have walked away. Dishonest people are negative influences in every way.
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    Jun 13, 2012 8:46 PM GMT
    what kills me is how did you find who he was, you must have referred back to his pics, no icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 14, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    The guy was a moron. I don't understand why guys do that, they gotta know how messed up that is. When I first came out I met a few guys online. I had this happen twice, one was really bad, the other wound up being weird but good.

    The "Bad". The picture he had up was a strong 7, face was "so so" but his body was off the hook, and he seemed nice enough. We had chatted on line for a really long time, he was constantly badgering me to meet him. I finally caved in and said ok.

    He was 1/2 hour away, which was really further than I wanted to be traveling for a potential bf, but I figured wtf. We were going to meet at a bar around the halfway point. He calls at the last minute and says his car broke down, can I just come there.. I'm a little skittish, he reassures me he isn't "trying anything" and after I pick him up we can head to a bar around the corner from his place.

    A guy comes to the door and I asked if Eric was home. He says "I'm Eric.. as I step in the door. The guy standing before me was was not just chubby, he was round. I immediately just blurted out "You do know this is SO not gonna happen right?" I was pissed. I straight up asked him who's pictures he stole, he tried to claim it was him from a few years back - I looked at him and said Dude!! Do I look blind? The only thing you have in common with the guy in the pictures is that your both blond, you telling me you shrunk 4 inches AND gained 75 lbs? Then he says well actually those are my X bf, I didn't know they were still on my profile. Yeah right. I couldn't get over how BOLD this guy was! Word - NO damned way it was his bf.

    Then I'm thinking "Oh shit, I wonder if he has a gun" LOL I busted for the door, him right behind me thanking me for coming.. I didn't even turn around. THAT was the last time I went to someones house on the first meet up.

    The second incident, the guy has plenty of pics, agrees to meet me at a Starbucks close to my house. He is supposed to be in his 30's, tall, brown hair. I sat there for 20 minutes beyond the appointed time, the whole time there was this dark haired younger guy staring holes in me. I finally decide he is a no show and leave.

    The younger guy that had been staring at me pulls out from the curb as I turn out. He pulls along side me, I look over and keep driving. Miles down the road, 3 turns later and he is still behind he. I pull into a drugstore - he pulls along side me. I roll down my window he leans out and says "Dude your really hot." I'm so dense I still didn't register the situation. He says "Do you have some place for us to go?" The guy looked like Freddy Prinze Jr., NO way I was gonna say no.

    By the time we got to my apartment the "lights" went on. He used the dummy profile to get me there so he could check me out up close before meeting me. Clever. I won't go into the gory details lol, but it was stupid hot. We saw each other off and on for 2 years.icon_twisted.gif




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    Jun 14, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
    I couldn't fault you for that. It's indicative of who he is. If he can't be himself then he can't be trusted altogether. That's my take on it.
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    Jun 14, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    i would have done the same, but given him a nice verbal bitch slap as well.

    but four for you glen coco, you go glen coco!
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    Jun 14, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    NoNoNoYes saidThe guy was a moron. I don't understand why guys do that, they gotta know how messed up that is. When I first came out I met a few guys online. I had this happen twice, one was really bad, the other wound up being weird but good.

    The "Bad". The picture he had up was a strong 7, face was "so so" but his body was off the hook, and he seemed nice enough. We had chatted on line for a really long time, he was constantly badgering me to meet him. I finally caved in and said ok.

    He was 1/2 hour away, which was really further than I wanted to be traveling for a potential bf, but I figured wtf. We were going to meet at a bar around the halfway point. He calls at the last minute and says his car broke down, can I just come there.. I'm a little skittish, he reassures me he isn't "trying anything" and after I pick him up we can head to a bar around the corner from his place.

