Mentoring Important??

  • comical44

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    Jun 14, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Why do you think Mentoring is important, specifically teenagers?

    Ive been mentoring two 16yr old twin brothes since last year. Its been one of the most meaningful thing Ive done with my life I think.

    Its a lot of committment and work but I love my two little brothers and would do anything for them. Its very tricky because I started mentoring them when they were 15 yr olds so I didnt get that chance to go through the whole bonding with them since they were children and the fact they can be very jealous doesnt help much lol. But they both mean the world to me.

    Would you mentor a teen? What are some tips you can give me about this process(whether you mentor a teen or not)?

    Do you wish you had a mentor and if you do what is it you would want from a mentor?

    Im not meaning to sound cheesey but I love getting advice on this subject because I love doing it,I believe every kid could use a mentor and also this is a new thing in my life so I dont always know all the answersto everything.

    Please leave some feedback. Thankyou
  • comical44

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    Jun 14, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    Any response would be great. It doesnt have to be long and drawn out. Thank you
  • TheBizMan

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    Jun 14, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    Well you sound like a nice person, and this seems like it would be a healthy alternative to having your own children.
  • comical44

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    Jun 14, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    Its weird...im so heavily involved in their life...maybe sometimes more than their parents but I never thought of them as my kids.

    I feel like they are my family and im here to be there for them for their entire life. its so weird
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    Jun 14, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    I think mentoring is a great thing. I actually do it for my students at the university I work for. Most of my students come from lower socio-economic backgrounds and have encountered some difficult situations in their lives.

    Regardless of age, mentoring helps young men and women see how others have handled adversity and successes in their lives. I think it's very important to help shape young men and women as they step into the next stages of their lives.

    If it wasn't for my mentors, I'd still be in my hometown living with my family. I am very grateful for all the people that helped me along the way.
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    Jun 14, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    Mentoring is a great benefit for young teens who otherwise don't have a consistent mentor-figure in their life. Personally, I wish I had a mentor during my key developmental years.

    I think it also helps in the long-term as well. Thsoe who were mentored and benefited tend to have an easier time creating those types of relationships as a adult, both with other people as mentors and as mentors themselves.
  • Webster666

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    Jun 14, 2012 7:52 AM GMT
    I think that it's extremely important.
    Kids need to know that somebody cares about them.
    They need to have somebody push them in the right direction so that they're prepared to become successful and happy.
  • comical44

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    Jun 14, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    Thats what im trying to do is help them think about what they want to do with their lives when they get out of school.

    I try to encourage their talents and the two brothers I work with have low self esteem and arnt as confident a they should be. They have it all and sometimes they dont see that so im always trying to give them confidence and make them feel good about themselves. I mainly want them to know they can comto me for anything.

    Im not going to lie it can be difficultt times because they are teens lol...so yes we have gotten into a few arguments but hey...I look at it as this...brothers argue every now and then so then we move on.

    Any other advice or stories?

    Thanks
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    Jun 14, 2012 7:27 PM GMT
    I wouldn't want to mentor anyone myself. My best friend is kind of like my mentor though. He's gay and just turned 31 so he has some life experience I can learn from. I never directly ask him for advice because I always do what I want anyway, but I observe things about his life for sure. Kinda look up to him.
  • comical44

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    Jun 14, 2012 8:00 PM GMT
    Thats still nice you have someone to learn from even though hes not your mentor. Im sure he comes with great advice
  • comical44

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    Jun 15, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    Any other advice or stories for me??
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:39 AM GMT
    I aced every psychology class I ever took, and mentored several people (male and female and trans).

    Mentoring is overrated, because it's usually the mentors who need the most mentoring.

