Are you the type...?

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    Jul 29, 2008 8:51 PM GMT
    Are you the type who:

    1) would normally ask somebody out but get rejected?

    2) would normally be the one who gets asked out, but it's by someone you're not interested in?

    3) doesn't normally ask anyone out and doesn't get asked out?

    Whatever your choice, have you resigned to this pattern?

    = = = = = = =

    Me? I'm number 3. I haven't resigned to the pattern. I'm trying to work my way to number 2. icon_smile.gif

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    Jul 29, 2008 9:33 PM GMT
    Being very shy and uncomfortable around new people I always struggled with getting dates (not so much getting one-night stands that I did not want).

    #2 was usually the one I fell into, with #3 a close second. #1 happened twice.

    Several times I had socially aggressive and extraverted guys talk me into a date when I was only lukewarm about them physically. I figured one date would not hurt, maybe the guy had qualities I did not see. I always regretted the date.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 29, 2008 9:45 PM GMT
    #2 definitely icon_confused.gif

    I know people will say
    why's that a problem?
    But you try telling someone you don't wanna date no
    ... or Go on a date you don't wanna be on
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    Jul 29, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    God those are some depressing choices, worse than the TAT. How about options that aren't on the pessimistic side?

    For my answer I'd have to say that I'm a 3. I never go looking for someone, plus I've spent most of my adult life in a monogamous relationship so asking people out wasn't a consideration. Because of this I never get asked out/I never notice when I'm being hit upon.

    Right now I'm trying to move on to a 1 or a 2, but since I'm shy, I'll settle for a 2.
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    Jul 29, 2008 10:01 PM GMT
    *sigh*

    I'm usually #2. I don't know that I've ever asked anyone out, but it seems that whenever I say hi to someone I think is attractive or pay a compliment, all I ever get back is "thanks" with no inclement towards anything further.

    And It never fails, I always get asked out by guys who generally are not my type. Granted they say opposites attract and one of them could have been my future husband, but I have to at least be somewhat attracted.
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    Jul 29, 2008 10:09 PM GMT
    #3 for the moment. *sigh*
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    Jul 29, 2008 10:15 PM GMT
    carverhouse said

    2) would normally be the one who gets asked out, but it's by someone you're not interested in?




    This is me!!!
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    Jul 29, 2008 11:01 PM GMT
    I used to say I was shy, until I realized it was just an excuse to keep me from living my life.

    I used to believe that I fit in each of those categories serially, until I realized that I was clinging to an unrealistic notion that I could somehow control the situation above and beyond just being myself.

    I agree with Ghen. Those are some pretty depressing choices. Get the *bleep* out of all of them. Resigning means you've given up. Give yourself some other options!
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    Jul 29, 2008 11:09 PM GMT
    The first three are interesting choices, but there isn't one that would apply to me. I need a number 4 - which might be:

    4) Typically ask an attractive guy I meet out, and he normally accepts.

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    Jul 29, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    I used to ask guys out, and didn't get rejected too often.

    Now I'm no. 3, except that I'm not resigned or bitter.
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    Jul 29, 2008 11:29 PM GMT
    5) Talks to attractive men online whom live a gazillion miles away, dashing the hopes of having a relationship but in the end dooms himself to picking men who live too far away and unconsciously (or is it?) sabotages any attempt to find love and yet he doesn't trust many locals or for that matter those who are online because they could be liars and therefore becomes a lose-lose situation.

    But I like six better.

    6)...and they lived happily ever after.
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    Jul 29, 2008 11:31 PM GMT
    DanteCA saidhe doesn't trust many locals or for that matter those who are online because they could be liars and therefore becomes a loose-loose situation.


    Exactly how loose ARE you?

    Personally, I am too loose, Lautrec.
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    Jul 29, 2008 11:34 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    DanteCA saidhe doesn't trust many locals or for that matter those who are online because they could be liars and therefore becomes a loose-loose situation.


    Exactly how loose ARE you?

    Personally, I am too loose, Lautrec.


    ....ew....dante is NOT loose. At least, i hope not....heh heh!

    Hmm I am a numbah 2!! And thats my favorite number so in this case, it works out<33
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    Jul 29, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    DanteCA saidhe doesn't trust many locals or for that matter those who are online because they could be liars and therefore becomes a loose-loose situation.


    Exactly how loose ARE you?

    Personally, I am too loose, Lautrec.


    icon_biggrin.gif I LOVE YOU! I got that icon_wink.gif

    Oh, and to save face, I no loose. icon_twisted.gif
    loose-loose... LMAO
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    Jul 29, 2008 11:40 PM GMT
    Good God People -

    You get what you chase after.

    If you aren't out there looking , being sociable, and asking others out for a date; how/why do you expect others to suddenly have this omniscient telepathy that tells them you want to date them!

    If you want something out of life, you have to go out and grab it! icon_lol.gif

    I've seen to many people who just sit around like bumps on a log, scowling at everyone they see, and then later they tell me that they didn't meet anyone new, or no one stopped to give them the time of day...

    Well Duhhhhhh...

    Get out there, paste a smile on, and interact with people.

    Damn few new aquaintances will find you when you are home on your couch watching Oprah reruns all the time.

    R
  • irishboxers

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    Jul 29, 2008 11:44 PM GMT
    MuscleBudSea said*sigh*

    I'm usually #2. I don't know that I've ever asked anyone out, but it seems that whenever I say hi to someone I think is attractive or pay a compliment, all I ever get back is "thanks" with no inclement towards anything further.

    And It never fails, I always get asked out by guys who generally are not my type. Granted they say opposites attract and one of them could have been my future husband, but I have to at least be somewhat attracted.


    Almost exactly what I was going to say. It's a "thanks" from the guys I'm interested in and all kinds of invitations and interest from those I'm not. I'm totally open to an opposite attraction, but it hasn't happened yet.
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    Jul 30, 2008 1:24 AM GMT
    Because I've chosen to be single indefinitely, my interest in any guy I meet, regardless of how hot he is or how sweet he seems to be, does not extend beyond friendship. So, in a sense, I'm not that interested in any guy who asks me out. I'm usually asked out (though I have no qualms with asking a guy out), so I guess I belong to the # 2 category. Sort of. . . .
  • spinningguy

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    Jul 30, 2008 1:30 AM GMT
    I am a sad combination of 1 and 2 lol (thanks I just died a little inside from this realization) where is a lolcat when I need one?
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jul 30, 2008 1:32 AM GMT
    Sedative said#3 for the moment. *sigh*



    HEY Sedative, the only thing stopping me from asking you out is the distance!
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    Jul 30, 2008 1:48 AM GMT
    #3
  • helium

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    Jul 30, 2008 3:34 AM GMT
    I would say more #3 since I want to finish school before I find someone to be serious with. Although you never know what can happen.
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    Jul 30, 2008 3:35 AM GMT
    2
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    Jul 30, 2008 3:41 AM GMT
    number 2 usually. a little of number 3.
    what can i say? i'm just shy icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 30, 2008 5:05 AM GMT
    Definitely a number 3 for the last several years.

    I just got tired of making the effort, and opening myself up to such harsh judgement, from others.

    Once I resigned to the idea, I discovered how wonderful it is to embrace singlehood. I'm great company and usually don't bore myself.
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    Jul 30, 2008 2:49 PM GMT
    TallGWMvballer said
    Sedative said#3 for the moment. *sigh*



    HEY Sedative, the only thing stopping me from asking you out is the distance!
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    LOL. Honestly, distance is the only thing keeping me at 3 too and same reasons as SoccerGuy82 nee PhxAriz! icon_wink.gif