So how should I approach this..?

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    Jul 30, 2008 10:15 PM GMT
    There is a pretty hot guy who lives a few blocks from me. My buddy just moved out of the same building and one day a few weeks ago I was picking him up and I asked about the guy sitting on one of the apartment balconies. My bud told me his name and also added 'and he's gay' in a derogatory tone (I am not out to him but that's a whole other issue, please do not comment on that, lol). So I know he’s gay and whether we could be a match or not, I wanna get to know him. He plays tennis too, which I also enjoy.

    Anyway, my bud moved out so I have no reason to go to the apt. building so how do I meet him? Throw a rock with a note on his porch with my handle on Real Jock? lol So I thought about it, lol, but really, how?
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    Jul 30, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    Walk by every afternoon at the same time with a tennis racket in one hand and a leather harness in the other.

    But seriously...I'm afraid there's really no way to approach him, and no reason to be in the building now, without seeming stalkerish.
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    Jul 30, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    Send him a letter or slip a note under his door. Fess up and be honest. Let him know that you have seen him out on his balcony, think he is really cute, and by discreet inquiry, know that it is not totally out of the realm of possibly that he might be interested in meeting up for a cup of coffee or a drink. Suggest a nearby appropriate place. Give him an email addy to respond to, if you dont want to give out your phone number (I wouldnt). Including your RJ profile link is not a bad idea. Being able to see you would make it a lot less creepy...esp. since you are so cute...well, maybe not that pic showing your "O" mouth ... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 31, 2008 12:47 AM GMT
    Come back and knock on his door pretending to be looking for your buddy who you didn't know moved out, because you want a tennis match. And then ask him 'Do you play tennis' and then love and romance...

    Of course it has to rely a lot on luck. LOL. I say go with Caslon's suggestion.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 31, 2008 2:30 AM GMT
    Unless you have some sort of friend between you two
    The sedative's suggestion is the only one I see working for you

    But when you knock on that door
    You need to have a tennis racket in you hand icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 31, 2008 2:36 AM GMT
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    Jul 31, 2008 4:53 AM GMT
    Hang out by some place where you can see the building entrance. When he leaves the building, tackle him, tie him up, throw a hood over his face and trundle him into a waiting car. Take him home. Shackle him to your basement wall. Have your way with him.

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    Jul 31, 2008 4:59 AM GMT
    Tell him your buddy that lived in the same building mentioned that you played tennis and you need a new tennis partner, are you interested in playing, tennis that is. Simple, you had public information from a mutual friend or contact, so sounds legit. He may not know that you know he is gay, but that is ok. That would be the straight way to do it. LOL.
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    Jul 31, 2008 5:05 AM GMT
    Hey jp,

    THAT'LL leave a lasting impression. heheh

    zdrew had a workable suggestion, though I don't know about the leather harness.

    If you play tennis, do it. If not, just re-route your walks so you pass the building. Look up at the balcony. You do want him to get the idea you could just might possibly be maybe sorta interested. Law of averages, you'll be bound to cross paths. Smile. Leave the hood and restraints at home.
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    Jul 31, 2008 5:05 AM GMT
    you're gay.. don't throw a rock.. it should be a baked good. whole wheat and low cal if possible.
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    Jul 31, 2008 5:12 AM GMT
    WITH A DESIGNER MUFFIN TIN, RIGHT
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    Jul 31, 2008 5:15 AM GMT
    jprichva saidHang out by some place where you can see the building entrance. When he leaves the building, tackle him, tie him up, throw a hood over his face and trundle him into a waiting car. Take him home. Shackle him to your basement wall. Have your way with him.



    Sounds like that comes from someone with firsthand experience in the technique. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 31, 2008 5:16 AM GMT
    You just walk casually up to him and scream STICK IT IN!!!
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    Jul 31, 2008 5:37 AM GMT
    SInce you know he's gay, I'd say it'd be best to try a more direct approach. I think guys like that...as long as you don't come one too strong.icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 31, 2008 5:56 AM GMT
    Hmm this is a toughie but not impossible....you can be brutally honest, whats the harm? Id say just do it in person and get it over with, notes are a little creepy and he can see you in person (if he likes you he will say yes).

