Saad22 saidOkay, Okay I won't do it... stop yelling at me eveyone !!
No but seriously thanks. I'm not stupid , I'm aware of the risks. I'm just confused about how stuff like that gets decided.
Whew! Thank you. We're yelling because you matter.
As for your latest question, the answer is different couple to couple.
In our case, we'd made a very firm commitment to monogamy, completely opened our lives up to each other, went to the Doc together, gave him written permission to discuss each other without us both being there, and got all the STD tests done, then all again three months later, then after that just the HIV test 6 months later. THEN (and by then we'd been together for over a year) and after a lot of soul searching with each other, we took the plunge.