Sexual dissatisfaction question

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    Jun 15, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    If suddenly you seem to be dissatisfied sexually with your long term boyfriend over time. Would you:

    A) Cheat on your bf without telling him to satisfy yourself
    B) Talk it over with your bf and find a solution together
    C) Talk it over with your bf and hope for a breakup
    D) Not talk about it and let it pass over time

    Trying to see what the poll would end up like.
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    Jun 15, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    B)
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 15, 2012 11:45 AM GMT
    B.
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    Jun 15, 2012 11:47 AM GMT
    B.

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    Jun 15, 2012 11:48 AM GMT
    B. communication is always the answer...

    "Honesty with Kindness"
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:21 PM GMT
    Amgad1988 saidB.

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    ^ that
  • rogerfederer

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    Jun 15, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    what if u really find sex with him not all that great to begin with bc u arent totally compatiable, but u end up really really liking him and want to date....do u even continue and start dating or know that in the future the sexual aspect will lead to the relationships demise?
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    B.. ALWAYS B... always talk about it...

    And if you want a break-up... it would be E) tell your bf and tell him you want a break-up

    The truth can hurt, but is better than letting him think you are happy when he wants someone who is REALLY happy with him
  • Latenight30

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    Jun 15, 2012 1:32 PM GMT
    A is the easy answer. You get your selfish needs met.
    B is the hardest answer. It's difficult to admit problems. Don't let it go to long because it won't fix it.
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
    Latenight30 saidA is the easy answer. You get your selfish needs met.
    B is the hardest answer. It's difficult to admit problems. Don't let it go to long because it won't fix it.
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    Jun 15, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
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  • Karl

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    Jun 15, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    E.learned from an Open Relationship , find another guy and play together tumblr_m5nn43fsLj1rxkaweo1_100.gif

    if I must choose from these answers , I'll pick B
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    It is common sense to choose B but what if you tried B and he doesn't want to talk about it or work to finding a solution?
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    IAmDestr0n saidIt is common sense to choose B but what if you tried B and he doesn't want to talk about it or work to finding a solution?


    Well if both partners arent happy... partners must part ways! thats why there is "part" in partners lol
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    B is the obvious answer.
  • allatonce

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    Jun 15, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    CrankyMcBadass saidE) Rape him whenever I'm in the mood. He owes me sex.


    LOL
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    Steduo saidIf suddenly you seem to be dissatisfied sexually with your long term boyfriend over time. Would you:

    A) Cheat on your bf without telling him to satisfy yourself
    B) Talk it over with your bf and find a solution together
    C) Talk it over with your bf and hope for a breakup
    D) Not talk about it and let it pass over time

    Trying to see what the poll would end up like.


    I've had 2 long term BFs. I've done B, C, & D. D's bad.

    Edit: I'd like to think I'd always choose B.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    None of the above. B Sounds good but it does not work. When the magic is gone talking does help.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidNone of the above. B Sounds good but it does not work. When the magic is gone talking does help.

    Did you mean, "When the magic is gone talking does not help" ?


    My own answer would be "B" because I think communication is key. If however, there was just a malaise and we really didn't care for each other very deeply, (sexually or otherwise) then I think a nice clean break is in order. I've been there more times than I should admit.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 said
    Alpha13 saidNone of the above. B Sounds good but it does not work. When the magic is gone talking does help.


    Did you mean, "When the magic is gone talking does not help" ?


    Blecch anyway. Seriously, B. When you've been together with someone for a while it will NEVER be like that first flush of newness, but I am amazed that I can still sometimes find new ways to enjoy my 25 year BF, and to satisfy myself within the bounds of our relationship, somewhat open as it is.

    If you want to be together with someone in an LTR, the answer is ALWAYS talk about it, find a way to work it out, and don't break up.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    B. Am not sure why there is confusion around it.
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    Jun 15, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    If you can't do B, it's time for both of you to move on.
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    Jun 15, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    B. Though by way of full disclosure, earlier on in the relationship, both my husband and I (at different times) totally did A.
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    Jun 15, 2012 4:43 PM GMT
    B
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    Jun 15, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    Ah the differences in what people would do vs what people actually do.