Okay, I will give my culturally honest answer to your question here dude. Based on what I know of Euro American culture, I would advise all white gay guys to push the issue with their fathers and be aggressive about it proclaiming their gayness identity. But, with African American guys I would advise not to do this with your fathers. Our cultures are different on this point. If your father doesn't mention or talk about your gayness to you even though you have told him you were gay, I would leave it alone. His attempts to continue to treat you as just his son, not his gay son, is actually a great compliment to the fact that he has accepted you for who you say you are. Now I know that you will probably ignore what I am saying and accept the great wisdom and authority from people who are not African American about your culture that will be posted here (because everyone in the world is an expert on African American culture except African Americans themselves, lol) regarding how to deal with your African American father, but I was just trying to actually give you wise advise coming from my African American cultural experience which could be quite different from yours actually, I think? But I'm not really that intelligent a guy and my opinions are often based in ignorance. So if you ignore it, I totally understand dude. I mean, I grew up around white surfer dudes all of my life so I'm probably not the best authority on African American culture. lol.