    *goes back to nut house where I belong*
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    It would be cool to have a mentor. Never had a male figure in my life.
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    FilmGuy18_notporn saidIt would be cool to have a mentor. Never had a male figure in my life.
    Wait till I get back to SoFla. We'll go to Shin Ju's and I'll mentor you on the excitement of $18 all-you-can-eat sushi buffets. icon_biggrin.gif
  • comical44

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    Jun 15, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    @Film Guy...yea I hear ya...I mean I had a couple males in my life but none that I actually had stuff in common with and wanted to open up to and learn from...I too wish I had a mentor through out my teen years and even my 20's
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    FilmGuy18_notporn saidIt would be cool to have a mentor. Never had a male figure in my life.
    Wait till I get back to SoFla. We'll go to Shin Ju's and I'll mentor you on the excitement of $18 all-you-can-eat sushi buffets. icon_biggrin.gif


    By the time you get back I'm going to be in Chicago in college ahhh bad timing! icon_neutral.gif
  • unicoman1

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    Jun 15, 2012 1:56 AM GMT
    I am a mentor at work,, very gratifying. The difference one can make in the life of an individual is so important especially in today's day and age.
  • comical44

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    Jun 15, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    Without sounding cheesey....It makes me so happy when I bring them to places they have never been or take them to things they have never seen and watching their faces and how they react/respond. Their are so many things they dont get the chance to see and experience and I love doing things with them that they will hopefully remember
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    FilmGuy18_notporn said
    paulflexes said
    FilmGuy18_notporn saidIt would be cool to have a mentor. Never had a male figure in my life.
    Wait till I get back to SoFla. We'll go to Shin Ju's and I'll mentor you on the excitement of $18 all-you-can-eat sushi buffets. icon_biggrin.gif


    By the time you get back I'm going to be in Chicago in college ahhh bad timing! icon_neutral.gif
    Google Shin Ju's and go there anyway (there's two of them on University - it's the southernmost one).
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    I have driven past the one in boca countless times but for some reason I never stopped by. I'm totally going to check it out sometime this week though since you advise me to go there! #mentoring101
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    FilmGuy18_notporn saidI have driven past the one in boca countless times but for some reason I never stopped by. I'm totally going to check it out sometime this week though since you advise me to go there! #mentoring101
    Never been to the one in Boca, but I'll give it a shot someday.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    Mentors want to be paid. They've re-named themselves LIFE COACHES.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    I would mentor a kid, but I need some reps and warranties. Probably restrictive covenants too.

    It would have to be someone that's really worth helping - a bright kid open to advice who suffers from a lack of guidance. Namely, someone like I was. I came from a poorer family when I was growing up, and have fantastic parents. That means I didn't need someone hovering to make sure I avoided drugs and wore pants that covered my butt.

    What I really needed was someone, particularly in college, to show me the ropes professionally. My dad, though I love him, suggested I knock on doors to get a job in investment banking. Not the way to go, turns out.

    I'm not going to be patient with some kid where I have to cajole him into not being blatantly dumb. Usually you can't control what kid you get, particularly when it's your kid. You might as well be playing roulette. Hence my slight paranoia about having children in the first place. I do not believe in unconditional love.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    abelian0 saidI would mentor a kid, but I need some reps and warranties. Probably restrictive covenants too.

    It would have to be someone that's really worth helping - a bright kid open to advice who suffers from a lack of guidance. Namely, someone like I was. I came from a poorer family when I was growing up, and have fantastic parents. That means I didn't need someone hovering to make sure I avoided drugs and wore pants that covered my butt.

    What I really needed was someone, particularly in college, to show me the ropes professionally. My dad, though I love him, suggested I knock on doors to get a job in investment banking. Not the way to go, turns out.

    I'm not going to be patient with some kid where I have to cajole him into not being blatantly dumb. Usually you can't control what kid you get, particularly when it's your kid. You might as well be playing roulette. Hence my slight paranoia about having children in the first place. I do not believe in unconditional love.
    I can sum your entire post up into four words: "You can't fix stupid."
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    The applications are open for mentoring me - I'm not dumb btw icon_wink.gif