What's the age by which gay men should have a monogamous partner?

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    Jun 20, 2012 8:57 PM GMT
    Should we be settled down by 35 like straights?
  • mikeylikes

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    Jun 20, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    is 35 when straights settle down?

    women's clock is at around 30 (less fertile, less attractive), but i'm not too sure about straight men. for me personally i'd like to be with someone by 30 or so, give or take a few
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    Jun 20, 2012 11:27 PM GMT
    When he and THE right guy find each other. Not before.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 20, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    when and if they want one
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    Jun 20, 2012 11:58 PM GMT

    I think it depends on a lot of things, but 1st you should get out and enjoy single life. Most relationships fail because 1 party hasn't been out enough to be sure what he wants. I can't see it working before the age of 28, but I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule.

    Personally I don't think I believe in monogamy anymore, at least for myself. Maybe I will feel different later in life. But most of the LTR's I have known that have lasted beyond 3 years have morphed into opened relationships which imo are no longer monogamous.

    I don't slam people who try, I think it's great. I wish them every success.


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    Jun 21, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    Ummmm say whaaat?!?! Whenever you find someone you want to be your monogamous partner.
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    Jun 21, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    This question is stupid.
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    Jun 21, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    swimguychicago saidShould we be settled down by 35 like straights?



    Wherever did you get that idea? icon_eek.gif People meet and fall for each other right into their eighties, and probably 90s. icon_wink.gif And most them I've met are straight.


    A favourite author of mine once wrote, love is never old or ugly or tired.
  • emsomeo

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    Jun 21, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    I'm 21 and i'm married
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    Whenever they want to. Some thing in life you can plan and account for and work towards achieving. Some things just have to happen when you're ready for it. Lets not all be like Cathy who is stressing out over finding a man. That would be a terrible life to lead.
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    ..............


    absolutely fucking stupid question
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:37 PM GMT
    The fat ones should.
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    Gym_bull saidThe fat ones should.


    and a fittingly absolutely fucking stupid response
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    Timbales saidwhen and if they want one


    This!
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    swimguy... you've got way too much time on your hands if these kinds of questions come to mind
    un.realllllll
  • wellwell

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    Jun 21, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
    15 & up
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 21, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    dumb question- before retirement is the only answer I'll give ya.
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    faerf.gif

    Come on, man. You've been here long enough to know that this kind of thread is just forum clutter.
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    catch saidfaerf.gif

    Come on, man. You've been here long enough to know that this kind of thread is just forum clutter.


    he's the king of asking these random, stupid questions
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    Jun 21, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Yes.
  • JJ_Atoli

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    Jun 21, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    I don't know about any one else but I hope to have locked in a life partner by 35 at the latest. As we all know it's a young person's game - dating and I don't want to wait too long and be the only one that didn't get picked for the three legged race on the account that there are younger, more attractive (better) players available.
    Seen a dating site lately. Every old guy is looking for a young guy and every young guy has a message damning anyone 5 years older than themselves. lol

    P.S. I hated track and field day. I never got picked for anything. I always ended up being partnered with the other kid that didn't get picked. : (

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    Jun 21, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    That's NumberWang!



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    Jun 21, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    Obviously the OP is trolling, but I think its less a question of when but how. Everyone is so determined to find the one that once they have him they don't spend any time thinking about how to keep him. Like a relationship just maintains itself.

    Straight people have kids and society and marriage holding them together and even then half of them split. If gays want to make it work we have to work that much harder especially since imo, and I'll probably get flamed for this, the collective gay community is toxic for relationships.
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    Jun 21, 2012 6:04 PM GMT
    JJ_Atoli saidI don't know about any one else but I hope to have locked in a life partner by 35 at the latest. As we all know it's a young person's game - dating and I don't want to wait too long and be the only one that didn't get picked for the three legged race on the account that there are younger, more attractive (better) players available.
    Seen a dating site lately. Every old guy is looking for a young guy and every young guy has a message damning anyone 5 years older than themselves. lol

    P.S. I hated track and field day. I never got picked for anything. I always ended up being partnered with the other kid that didn't get picked. : (



    Not this old guy. I'm 36, which makes me old in gay years LOL. But I can assure you that most guys under 30 don't have a fighting chance with me. I'm not interested in dating children--especially the children who think they're too pretty to actually offer substance to the world.
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    Jun 21, 2012 6:04 PM GMT
    uoft23 saidObviously the OP is trolling, but I think its less a question of when but how. Everyone is so determined to find the one that once they have him they don't spend any time thinking about how to keep him. Like a relationship just maintains itself.

    Straight people have kids and society and marriage holding them together and even then half of them split. If gays want to make it work we have to work that much harder especially since imo, and I'll probably get flamed for this, the collective gay community is toxic for relationships.


    Clubbing, skimpy outfits, and party drugs....toxic for relationships? Shocking.