    A guy comes to the door and I asked if Eric was home. He says "I'm Eric.. as I step in the door. The guy standing before me was was not just chubby, he was round. I immediately just blurted out "You do know this is SO not gonna happen right?" I was pissed. I straight up asked him who's pictures he stole, he tried to claim it was him from a few years back - I looked at him and said Dude!! Do I look blind? The only thing you have in common with the guy in the pictures is that your both blond, you telling me you shrunk 4 inches AND gained 75 lbs? Then he says well actually those are my X bf, I didn't know they were still on my profile. Yeah right. I couldn't get over how BOLD this guy was! Word - NO damned way it was his bf.

    Then I'm thinking "Oh shit, I wonder if he has a gun" LOL I busted for the door, him right behind me thanking me for coming.. I didn't even turn around. THAT was the last time I went to someones house on the first meet up.

    The second incident, the guy has plenty of pics, agrees to meet me at a Starbucks close to my house. He is supposed to be in his 30's, tall, brown hair. I sat there for 20 minutes beyond the appointed time, the whole time there was this dark haired younger guy staring holes in me. I finally decide he is a no show and leave.

    The younger guy that had been staring at me pulls out from the curb as I turn out. He pulls along side me, I look over and keep driving. Miles down the road, 3 turns later and he is still behind he. I pull into a drugstore - he pulls along side me. I roll down my window he leans out and says "Dude your really hot." I'm so dense I still didn't register the situation. He says "Do you have some place for us to go?" The guy looked like Freddy Prinze Jr., NO way I was gonna say no.

    By the time we got to my apartment the "lights" went on. He used the dummy profile to get me there so he could check me out up close before meeting me. Clever. I won't go into the gory details lol, but it was stupid hot. We saw each other off and on for 2 years.icon_twisted.gif





    Omg that was such a boring read, what the hell do I care, your not the OP, make your own post.
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    Jun 14, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    I would have at least asked him about it before walking out. Not sure what kind of explanation would suffice, but I would have at least given him a fair shot at explaining.

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    Jun 14, 2012 5:21 PM GMT
    ECnAZ saidI would have at least asked him about it before walking out. Not sure what kind of explanation would suffice, but I would have at least given him a fair shot at explaining.




    He had a week or two of explaining to do, i think the OP did the right thing, this is not elementary stuff, its real life situation, and people just have to own up to who they say they are. Its not shallow at all. I mean how often does the person do such a thing to try to get a date? could not be his first, if he was able to do that to the OP. Such is life and we learn from it, and move on.
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    Jun 14, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
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    He had a week or two of explaining to do, i think the OP did the right thing, this is not elementary stuff, its real life situation, and people just have to own up to who they say they are. Its not shallow at all. I mean how often does the person do such a thing to try to get a date? could not be his first, if he was able to do that to the OP. Such is life and we learn from it, and move on.


    To you it may seem cut and dry but to me it's not. I'm not saying the OP, or anyone else who agrees with him, is wrong. I'm just saying that my own personal approach would have been different.
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    Jun 14, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    ECnAZ said
    Agamemnon said
    He had a week or two of explaining to do, i think the OP did the right thing, this is not elementary stuff, its real life situation, and people just have to own up to who they say they are. Its not shallow at all. I mean how often does the person do such a thing to try to get a date? could not be his first, if he was able to do that to the OP. Such is life and we learn from it, and move on.


    To you it may seem cut and dry but to me it's not. I'm not saying the OP, or anyone else who agrees with him, is wrong. I'm just saying that my own personal approach would have been different.


    Its just common sense, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion and how they approach or handle things, i am sure if i was in the OP's shoes and dealing with the situation, then i could see things differently, see what kind of a personality the guy he was talking to had, but its just hard to grasp the idea that he showed something different than his normal self, its like wearing a mask, and showing your true colors. But i dont know, its just hard to bite that one down.
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    Jun 14, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    It's been over 10 years since some internet loser did that to me.