    "My buddy lived here (dont say when-if its been too long you look like a stalker) and when I saw you outside your balcony I thought you were cute. Hes my old tennis partner and he moved far away (Antartica for all you care-if he asks just stay on target). Do you want to play tennis with me sometime, I have extra rackets. If not we can grab coffee and chat. Here's my cell number call me."

    Thats it, not overplayed and direct, most guys like directness. I hate games and if he doesnt want to date maybe he can be a friend....just a thought. We dont always get what we want but we can do all in our power to try to get what we want.icon_razz.gif



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    Jul 31, 2008 6:14 AM GMT
    Desperate Housewives?
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    Jul 31, 2008 6:42 AM GMT
    Chuy2010 saidI have extra rackets.


    I think Chuy's approach was great, but I'd leave out the phrase "I have extra rackets" which I don't think has actually been uttered aloud yet by any human on this planet. ;)

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    Jul 31, 2008 7:54 AM GMT
    Hmmm....bake muffins, put them in a wicker basket.

    Go to his room, knock and when he answers act all happy like you thought it was someone else.

    And then be like "OMG, i am so sorry, i must have the wrong room."

    Then make up some name and say, "Do you know where _______ _______ lives??"


    And when he says "no" cuz he WONT know, say "Oh, well thanx anyways, Ill have to call her up. IM SORRY, I didnt catch your name...."

    And then introduce, introduce then ask, "Do you play tennis, cuz I've seen you before with a racket."

    When he answers you invite him to play sometime and blah blah....tell him you have to go find your "friend" and pretend to call your make-believe buddy on the phone and WAH-LAH!! You got yourself SEX!!

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    Ok so its a little crazy, so sue me!
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    Jul 31, 2008 11:38 AM GMT
    Great feedback guys, I'll keep you posted, and thanks for the song Xrugger! No notes, no rocks just mild friendly stalking. Got it, lol. And possibly some very healthy baked goods icon_razz.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 31, 2008 11:51 AM GMT
    I think Sedative had a good approach, drive by looking for your friend, dressed like you wanted to play tennis and talk to him when he's on the balcony.

    The honest approach makes sense as well. I don't think you should spend your time (and your mental state) doing things that might get his attention and isn't a positive use of your time. You'll be frustrated....and it isn't very healthy.

    Maybe he has already noticed you there.....
    if not he should, right?
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    Jul 31, 2008 12:19 PM GMT
    jprichva saidHang out by some place where you can see the building entrance. When he leaves the building, tackle him, tie him up, throw a hood over his face and trundle him into a waiting car. Take him home. Shackle him to your basement wall. Have your way with him.



    Umm...that happened here in real-life not to long ago icon_eek.gif


    http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=5389015&page=1
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    Jul 31, 2008 12:22 PM GMT
    Ouch In2, that's no joke. Fortunately, I think jprichva was just offering the suggestion in jest.
  • joggerva

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    Jul 31, 2008 12:54 PM GMT
    RBY71 saidYou just walk casually up to him and scream STICK IT IN!!!


    ROFL, Cho at her finest. I like the direct approach. Actually, I think Royce's suggestion is the best - it's 100% true and natural sounding, so you won't feel like you're acting.
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    Jul 31, 2008 1:15 PM GMT
    If you know his routines, perhaps you could "accidentally" be walking in the neighbourhood when he is out walking then try and make eye contact? If you live nearby chances are you will cross paths sometime, just don't pass up that opportunity when it comes.
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    Jul 31, 2008 1:51 PM GMT
    original714 saidGreat feedback guys, I'll keep you posted, and thanks for the song Xrugger! No notes, no rocks just mild friendly stalking. Got it, lol. And possibly some very healthy baked goods icon_razz.gif


    No leather harness?! *sigh* icon_cry.gif