    The funny part is he drove 120 miles to meet me, and I immediately sent him back home. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 14, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    AardvarkPetter saidHahaha thats halarious! It makes me want to create a fake profile and lure gay people out into public and watch them be confused as they try to find the person that they thought they were talking to.
    Cellphone + intuition. I've met guys with no pics and spotted them right away, just by watching body language (or seeing them talk to me on the phone).
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    Jun 14, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    Agamemnon said
    ECnAZ said
    Agamemnon said
    He had a week or two of explaining to do, i think the OP did the right thing, this is not elementary stuff, its real life situation, and people just have to own up to who they say they are. Its not shallow at all. I mean how often does the person do such a thing to try to get a date? could not be his first, if he was able to do that to the OP. Such is life and we learn from it, and move on.


    To you it may seem cut and dry but to me it's not. I'm not saying the OP, or anyone else who agrees with him, is wrong. I'm just saying that my own personal approach would have been different.


    Its just common sense, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion and how they approach or handle things, i am sure if i was in the OP's shoes and dealing with the situation, then i could see things differently, see what kind of a personality the guy he was talking to had, but its just hard to grasp the idea that he showed something different than his normal self, its like wearing a mask, and showing your true colors. But i dont know, its just hard to bite that one down.


    First, "elementary". Now, "common sense". What are you going to say next to try to dumb me down?

    Again, my approach would be different and I'll leave it at that. The OP asked what we would have done and I stated it.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    ECnAZ said
    Agamemnon said
    ECnAZ said
    Agamemnon said
    He had a week or two of explaining to do, i think the OP did the right thing, this is not elementary stuff, its real life situation, and people just have to own up to who they say they are. Its not shallow at all. I mean how often does the person do such a thing to try to get a date? could not be his first, if he was able to do that to the OP. Such is life and we learn from it, and move on.


    To you it may seem cut and dry but to me it's not. I'm not saying the OP, or anyone else who agrees with him, is wrong. I'm just saying that my own personal approach would have been different.


    Its just common sense, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion and how they approach or handle things, i am sure if i was in the OP's shoes and dealing with the situation, then i could see things differently, see what kind of a personality the guy he was talking to had, but its just hard to grasp the idea that he showed something different than his normal self, its like wearing a mask, and showing your true colors. But i dont know, its just hard to bite that one down.


    First, "elementary". Now, "common sense". What are you going to say next to try to dumb me down?

    Again, my approach would be different and I'll leave it at that. The OP asked what we would have done and I stated it.


    Totally not trying to dumb you down at all, and not looking for forum war at all icon_smile.gif like i said earlier, everyone is entitled to their own opinion thats all.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    i think you were a bit rude. i mean really, was he totally busted? at least you could have stayed a bit and talked to him. how would you feel if someone did that to you. listen, i am not saying you should have stayed but you could have handled it a little bit better
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    Honestly - if someone did that to me. I'd probably just stay for the meal. Why go hungry and then just them know that it isn't happening. Split the bill and go on your merry way.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidi think you were a bit rude. i mean really, was he totally busted? at least you could have stayed a bit and talked to him. how would you feel if someone did that to you. listen, i am not saying you should have stayed but you could have handled it a little bit better


    I have no problems with the OP's actions. I would have done the same thing. Posting fake pictures is LYING. The guy LIED... it isn't about looks it a question of character and dont want anything to do with that.

    I asked my friend Sweet Brown if she would have stayed and she said,

    "Ain't nobody got no time for that!" and I agree.
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:42 PM GMT
    It happened to me a couple of times a few years ago, thats why from that moment I always tried to cam with the guy before meeting him in person. I remember meeting with this guy he also sent me fake pictures and once I saw him I wanted to walk out but I thought that would be rude...so I said hi, I talked to him for like 30 minutes, he tried to get close and I simply said "Sorry but I dont feel comfortable doing this", he respected that, I said "it was nice meeting you" and left. Such an awkward situation icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 14, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    i have walked out also. Fakes are Flakes...